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I want this.

I want us.

I want you.

Forever.

“WHEN YOU’RE FALLING OUT OF LOVE: 1. his smile used to drip honey but now it is all chipped iceberg teeth in a sea of red. 2. the butterflies try their best to escape but they just drop dead in the pit of your stomach every time he touches your hand. 3. you’ll find yourself forcing laughter through a closed mouth. 4. you’ll find a new home on the shoulder of the boy who sits next to you in class. you’ll spend the hours studying the softness of his hands instead, imagining how they might feel in your hair. 5. he is no longer what you search for in the spaces between the masses of people around. you just keep walking as tall as you possibly can. 6. you see his laid back nature as laziness and his jokes as misogynistic and you can’t believe you’ve been living with rose-tinted glasses this whole time. 7. catching his eye feels all types of guilty because you can’t love him the way he wants you to anymore. 8. your cheeks will flush with poppies when the boy that sits next to you in class whispers your name. you’ll feel hurricanes ripping through your insides, blowing away all the dust that settled on your heart. 9. all the sheets of paper you filled with poetry about him you’ll want to burn because it doesn’t make sense anymore; it doesn’t feel real anymore. 10. you always said forever but sometimes forever can seem so short that before you know it, you’ve already forgotten what his name feels like when you hold it on your tongue.”

— THIS IS THE LAST ONE ABOUT YOU

Society should stop having that stereotypical image of abuse

Abuse isn’t always bloody noses and hungry babies.

Constant yelling/belittling/humiliating your child is abuse.

Making fun of your child’s interests/clothes/looks/insecurities is abuse.

Threatening your child to hurt them if they disobeyed you is abuse.

Calling your child names is abuse.

Making your child feel unsafe is abuse.

Making your child feel guilty for being different is abuse.

This stereotypical image is what makes a lot of abuse survivors doubt their abuse.

Emotional abuse is valid and it’s NOT less important than physical abuse.

STOP! TELLING! PEOPLE! THAT! NO! ONE! WILL! LOVE! THEM! UNTIL! THEY! LOVE! THEMSELVES! STOP! PLANTING! THE! IDEA! IN! PEOPLES! BRAINS! THAT! THEY! ARE! UNWORTHY! OF! LOVE! BECAUSE! OF! THEIR! OWN! STRUGGLE!

We were young when we fell in love, I didn’t know how to love you the way you should of been, I was a storm and it destroyed you in the process, and I’m very sorry that I did. The years went by and you’re still on my mind, me that used to be a storm subsided, and I wish now I could give you the love you deserve.

“That blissful moment when she is wrapped around me and nothing else matters in the world. She’s the most important person in my life. And I wonder all the time how I got so lucky to have her. When she looks at me, my heart spirals out of control and all I want to do is make her smile. I want to hear her laugh, because knowing that I cause both of those really make me happy.

When her lips touch mine, a jolt of electricity shoots throughout my body and the feeling is nothing I have ever felt before. The love I have for her continues to increase every day. I am free falling and I know she will always be there to catch me. She’s a new love. A new happiness brought into my life. Something I can’t see myself living without. And I want to make her feel loved and happy for a really long time.

She’s the girl I have always wanted. And the one I will be there for, through thick and thin, always. Her heart is safe in my hands, I don’t have any intentions of dropping it. So when she looks at me in those small moments we have together, I think of all of the reasons on how we got to this point. She’s the only one that has ever made me feel like I am something in this world. And I’m so in love with her. I can’t wait to make more beautiful memories with her. After all, she is the love of my life.”

— S.V

A lesson on dissociation/dissassociation:

Dissociation can be difficult to understand, especially if you haven’t had much experience in knowledge of it. Dissociation in basics represents a disconnect among one’s thoughts, emotions, behaviors, memories, and identity. Below is a list of classic signs that you are dissociating.

Depersonalization: Depersonalization is the experience of feeling separation from yourself and your body. People who experience such a feeling usually observe that they feel like they are watching their own body from the outside, or from another perspective.

Derealization: Derealization is vaguely similar to depersonalization, but it is a feeling of detachment from the external world, such as other people or objects. Derealization may cause familiar things to become unfamiliar.

Amnesia: Some people who experience dissociation have fluent periods of amnesia, of which they are feeling as if they don’t know who or where they are. There can be any amount of time in which they are awake and alert but cannot remember what they were doing.

Identity Confusion: Probably the most common experience, this occurs when a sufferer experiences an inner struggle about who they really are, their identity, what their personality is, why they are alive etc.

Identity Alteration: This is an experience of a person who senses that they act like a different person some of the time, creating a personality tailored to take place around each specific person in one’s life. Things like voices, clothing and interests differ amongst each loved one.

A common occurance of dissociation in everyday life is zoning out. You might be walking along the street, listening to music and you become so unfocused on reality and so focused on a thought or image that you miss a section of conscious walking. And to your surprise, you’re still upright and walking.

All of this is very common in bpd, and it can be quite frightening if it’s never happened to you before. The first step is accepting that you do dissociate. We have experienced a series of traumatic events and our minds try to block it out in an attempt of protection. You will have to accept that in a stressful environment, memories of the trauma will try to come back, but it is only a natural way of your brain reminding you of the danger and as a result we dissociate to stay safe. Many will not have the ability to face those traumas right then, however that does not mean you never will. But, a dissociative episode can be dangerous depending on where you are, so it’s definitley best to try your hardest to refocus and rettach if you can. Stay safe out there.

“Friends can break your heart too.”

— deepvsadness

They’re not your family.

If they abuse you they’re not your family.

If they neglect your needs they’re not your family.

If they make you feel worthless they’re not your family.

If they hit you they’re not your family.

If they don’t show you love, care and affection they’re not your family.

If they hurt you in anyway they’re not your family.

Don’t let anyone tell you “but they’re your family!”

You have the right to be angry and cut them off, to hate them and to never forgive them. You have the right to fight them. You have the right to defend yourself.

You aren’t obligated to love someone you never chose to be a part of your life.

reminder that many abuse victims get triggered by anger, whether it’s directed at them or not. please be mindful of your actions