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okay. so i’m polyamorous, right, i’m open to having multiple partners and whatnot
but!
so far everyone i’ve told has been.. kinda a jerk about it. AND I DONT UNDERSTAND IT
why? what’s wrong with being poly???
it’s not cheating. like, if i had a partner then i started crushing on someone else and that other person liked me as well, id go to my partner and talk about it and if they’re chill with it- and if the other person is chill with it- then i’ll date the other person while continuing to date my partner
i had a bf once who, when i explained that i’m poly to him, told me that he doesn’t want me dating other ppl cuz that’s cheating. but it’s not. AND!!! dude fucking cheated on me
and i just genuinely don’t understand what’s so wrong with having a crush while you have a partner. it happened to me years ago, where i had a lovely partner but i developed a small crush on another guy. i wasn’t going to do anything about that crush of mine, but my partner found out and he was upset and i felt bad cuz of that but i also didn’t understand. and i still don’t
i’ve just been ridiculed every time i mention that i’m polyamorous and i don’t get it. why can’t i love multiple people? everyone does it all the time- i have a plethora of friends who i love, and when i last had a partner i loved him too. so why is it wrong for me to love multiple people in a romantic way?
i’m not going to cheat. i’m not going to say that i’m poly as an excuse to be a jerk
i’ve found that oftentimes i love so deeply that it aches. i can’t help the fact that sometimes i get flustered due to various people, i can’t help that sometimes i have a longing to be with someone; but that doesn’t mean i wouldn’t want my partner anymore
sorry for my little ramble, it’s just gotten annoying to be shamed for this :/