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DESTROY THE MYTH THAT ASEXUALS HAVE TO DATE OTHER ASEXUALS TO BE IN A HAPPY/SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

To all the wonderful Aces out there

I’m sending all of my love to Asexual people at Christmas time. This can be an especially hard time for aces, especially if relatives and friends start questioning them about relationships.

Don’t feel like you have to validate your sexuality or reasons why you do not have a partner this Christmas. You should not be made to feel bad about who you are, especially as we near a new year.

Honestly I love this time of year, but the questions from family members drive me insane. For a long time I sat in silence, not speaking out against how uncomfortable those sort of personal questions made me. Not only did I feel uncomfortable, but I felt guilty for not having a partner/relationship. 

I have since discovered that I am on the ace-spectrum. I no longer feel guilty because I no longer believe there is anything wrong with me. I guess that’s the message I wanted to get out today.

Your sexuality does not define you. 

Your lack of interest in sex/relationships/ etc does not mean you are broken.

Also, if people make you feel that bad about you not being in a relationship, you should really reevaluate whether you need those people in your life. 

You should never feel guilty for who you are. 

You are wonderful just the way you are.  I wanted to tell you all that because there are probably plenty of people who won’t hear it from family/friends over this winter season. 

Fear me I am the Terror Scary Fear!

Dino

Terroreformidulosus.

Day one of asexual awareness week. People can see me. They stare at me with confused, dazed expressions. Where did this person appear from? How did they get here? Others like me have started to appear. We frighten the allosexuals. When did these people invade our world? Stay safe my asexuals. They can see us this week

Fictional character: I don't care about sex

Me, an asexual individual: Ohh, that's something i can relate to. Finally! Yay!

Fictional character: I don't care about romance either.

Me: That's cool! It will be very enjoyable to watch you have a meaningful life and be a complex, unique person who simply happens not to feel sexual or romantic attraction.

Fictional character: In fact, i don't care about other humans at all. I don't have friends or family. I'm a very lonely person. Other people call me a freak.

Me: ... Fine, i guess

Fictional character: All my social interactions are very child-like, cold-hearted, superficial and meaningless. The sole reason for this is my lack of romance and sex. It makes me incapable of having a happy, normal relationship of any kind.

Me: What

Fictional character: But now i met That One Special Person.

Me: the fuck

Fictional character: That One Special Person changes everything. They heal my broken heart and make me capable of having feelings. Obviously i have been broken the whole time.

Me: ...

Me: Why did i even expect anything else, i should know better by now

How people treat sexual orientation, as explained with furniture.

Heterosexuality is a couch. Nobody even bats an eye if you keep it in the living room for everyone to see–it’s simply expected. I mean, where the hell else would you keep it? Hidden in a bedroom? No, that would be weird.

Homosexuality is a bed. Having a bed in a public room is considered weird and gross–you’re expected to keep it in private bedroom you close the door to before anyone else comes over. Because even though there are a million and one things someone can do sitting on a bed that aren’t sexual (and plenty of ways to have sex on a couch), the first and foremost thing anyone associates beds with is sex.

Bisexuality is a Western-style futon. Sometimes it functions like a couch, sometimes it functions like a bed, but whichever position it’s in at the moment, it’s still a goddamn futon. People who want to use it as a couch give you shit for not having a real couch; people who want to use it as a bed give you shit for not having a real bed. It’s acceptable in your living room, but only if you make extra certain to put it in couch position and hide the sheets before company comes over. Otherwise, you’d better hide it in a guest room.

Asexuality is a table. No matter how many times you tell people it’s not meant to be sat on, dickheads with no manners will try to park their nasty asses on it anyway.

I started this last week and am happy to say that I finished it today!! Please don't edit it. Thank you. :)

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Hi, in case you didn’t know, it is Ace Day! So in celebration, I made a Jedi with the asexual flag colors. So I guess I will say a few things about me for now.

I am Gray-Asexual, which means I rarely experience sexual attraction. I am Biromantic (bisexual too when I do feel attraction), which means that I can fall in love with and desire to date members of either sex. I am sex repulsed, which for me means that ideas of me having sex or other people having sex make me sick/bother me immensely.

Well that is it for this post. I will post another one for Ace Day later.