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plural culture is being a relatively small system then going on school break and experiencing massive system growth and getting very involved with plural communities and mostly shifting to thinking in we/us and being scared to slip up at school when you go back

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"Changing a term isn't that hard"

Problem 1 - A divided community

Any attempt at making a new term would be met with resistance. Not from everyone, but by most. It's likely that those who use other terms would move away from the tulpa community. So instead of actually getting tulpamancers to change their term, you would be just be making a new community outside of it.

But maybe you can manage to stick around in tulpa spaces, get other people to as well, and somehow slowly change the language from the inside. But what is that language?

Problem 2 - Finding a word for everyone

Thoughtform is a bad term because its connotations are too spiritual. There is also an active spiritual thoughtform community out there right now that this will be stepping on the toes of, smashing together two largely disconnected communities.

Many feel parogenic is too broad. And willogenic presents the practice as just "willing" a headmate into existence. Both also would result in the tulpa community losing its identity, becoming yet another xeno-origin and being assimilated completely into the endogenic community.

Senpia is just never going to happen.

None of the alternatives are going to be universally-agreed upon. And having the community divided amongst multiple terms exacerbates the first problem.

Problem 3 - Domain shifts

Anti-tulpas like pointing to the shift from "natural multiplicity" to "endogenic" as an example of how you can change terms. For those that are unaware, "natural multiples" were basically the precursors for endogenic systems. Many argued that the term was ableist because it suggested systems formed from trauma were "unnatural." Which is a silly and bad faith way of framing it, since the opposite of nature is usually environmental in this context, as in the nature vs nurture debate.

But regardless, the websites that existed at the time didn't include the terms in their domain names. They could change their terms without ever worrying about this. Furthermore... most of these communities were already dying as the plural community migrated to Tumblr. The whole internet landscape was morphing in the early 2010s.

Problem 3.1 - r/tulpas

On Reddit, changing a subreddit name is literally impossible. The only possible way to accomplish this would be to have the mods delete r/tulpas and create a completely new subreddit. At which point, a huge number of subscribers are instantly lost.

As is a ton of history on the subreddit, and even some guides that never got posted anywhere else.

Problem 3.2 - Tulpa.info

While it may technically possible to change the domain, that instantly breaks every link to every single tulpamancy guide on the website in an instant.

The whole thing becomes a huge mess. Perhaps they could setup redirects, but that would require paying for the old domain as well as the new one, driving up server costs.

Problem 4 - Visibility

Any new community terms will lose the visibility of identifying as tulpas. For people who are experiencing sentient imaginary friends and looking for a community, this transitionary period will make it way more difficult to find a community to support their needs.

It also makes it more difficult for the tulpamancy community to expand and bring in new members.

Problem 5 - Academic Research

Tulpamancy is currently the primary form of endogenic plurality being researched, including an fMRI study. All other research into endogenic plurality has mostly been surveys. Finding people to take part in FMRI studies is difficult. Not everyone has a lifestyle where they can just fly off to California for a brain scan.

If research continues, there are multiple ways this could hamper it going forward.

Mixing with the thoughtform community could mean a larger spiritual influence in the community, reinforcing the idea that endogenic plurality is only valid if it's spiritual. There are plenty of studies into spiritual possession happening, and it's imperative that we match that with research into plurals with psychological origins.

Losing our identity by assimilating into the larger endogenic community through -genic labels like parogenic and willogenic will end research into tulpamancy as a phenomenon of its own.

And dividing the community means fewer people are going to be found who can take part in these studies.

A term isn't just a term

It's our identity. It's our community. It's our connection to each other. It's our websites and the resources they host. It's our ability to be seen. It's our connection to the academic research into our community and ongoing advancement in the field.

There is no genuine "pro-tulpa, anti-tulpa terminology" side. Changing the terminology as a whole would divide and devastate the tulpamancy community.

If you're fighting against tulpa terminology, you're fighting against the tulpamancy community.

In-system relationships can be so intimate.

Waking up together, opening the same eyes, and stretching the same limbs. Yawning in time and saying a good morning that only you who are involved can understand what it's for.

Sharing a meal, not only from the same plate, but with the same hands and the same senses. Deciding what to eat together, something that fits all of your tastes.

Curled in the same bed, in the same blankets, in the same body, drowzily mumbling about nothing and everything to each other. Joking around and feeling their sleepy laugh as if it were your own.

Living life, and inviting them to share yours and your time in it--performing your daily tasks in the unison of cofront. Seeing and hearing and feeling everything together.

Feeling them blush when you flirt or compliment them. Feeling their joy when you get them a gift, or how safe you make them feel simply when you're around them.

Enveloped in the same love, from the same brain, with the same feeling of care for each other palpable between you. Feeling the emotions you feel yourself, coming from the other person. Feeling their love for you, in the rawest, most direct possible way.

This is literally so system coded

Splitting much??? 👀👀👀

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The final stage of every OC's creation is having to go through websites like this to name it:

names: Alice / Arya / Heaven/ Isa / Iris

Nicknames: Angel, holly girl, sea baby

honorifics: Sister, sissy, lady

pronouns: she/her ae/aer angel/angelself an/gel

orientation: Aegoromantic, Asexual

other identity: angelkin

species: human/angel/angelkin

age: 18

personality: dreamy, spacey, kind, bubbly, sweet, and kind.

likes: taking care of new headmates, being positive, meditating, and daydreaming

role: Adopter, Aegir, beauheur, buffer, coltenoir, comforter, daydream holder

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I actually have afew questions, I hope you don't mind!

1)I just recently saw your post about Sophie and "tulpa" and other variants of the word being harmful. I was wondering if you could give me some other terms for tulpa/tulpamancy/tulpagenic/tulpamancer/etc, especially using the terms "Willow/willowgenic"!

2) I've felt less valid as a system because I have Aphantasia and I can't hear my headmates. We speak through opinions and emotions because that's the only way we can. Do you have any ways I can work on communication with my Dudes?

3) Lastly, I've been super confident lately! But when my male/masculine presenting Dudes are near front, their dysphoric emotions probect onto me. I was wondering if this was normal and if it had a name!

That's about all I have, if any of my questions step out of your boundaries/comfort zone I'm so so so sorry!

Have a lovely timezone!!! <3/p

we don’t mind, that’s what we’re here for :)

1) here are some other terms you can use besides “tulpamancy:”

parogenic/parogen

paro/paromancy/paromancer (this is what we use!)

thoughtform

willogenic/willomate/willomancy/willomancer (though we have seen issues with this term, as some paros (tulpas) were never willed into existence and function more like walk-ins)

2) communicating through emotions and opinions is totally fine - these are definitely valid ways of communicating, especially if it works well for your system.

we know aphantasia may complicate things, but we do have a post on establishing contact with headmates. you can check it out here. your system may benefit most from spending time working on external communication, and we have a section in that post on how to do just that.

3) we’re not sure if the phenomenon of experiencing another headmate’s dysphoria has a name, but we can definitely say that it is very common for headmates to feel the emotions of other members, especially if they’re blended or cofronting together. i know i get species dysphoria and sometimes our resident human alter will feel that dysphoria when we’re cofronting together, even if he still identifies as a human. our gender dysphoria and euphoria are all over the place, and it’s very normal in our system for us to feel each other’s emotions when we’re fronting together.

we hope this helps to answer some of your questions. thanks for reaching out :)

🐢 kip and 👻 ghost

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