Morning Scritches ( U_u)♡

things that i find inherently romantic

braiding hair, the strands passing through your fingers like silk

reading poetry to each other, voices like honey in the sun

the intimacy of borrowing their t-shirt

writing things by hand, watching them glide the pen on the paper and taking in their handwriting, their calligraphy

looking at their naked back, connecting the small moles with your fingers as if they were constellations

creating together

listening to music together, sharing the album that speaks to you like no other

hearing their voice when they’ve just woken up, groggy and slightly confused but happy

sharing all your favourite things with them, the intimate art that plays with the strings of your soul: your favourite painting, book, quote, passage, place

feeling time pass by, together

their breath tickling your skin

-c. 23/05/21 

giving kisses to beel <3

my comfort movie is girl interrupted (i sob violently everytime i watch it but it makes me feel seen)

the why dont we to kpop pipeline is so real and i experienced it.

the other day i was at school with my dad and step mom for a meeting of some sort and when we came out it was raining so we had to run in the rain to the car and we were all laughing and stuff it was one of the very few times i was genuinely happy

i relate to so many of these...i would love to be a mom but theres so many reasons that i cant

Reasons not to have children

- each good enough on their own, if you ever feel like articulating why you’re child-free (non-exhaustive list).

Because you don’t want children;

Because you don’t like children;

Because they are not suited to your temperament;

Because you don’t want to be benevolent, patient, kind and didactic;

Because they are too time-consuming;

Because they are too expensive;

Because you don’t think you have the right kind of voice for bed-time stories; or the will to tell them;

Because they are too noisy;

Because you love quiet and peace over everything else;

Because you want to be able to wake up when you want and not when they wake you up; because it would be detrimental to your sleeping-in;

Because it would be detrimental to your hobbies;

Because your living space is too small and you don’t want to change it;

Because cats are enough;

Because it would be a threat to your health;

Because you don’t want to pass down your genes;

Because you don’t want that kind of ‘immortality’;

Because you don’t want to go through nine months of pregnancy;

Because the thought of having a child grow inside you gives you the creeps;

Because you don’t want to go through the pains of childbirth;

Because you don’t trust the medical system to have your best interests at heart;

Because it would be detrimental to your career;

Because you don’t want to slave away at a job you hate to earn enough money to raise them;

Because you don’t want to have to worry about having enough money to raise them;

Because you don’t want the hassle of trying to ‘have-it-all’;

Because it’s a huge responsibility;

Because children deserve more than what you’re willing to give;

Because the world is a misogynistic place; because the world is a homophobic place; because the world is a racist place;

Because you would never have a good night of sleep ever again;

Because you would worry all your life about them and their well-being;

Because the world (and men) hates everything that is different;

Because you can’t guarantee they’ll be in good health;

Because you cannot protect your children from everything;

Because at some point they’ll be hurt and there’s nothing you can do about it;

Because you don’t know what today will be made of; because the world might be a bleak place in twenty, in thirty years; and what life a child would have then?

Because who are you to inflict life on a child?

Because you think less people on the planet can’t hurt the climate;

Because you don’t have the community to support you through it;

Because your mother’s wishes are not your own;

Because no-one is entitled to children or grandchildren;

Because your being fine acting as a doting aunt doesn’t bind you to anything more;

Because it’s hard to do alone and the last thing you want is to rely on a man;

Because children are often used by men against their mothers to trap them into abuse;

Because you don’t want to do what is expected of you—be a silent and meek housewife;

Because you hate the stereotypes attached to motherhood; because you don’t want them to be attached to you; because you know you don’t need to have children to change people’s opinions on motherhood;

Because you don’t want to be forever tied to a man;

Because you don’t fancy yourself into a supportive role for the rest of your life;

Because you can’t guarantee you’ll love them;

Because you can’t guarantee you won’t hate them;

Because you don’t know how to raise them; because you don’t think you can find a way to raise them and have them turn out right;

Because you don’t want to birth more misogynists—the world already has enough;

Because being a mother is not inevitable;

Because you’re not suited to motherhood;

Because being a woman doesn’t mean that you’ll be a mother one day;

Because you’re a lesbian; because this obsession with children is very heterosexual-centred and couldn’t be further from your priorities;

Because you want to be independent;

Because you want to live alone;

Because you want to achieve your dreams;

Because you’re busy with you own life;

Because you don’t want to make that kind of commitment—now, or ever;

Because you’re selfish*;

Because your life is valuable on its own; because you don’t need to have children for your life to hold worth;

And finally, because no man is entitled to your body, because you don’t have to justify to them your own decisions, feel free to use this one liberally:

It’s none of your business.

*That’s not a bad thing. You’re entitled to a life of your own, you’re not here to serve everyone else.

this is my first ever tumblr post🤨

i love albedo :(

hc that albedo really likes cooking because cooking is just chemistry