“If you want someone permanent, don’t push that someone away. I know how hard it is to have this desire for closeness for a certain someone while having this urge to push that someone away. I’m still learning how to feel deserving of love despite how much pain it has caused me in the past. I’m still learning how to overcome my past traumas because I still have this fear of eventually being rejected, hurt and having all my emotional investments towards this certain someone tossed out the window. I’m still learning how to communicate my abandonment issues without feeling like the powerless person in the relationship. I’m still learning how not to let my emotional issues get in the way of me having the love that I want to deserve because as for now I think she’s too good, too perfect for me. I’m still learning, and maybe that’s all we can do for now as long as we don’t push that certain someone we love away. And maybe we aren’t good enough, and maybe we are, and maybe there are no maybes when it comes to love. I don’t know what’s certain anymore with relationships nowadays, but I’m sure of one thing: that not every person who is willing to love you is out there to destroy you. And you and me and everyone who feels this way must learn that it’s okay to fall in love with someone who lights up the entire sky and try not to think of that someone as someone who’s temporary and just don’t push that someone away even if it’s hard not to. Because what the world needs less are people who feel like they’re entirely to be blamed for their loneliness. So if you want someone permanent, don’t push that someone away. You deserve love.”
— Juansen Dizon, To Those It May Concern
“Waking up with your heart broken from the night before is probably the worse feeling I have ever experienced.”
-I dont wanna go on.
this is for all of you feeling guilt or regret
every single person has said and done things they regret or feel guilty about
and we think about it a lot and beat ourselves up over it
but what does that accomplish?
we can’t just pull a time machine out of our ass and go back in time and change the past
what’s said is said and what’s done is done
the fact that you are feeling guilty about it shows that you are a truly good person that knows right from wrong
there is nothing you can do to change the past, so you just have to move on
everybody makes mistakes, and then we learn from them
that’s just how life goes
live in the present. because that’s all you can do for the time being
now stop feeling regret and guilt, and go live your life
you’re doing amazing, and you are doing the best you can. stop being so hard on yourself all the time
we’re all just human after all.
95% of my personality is worrying I do everything wrong and that I will inevitably be abandoned because my traumatised ass is too much and simultaneously not enough
“Now I know I’ve got a heart because it is breaking.”
—
L. Frank Baum
“And what if I’m on his mind as much as he is in mine.”
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Abusive parents don’t ALWAYS seem abusive. Sometimes they can be sweet.
You need to remember that just because they were sweet once they aren’t good people.
They still hurt you. They still did awful things, said awful things.
Your abuse is no less valid because your abuser can seem nice from time to time.
“I want laughter at 4am and sloppy kisses between dinner dates and hands fumbling underneath the blanket because god knows there is never a minute i can go without touching you and i want silly jokes and awkward handshakes and quiet “i love you’s” over the phone and dancing a lot of dancing i want to dance with you in an aisle at the supermarket as we both try to come up with which taco shells are betterand i want to dance with you on the night we both say i do i want to hold your hand in front of my friends and kiss your cheek when my mother asks me why i am so god damn happy all the time and i want you now,and for as long as forever with you can take me.”
— A.M// i want you always,
Abuse isn’t always bloody noses and hungry babies.
Constant yelling/belittling/humiliating your child is abuse.
Making fun of your child’s interests/clothes/looks/insecurities is abuse.
Threatening your child to hurt them if they disobeyed you is abuse.
Calling your child names is abuse.
Making your child feel unsafe is abuse.
Making your child feel guilty for being different is abuse.
This stereotypical image is what makes a lot of abuse survivors doubt their abuse.
Emotional abuse is valid and it’s NOT less important than physical abuse.
abandonment issues are fucking painful. i hate that the dumbest shit makes me feel like a small, helpless, confused and abandoned kid. it makes me feel like i’m all alone in this universe. it just fucking sucks.
Everything seems to be so hard. A blog about feelings, poetry, mental health and past trauma experiences and about living with it.
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