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Thanks for sharing this great advice!

The dangers of the lifestyle

Many ask how to begin living this lifestyle; often, how to convince the wife. My answer is always the same: don’t.

I want to use the perfect words I found online time ago (here http://bit.ly/2wRyUEv , all credits due to the original poster):

When me & my long term girlfriend were thinking about this, both of us were incredibly turned on physically about it, but she just would not take the final step because of the emotional dangers. She said because we men can easily separate the physical & emotional we don’t understand that very few women can, and the same thing that makes them lust for a man in bed (which is what guys in this situation want) is the same thing that makes her become emotionally attached to him.

My partner’s last words on the subject were ‘if we go through with this, you will lose me emotionally, and once you’ve lost me emotionally, the physical won’t be far behind, and then it will be the beginning of the end.’

This is so very true.

Over the years, I witnessed so many times the same pattern. Of all the other couples we met living the lifestyle, from cuckolds to hotwives, every possible variation on the theme, I can say ALL split. All but one: the one where both partners were already living the style before meeting.

All the couples that began experimenting together, eventually broke up. The change in the bond between them, which silently grows over time, in the end destroyed them as a couple.

The woman feels less and less 'bound’ to her man, and she usually starts feeling emotions for someone else. It’s almost like breaking the physical limitation opens a breach in her emotions.

The man is pulled towards a spiral of personal fantasies, growing detached not only from his woman, but from her desires and wishes. In divergent directions, he usually loses the capacity to listen to her, and he doesn’t ultimately notice that she’s slowly slipping away.

So, here’s my advice. If it’s a shared fantasy, something both partners were willing to try for a long time, you’ll find the way to try. Internet offers plenty of options. In all other cases, don’t ever try to convince her or him; in the end it will destroy her or him, and you as a couple.

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had a threesome with my bestfriend and my girlfriend. she moaned so much more louder with his dick in her wet warm pussy. and she tells me that she fucks her better than i did

Glad you got the courage to share your girl. Now that you know he can fuck her better I hope you are taking this as an opportunity to up your game.

Watch tutorials on PornHub and eat her pussy more, start a healthy diet so your loads are bigger, and work out more so you can pound her harder. 

You need to show your female that you’re competing for her at the highest level. Otherwise, what’s the point?

#prove yourself

This deserve to be readen

I like all of the "kinks" you explore on your blog and tend to agree with you about how they are natural and evolutionary advantageous. I would love my wife to partake in bareback with some else than me, group sex, multiple partners, threesome, and double vaginal-however, there are also evolutionary reasons why culture has developed to limit these tendencies-STDs-viruses, bacteria, & other microorganisms! An argument can be made that prudish cultural norms took hold to limit our cheating urges.

Real talk for a minute. You should be getting tested, and verifying that the partners you hook up are tested too. 

Most clinics have an online portal so you really just need to go in, pee in a cup, and let them draw some blood. It’s not expensive and you can screenshot the results to prove you’re clean. Women can often just request these tests when they go in for their pap smear.

If your future fuck buddy doesn’t want to get tested then they are either dirty, broke, or lazy. 

Bareback is better, but I don’t play roulette with my health.

#get tested or GTFO

How it started, tnks 4 sharing

Muy buena desambiguación de terminos.

Gracias por compartirla.

Tengo una curiosidad... ¿por que siempre q hablan de un cornudo nos tratan como si fuéramos todos maricas o si tenemos él pene pequeño o solo q no podemos hacer gemir a nuestras mujeres?yo tengo un buen pene, hago disfrutar a mi mujer pero me excita verla coger o que me cuente que a cogido sólo eso y ya

Esta es una Excelente pregunta, que genera confusión constantemente a muchos cornudos.. Lo primero a resaltar es que mi blog es de temática COCKOLD..

El termino CUCKOLD es una palabra en ingles que su traducción literal es cornudo, hace referencia un hombre (macho beta) que no es agraciado sexualmente (pene pequeño, eyaculador precoz, sumiso, muchas veces bisexual, etc) que disfruta de ver a su pareja teniendo sexo con otros hombres mas fuertes y mejor dotados (machos alpha) por que sabe que el no puede satisfacerla sexualmente y saber que su mujer es deseada por estos machos alphas es algo que le excita, muchas veces el macho beta acepta con gusto ser sumiso del macho alpha por que disfruta de esta humillación.

