I Just Remembered A Time In Seventh Grade Right After I Cut My Hair Short When Some Random Transphobic

Me: Oh my god I love being in theatre I love going to rehearsals and being in the cast community.

My non-theatre kid friend: Are you sure? You just complained for a solid 8 minutes about how you are dreading doing this show, hate that you have rehearsal tonight, and can't stand all the cast drama.

Me: It's tech week.

lock the fuck in?? no way dude. I am TUCKED the fuck in :) good night

He’s going to be *on screen*!!

Happy season three renewal, everybody 😂

Maybe we should all draw this weird little gremlin to celebrate 😉

Manifesting that somebody Does It before the end of the year

I had no idea how much I was relying on the Aleve I've been taking with my morning meds recently until I forgot to take my pills this morning. Anyways my legs are on fire right now.

Solangelo is two sides of the same coin.

NOT ABSOLUTEY NOT GOLDEN RETRIEVER x BLACK CAT. NO.

NOT SUNSHINE x GRUMPY EITHER YEAH THATS RIGHT I SEE YOU.

NO!

YOUR ALL WRONG. THEYRE TWO SIDES OF THE SAME COIN.

I will explain my point,

Nico lost Bianca, the sister he loved dearly when he was young. he got to express that grief and anger.

Will lost all his older siblings (Lee, Micheal, etc) when he was young. he never got to express that grief and anger.

Nico is an extrovert forced to be an introvert because of his trauma

Will is an introvert forced to be an extrovert because of his trauma

Nico is "darkness", but he has "light"

Will is "light" but he has "darkness"

And the coin symbolism in TSATS. One side with Wills Sun tattoo, the other with Hades's helm of darkness.

The sun and the star

Will being the sun, he's warm and can heal but it can also burn and hurt

Nico being the star, He shines in the darkness. "to be a star you must burn"

Do you see what i mean? They're only opposites attract in aesthetics.

there are probably posts explaining in more detail of this, I just wanted to share this,

I think I might soon be kicked out by another therapist for being treatment resistant. I'm just really forgetful and can't make choices... Also the curse of wanting to feel better but not wanting to change anything because change is scary.

Confessions from an emotional abuse victim:

#2 Tough Love

Recently, I've been finding myself thinking about the concept of 'tough love'. That is one of the terms I used to describe the abuse and manipulation before I fully accepted that I had been abused. But the thing is, what he did was not love.

Love is not being judgemental. Love is not being brutally 'honest' about someone else's flaws because they should fix them.

Love is making sure someone is cared for even if they don't ask for it or are a bit apprehensive. Love is when my friend noticed I was acting a bit different and asked me when I last drank something. After I told her I didn't know, she told me I should drink something. I refused and said I was fine, but she still went and bought me a bottle of water and made me drink it in front of her.

I feel like the term 'tough love' isn't really a term that should be used in the first place though. Even though there are situations like that, where it seemingly fits the term and is actually okay, it's still a slippery slope into justifying abuse.

If people would point out that my abuser was being really harsh to me, I could say it was just because he cared. It was because he wanted me to improve as a person so I could do better. His punches and kicks and yelling and degrading were just his way of saying he cares. It's 'tough love'. This term helped catch me, and I'm sure many others as well, into the cycle of justifying the actions of my abuser. It let me believe it was my fault for feeling hurt from what he did.

I think it might be time to retire this concept. Yes, sometimes you need to be a little pushy to make sure someone you love is cared for, but even then, you still should be kind. Honestly, that doesn't need its own term. It's just being caring. We don't need any more ways for victims caught in the throes of abuse to try to justify it.

a birthday gift from a certain god…

hi the real ones know i absolutely HATED the 2024 version so heres a redraw of this post! (please for my own sanity give this more notes than that one at some point PLEASE)