Hey, you are not an embarrassment for not knowing how to do certain household chores/basic self-care. They do not come naturally to us. A lot of it takes practice! Maybe you had a neglectful guardian. Maybe you had one that was very coddling and never thought to teach you. Maybe you haven't lived in a place where these things were available to you or needed. Doesn't matter. It's okay to not know and far more common than you might realise.
That said, this website provides very simple instructions on how to do everyday tasks such as making your bed, using a washing machine, cooking different foods, washing dishes, taking a shower, etc. All you have to do is use the search bar to find the task you're struggling with, and it'll come up with what you need + other related how-to's:)
If you're having trouble navigating it, let me provide you with some examples:
How to clean dishes by hand
How to make your bed (with visual demonstrations of each step!)
How to fold clothes (with visual demonstrations of each step!)
How to take a shower & dry yourself off (also provides ways to shave beards, armpits, legs and genitals)
How to shave legs, armpits, beards, pubic areas, etc. (a more in-depth guide)
How to mop the floor
How to sweep the floor
How to swallow pills
How to make small talk
How to make eye contact in different situations (or how to avoid it while still looking natural)
It's also perfectly okay if these don't help or aren't appealing to you. Unfortunately, nothing helps everyone.
It is our duty as feminists to protect and respect women in Hijabs
i wish it was easier for me to ask for support and reassurance when i need it but every time i try it feels like a jeb bush "please clap" moment. like hahaha i know i haven't done anything praiseworthy but would you consider praising me anyway?? this whole "staying alive" shit's harder than it looks
may all i have lost return to me; even in another form, even as something else; so long as this emptiness is filled, i will be satisfied; i want to become a person who wants for nothing; i pray for the day these aching gaps will finally be filled in.
the haunting is a bad dream
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Please take a few seconds out of your scrolling to read this Dua for Palestine.
اللهُمَّ أَصْلِحْ أَحْوَالَ المُسْلِمِِينَ فِي فِلِسطِينَ، اللهُمَّ أَصْلِحْ أَحْوَالَ
المُسْلِمِِينَ فِي فِلِسطِينَ وفي كُلِّ مَكَانٍ، يَا ذَا الجَلالِ وَالإِكْرِامِ.
Allahumma aslih ahwaalal-muslimeena fi filisteen, Allahumma aslih ahwaalal-muslimeena fi filisteena wa fi kulli makaanin ya dhul-jalali wal-ikraam.
O Allah! Rectify the affairs of the Muslims in Palestine. O Allah! Rectify the affairs of the Muslims in Palestine and in every place, O Lord of Majesty and Bounty.
اللهُمَّ إِنَّهُمْ مَغْلُوبُونَ فَانْتَصِرْ لَهُمْ.
Allahumma innahum maghloobuna fantasir lahum.
O Allah! They are helpless, so help them.
رَبَّنَا أَفْرِغْ عَلَيْهِمْ صَبْراً وَثَبِّتْ أَقْدَامَهُمْ وَانْصُرْهُمْ عَلَى القَوْمِ
الكَافِرِينَ.
Rabbana afrigh ‘alayhim sabran wa thabbit aqdamahum wansurhum ‘alal-qawmil- kafireen.
Our Lord! Pour upon them patience, make them steadfast, and grant them victory over the Disbelivers.
اللهُمَّ مَكِّرْ لَهُمْ، وَاكْفِهِمْ بِمَا شِئْتَ إِنْ تَنْصُرْهُمْ فَلا غَالِبَ لَهُمْ، وَإِنْ
تَخْذُلْهُمْ فَمَنْ ذَا الَّذي يَنْصُرهُمْ مِنْ بَعْدِكَ.
Allahumma makkir lahum, wakfihim bimaa shi’t. In tansurhum falaa ghaliba lahum, wa in takhdhulhum fa man dhal-ladh’ yansurhum min ba’dika.
O Allah! Plot for them, and suffice them with what You please, if You support them then nobody can overpower them, and if You forsake them, then who will be able to support them after You?
لا إِلاَ إِلا اللهُ العَظيمُ الحَليم، لا إِلهَ إِلا اللهُ رَبَّ العَرْشِ العَظِيمِ، لا
إلهَ إِلا اللهُ رَبُّ السَّمَاوَتِ وَرَبُّ الأَرْضِ وَرَبُّ العَرْشِ الكَرِيمِ.
La ilaha illAllahul adhimul-haleem. La ilaha illAllahu, rabbul-arshil- adheem. La ilaha illAllahu rabbus-samawaati wa rabbul-ardi wa rabbul-arshil- Adheem
Different ways to donate to on-the-ground Sudanese relief. Reposted by @ig/ahmadsaaid so I thought I would share. Another link I've seen spread around by Sudanese users on IG is the Sudanese American Physicians' Association non profit org (can also be found on Ahmad's profile)
Other vetted fundraisers listed in a Google Doc link in this tweet. (Don't forget to protect your identity by logging out of your email before clicking on the Google Doc link).
i know i've like, technically made progress in the past week or so by taking more initiative in taking care of myself and my living space, but it doesn't feel satisfying at all bc i don't have anyone constantly praising me for doing shit a mentally stable person does without even having to think about it. like even just going to the store or making myself food is a monumental task for me, as is everything else, and i just wish people recognized how much ridiculously harder i have to try than them to accomplish the same things. like i'm literally disabled, i have diagnosed disabilities, but bc no one considers them "real" disabilities, no one cares. it's exhausting, to constantly have to put so much effort into doing so little. everything is so hard, even the things that are supposed to be easy. is it really asking so much to want at least a little praise or encouragement for it?
like a lion, like a lamb