Existe otro termino el STAG este palabra en ingles literalmente significa “ciervo” pero hace referencia a alguien que también es un cornudo. la diferencia es que se refiere a un hombre bien dotado, dominante y capaz de satisfacer plenamente a su mujer osea es un macho alpha que disfruta compartir su mujer  con otros machos alphas por que esto significa que su mujer es deseada por todos . Esto le genera satisfacción, morbo y excitación, pero por ser un macho alpha con carácter dominante muchas veces no hay interacción sexual con el amante ni humillación pues no disfrutan de esto ultimo.

En español tanto la palabra CUCKOLD como STAG la traducción correcta para ambas seria “cornudo” por eso es complicado de diferenciar y genera confusion, pero yo seria un cornudo cuckold pues me identifico con la primera descripción y tu serias un cornudo stag pues encajas con la segunda.

Existen blog totalmente STAG, puedes buscarlos y te aseguro que te sentirás mas identificados con ellos, Saludos y espero haber resuelto tu duda.

I recently discovered your blog, and love it!. I was just wondering; how do you get in to the lifestyle? How does it started? (Hotwifing is actualy my most erotic fantasy) Thanks for sharing :-) And congrats for being a beuatiful, stable couple for so long.

Thank you!!  We got into the lifestyle innocently partying with another couple in our hottub.  Things just kind of happened,  The girls starting flashing and making out and me and the other hubby joined. We had never had a conversation about before then.  We continued to soft swap with the couple several times until we got tired of the drunk fest it had become and the drama between the other couple.  However, we did enjoy the excitement of it and I found it a huge turn on when she was with the other hubby. So, I started looking for straight single males that wanted to play with couples on Craigslist and actually found our first victim.  It was a huge turn on and the guy suggested some Swinger Websites that we should join.  We joined and started going to parties and events to meet people and played on cam in the website chat room.  We played with some couples but mostly MFM.

Great advice

We're young, and I really do think she's the one, but that makes me worried I'd ruin things by being open about wanting to see her fuck someone else. I know it's kind of contradictory, like if we are meant to be our relationship should be fine after experimenting with sharing, but it's still tough getting the balls to admit it to her.

Most hotwife blogs will tell you not to go through with it given those feelings, but this is not a hotwife blog. I think a little bit of jealousy is hot. And when two dudes are grunting away like a couple of cavemen to satisfy one vixen, I think it’s arousing.

So you don’t want to look weak right? Trust me, if you say something like,

“I think it would be hot competing for you against other alpha males. I would love to prove to you why you married me over and over again. I like the thought of putting you on a pedestal and I feel a flutter of excitement and jealousy when I catch guys looking at you.”

Now stop being a pussy and go eat your wife’s.

#want to share her

Interesante, describe un poco mas el lado "cuckold" de una pareja donde ella es hotwife. Por el comentario de la humillación.

Pero aun mas interesante es que sea una tendencia tan fuerte que los medios convencionales la tengan que publicar.

Quien dijo? yo.

Great advice!

Looking to get my gf into the lifestyle or even just open up more sexually without telling her outright, any tips would be welcome!

Show her you love her.

not just in your words, but in your actions too. buy her flowers, buy her a card for no reason, help her around the house, and don’t forget to tell her you love her. Both men and women need to hear “I love you.”

Build her confidence.

Compliment her, tell her she is beautiful, tell her she looks nice in certain outfits, etc. If she has a nice ass, tell her. If she has great tits, tell her.It is important that the compliments are sincere. She will know if you are faking it.  During sex tell her how good it feels, how good she feels, how good she tastes. Tell her how good she is at sucking dick or how good her pussy feels.

Make her feel safe.

She has fantasies, even if she does not tell them to you or says she doesn’t. Open up about something you have never shared. She her it is safe. You’re together and you’re not going to judge each other.

Be honest.

If she asks you a question, no matter how embarrassing or hard the answer is, be honest. Trust is key to a woman’s ability to open up sexually.

Share some porn.

Text her a sexy picture or see if she will watch a porno with you. This is a great way to introduce kinks or to get the conversation started.

TALK.

After you have watched some porn or shared a few tumblr pics, flirt and tease about them. See if she is receptive. If she resists, back off and try again at another time. Once you plant the seed, water it from time to time and her mind will do the rest. She may be into some of the same things, but like you she does not know hot to bring them up. Crack the door for her.

You may need to do these steps for a several months before she starts to feel secure enough to open up, so have patience. If you rush it or try to force it, she will retreat. Remember your relationship should always come before sexual fantasies. Our fantasies are part of who we are, but we all guard them for fear of judgment or rejection. It is YOUR job to take those fears away from her and provide the environment she needs to relax and let go of her fears.

I hope this helps and good luck.

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