I’m sending all of my love to Asexual people at Christmas time. This can be an especially hard time for aces, especially if relatives and friends start questioning them about relationships.
Don’t feel like you have to validate your sexuality or reasons why you do not have a partner this Christmas. You should not be made to feel bad about who you are, especially as we near a new year.
Honestly I love this time of year, but the questions from family members drive me insane. For a long time I sat in silence, not speaking out against how uncomfortable those sort of personal questions made me. Not only did I feel uncomfortable, but I felt guilty for not having a partner/relationship.
I have since discovered that I am on the ace-spectrum. I no longer feel guilty because I no longer believe there is anything wrong with me. I guess that’s the message I wanted to get out today.
Your sexuality does not define you.
Your lack of interest in sex/relationships/ etc does not mean you are broken.
Also, if people make you feel that bad about you not being in a relationship, you should really reevaluate whether you need those people in your life.
You should never feel guilty for who you are.
You are wonderful just the way you are. I wanted to tell you all that because there are probably plenty of people who won’t hear it from family/friends over this winter season.
some cis girl: men don’t know what it’s like to have periods! uteruses before duderuses!
me:
AoT/SnK Jacksepticeye! My friend made this a few days ago.
100%
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allosexual person: wow sex is the greatest thing ever me, a confused asexual: ok but have you ever stepped on a really crunchy leaf?
Since it seems to be the cool hip thing for allos to hate aros and/or aces and exclude them from the community we belong in, I just want you to know that when you say we “haven’t suffered enough”, you’re telling all asexuals that have faced “corrective” rape that they haven’t suffered
You’re telling that to all asexuals who are told every fucking day that they’ll change their mind someday
You’re telling that to every aromantic kid who had panic attacks when faced with romantic situation and thought it was something that everyone felt because our problems are never spoken of
You’re telling that to every aromantic that grows up in an amatonormatic culture and can’t relate to a bit of it
You’re telling that to every asexual or aromantic who thinks they’re broken and need to be fixed for something that they can’t help
You’re telling that to every asexual or aromantic that doesn’t even realize that their orientation exists because people talk about straight, gay, bi, anything, but theirs doesn’t even exist to others
You’re telling that to every asexual who is called childish and innocent just because of their sexuality
You’re telling that to every aromantic who is called a robot and heartless and cold
You’re telling that to every aroace who watches people cheer when a same-gender couple is in the media and is thinking “well, where am I? When do I get representation?”
You’re telling that to every aroace who only gets representation in robots and villians
You’re telling that to every aromantic or asexual who tries to headcanon a character to fit them that is shot down by people of every sexuality because look! That character looked at someone else once! They can’t possible be like you, you. can’t. have. them.
You’re telling that to every aromantic or asexual who tries to stick up for themselves and is shot down with laughter
You’re telling that to every asexual whose parents don’t believe them, whose friends don’t believe them, to every ace that has no one and tries to find some support in the LGBT+ community and are immediately laughed at and kicked out
You’re telling that to me, and every other person in the aromantic or asexual community full of anxiety and self doubt that wants to cry and throw up at every arophobic or acephobic post they see
Just think about that next time. Okay? Please.
So, I may be the only one thinking this, but sometimes I think AoT/SnK is a scary, intense, traumatizing, version of the BFG, Big Friendly Giant. Has anyone else read it? Anyone agree with me or am I overthinking and letting my imagination run wild like usual? :)
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