I've Told This Story Before But The Non-negotiable In Allyship Really Reminded Me Of My Gaming Group.

I've told this story before but the non-negotiable in allyship really reminded me of my gaming group. So one of my best friends is a twin and while I know *her* pretty well I don't really know her brother as well despite knowing him for roughly same length of time. We play videogames together and her brother asked to join us so at some point I took him aside and had The Talk with him because we at that point had a recently out trans fem within the group and she had just barely started hormones and hadn't done any voice training etc so I fully intended to head any trouble off at the pass.

So I basically had the "respect my friend's pronouns or die by my sword" discussion because while he knows I'm a trans guy and had so far been chill, I didn't know if that extended to all trans people.

What I did not expect was for him to pull an uno reverse on me and invite his two trans woman friends to game with us as well and did a "no no, *you* respect *my* friends' pronouns or die by *my* sword".

When I was working at Petco, one of my coworkers came to me having a total panic and anxiety meltdown and when I finally got them to tell me what was going on, the revealed they had sought me out because they were having Transgender Feelings and wanted advice. I ended up giving them my old binders that were too small for me but a perfect fit for them, and one of my roommates gave them their first masc haircut.

A few weeks later a customer speaking Spanish was saying many nasty things about my coworker and reacting with disgust. Another coworker- a cis gay man who speaks fluent Spanish- came to get me first so I could pull the other coworker away while he effectively cussed them out in Spanish. He told us the sparknotes version of the English translation and it was mostly horrifically transphobic drivel. My coworker had responded mostly neutrally to me being trans, but for him to be visibly steamed the rest of the day over my other coworker definitely bumped my respect for him.

And I've talked about how a cis lesbian friend of mine visibly bristles at anyone she even thinks is being shitty to me about being trans to the point of making them splutter and back down.

A cishet woman I am only sort of acquaintances with once caught me wincing at being she/her'd at a trial and asked if that had been happening all day. When I responded the affirmative, she stormed off and I didn't see her the rest of the day. The next day, any time anyone referred to me there was an audible pause before a deliberate choice to choose masc versions.

Another trans woman who is a friend of mine once beat up a bully for calling her trans boyfriend a heshe when they were in schooling together.

It's about holding the line. It's about making the active choice to show up for each other. And it's about linking hands and refusing to budge.

If you cannot hold the line with me by your side, then we are not moving together.

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3 years ago

Tokoyami: Would anyone else be willing to join me in summoning a demon in the spirit of the American holiday Halloween?

Class 1a: Yes

Iida: As long as you do it responsibly!

Happy Halloween


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2 years ago

Toga: You said you wanted a heart for Christmas?

Twice: I was joking about wanting to fall in love this Christmas.

Toga: Oh.

Twice: You got me a heart?

Toga: He was going to die anyways….. eventually


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7 months ago

Every single day I'm grateful for that time I stumbled on the SVSSS headcanon that while Bingqiu is considered highkey confusing and lowkey cringe in the demon realm, Moshang is known as the Power Couple™. They're the demonic love story. The 'It Couple'.

Just generations of demons sighing over the dramatic and bloody love story of the Northern King and his right hand man plus spymaster, yearning for one of their own filled with such glorious violence and betrayal! A classic childhood friends to lovers narrative filled with ups and downs and copious murder and gore! Love at first sight! The story of the loyal spy who rose up the ranks of the brutal Northern Court, culling his competition while providing vital intel to his liege, all the while infiltrating the most powerful cultivation sect in the world and eventually even becoming a Peak Lord! The slow burn of all slow burns! All kinds of spicy complicated power imbalances! Sexy, unexpected age gaps! Years of heavy plot! Decades of passionate courting! The pinnacle of inter-species forbidden romance! The tale of a man who swore eternal loyalty after falling violently in love at the very first meeting, calling a mere Prince His King in his desire and determination to see his beloved's ascension to the throne that was his birthright, and the Demon Prince who was unexpectedly presented with fierce loyalty in a life that had until then been rife with treachery and grabbed it with both hands and never looked back!

...and there's Junshan and the weird human he keeps around. Somewhat interesting if you're into that teacher-student thing I guess. There were very few deaths. Some bland murders. The trial arc and the self destruct thing plus corpse hoarding was interesting but overall very vanilla. Unseasoned. Not even a proper decade of drama. Kinda boring. And Junshan's half human so they're like Walmart version inter-species romance. But whatever the Emperor's into I guess. His dad was kinda weird too but at least his relationship with that human woman had some kick to it. The new generation just doesn't appreciate a long drawn out painful romance tsk tsk...

Like infinitely grateful to whoever first spawned that headcanon. Never fails to make me laugh. Honestly the most hilarious thing I've ever seen in this fandom. Hope your pillow is always cold and you never stub your toe.

3 years ago

Kaminari: So we’re dating now?

Sero: Yes?

Kaminari: KIRI I WON THE BET

Kirishima: BAKUGOU AND I HAVE BEEN DATING FOR A MONTH ARE YOU THAT OBLIVIOUS?

Kaminari: ALRIGHT THEN CHOOSE YOUR SNACK.


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3 years ago

Random Writing Prompt 8

AU idea

One is the secret agent who is undercover (or was supposed to be until the bouncer/barkeep messed it up)

The other is a very suspicious bouncer/barkeep who won't leave them alone and ends up getting dragged into the mess.


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2 years ago

Your Pathetic Bisexual Not Wanting Therapy?

Here’s what to do!

(This does not just apply to bisexuals)

First, give them a stuffed animal and make sure they’re cuddled up tight!

next, wrap them in a blanket and make sure they can’t escape!

Finally, look up therapy resources and begin to go through them! One of the ones I’ve used is a trauma workbook linked here (it’s for children but sometimes there is little difference)


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1 year ago

I have lost myself to a new hyper fixation and to celebrate I have a new writing challenge! So find a mall and pull up the map. The stores should be numbered. If they are, generate two numbers and find the stores they correspond with. If not, just use a wheel with the names of the stores. Each half of your OTP works in one of those stores and their neighbors. They can be enemies, friends, strangers, whatever. Have fun!

My contribution to this:

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An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

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3 years ago

Kaminari: I’ve seen things

Sero: You’re too short and I’m too tired for this


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11 months ago

It’s me. I’m the consequences. Count your days because they are numbered.

i am being hunted by a persistence predator called the consequences of my actions

10 months ago
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