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Memes are NOT real life…

Can we make an effort to create and promote better lifestyle content?

I’m tired of seeing all these repetitive posts with the same unrealistic Hotwife captions that are clearly written by porn-addicted men. No woman is telling strangers to “fill their slutty married pussy with hot cum”. I get that most people come to these blogs for fantasy, but it’s really damaging to actual couples who dabble in the lifestyle. It sets unrealistic expectations and creates a pool of unqualified suitors when real couples are looking for another man to join them.

No, a Hotwife is not a cum dump.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck anyone with a big dick.

No, a Hotwife is not just a fuck toy for your pleasure.

No, a Hotwife does not fuck some one else every chance she gets.

I’d love to see more blogs create realistic images and captions that reflect real relationships.

*rant over*

Who Knew “Just Watching” Could Be So Much Fun?

To Those Men Who Want To Watch Or Enjoy Watching Their Wife With Someone Else:

Until recently it’s been the prevailing opinion that the desire to want your wife to be fucked by someone else makes you a weak man…a pathetic & effeminate loser who lets his wife do whatever she wants to him.

But we know now that’s not true, is it?

Thanks to pioneers like @stagnationhw , @hotwivesandgames, @allaboutthehotwifelife, @oursexyexploration, and many others—we know now that there exists throngs of other men who have the desire of wanting to share their wives, sans any humiliation*. These other men are strong, independent, masculine, & secure. 

*no judgment or shade towards men who do like humiliation

We know for them that it’s not about letting your wife walk all over you because she can and because you’re too “weak” to control her, no…

Rather it’s about giving your assent, your consent, your “permission”, your encouragement and support to her so she can embrace her inner naughty side… the “darker” or “sluttier” shades of her sexuality, so to speak.

It’s about being secure enough in yourself and who you are, in your relationship with your wife and with what the two of you share so that you can identify and embrace and explore this desire you have.

For you, it’s not about weakness. It’s about strength.

It’s not about getting walked on; it’s about not being afraid to walk on the path less trodden.

It’s not about a lack of choice; it’s about a willing decision.

You’re a Stag, a Stag Cuckold, a Hotwife Husband. You are what you choose to call yourself. 

But what’s more is that you’re more of a man than those who criticize and judge your desires and choices because of their own fears and insecurities.

I say fuck closemindedness, and fuck the outdated Puritanical constraints society tries to impose upon you and shackle down your desires.

I say embrace them, because that’s what being strong is all about!

Gracias dir the advice, the bar part is so true

Hello, do you currently live in Italy? I was wondering if you could give us some advice. We're Americans travelling to Rome in a few months and the wife wants to find a guy for a night of NSA fun. Basically we're looking for a third for MFM threesome. Are Italian men open to this sort of arrangement? Any suggestions on where to find someone other than a bar?

HiDifficult to answer. I think most of the guys you can find in a bar will be open to have a ride with the wife, but perhaps not that open to a threesome with another man they never met.Even more important, if you rely on this kind of casual encounters you won’t be able to filter the guys, and you won’t know who you end up with.

I’d say it’s better if you get registered on a local swingers/cuckold/hotwife site, creating a couple’s profile; that will give you the opportunity to look for an experienced man (and you’ll be able to choose the one you like the most, too) and to set up a date for when you’ll be in Rome.

Have a look for example on www.thecuckold.com (it should have an English version too, and it’s basically free), or www.annunci69.it .The second one is far bigger, probably the biggest website of this kind in Italy, but the first one sometime is better.In case you might need it, Rome is in a region called Lazio (Italy is divided into regions, similar to US states even though on a smaller scale of course). It might be useful to look for singles and bull coming from this region, if not only Rome.Good luck ;)

Defining things... naming is inherent to human nature; here a set of definitions worth to be shared in order to get a better understanding.

Terms & Definitions:

Swingers: Typically a couple in which both partners are allowed to engage in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, often referred to as “full swap.”

Hotwife:  A wife who has her husband’s permission to engage in sexual activities with other men. Also the term used to describe the fantasy with the same scenario. In this relationship all extra marital activities are approved of by the husband. Trust, respect, and the couple’s love for each other are central to the relationship.

Cuckold: A man in a relationship with a woman who engages in sexual activities with other men and women outside of their relationship, usually with a level of cheating and or humiliation. -Cuckolding

Cuckoldress: The female half of a cuckold relationship. A woman who engages in sex with men other than her husband, usually imposing a level humiliation on her husband about her extra marital activities.

Vixen: One term used to describe a woman in a Hotwife relationship.

Stag: One term used to describe a strong male figure in a Hotwife relationship.

Cucky: A humiliating term used to describe a man in a cuckold relationship.

Bull: The name often given to a wife’s repeat lover in a hotwife or cuckold arrangement

Reclaim: A term used to describe the passionate sex couples often experience the first time they have sex after one of them has has sex with someone outside of their relationship.

Hall Pass: Often used to describe a onetime “free pass” given to one of the members in a relationship to enjoy one sexual encounter with a person outside of the relationship.

Half Open Marriage: Used to describe a relationship in which one member of the relationship has the other‘s permission to enjoy complete sexual freedom, while the one remains completely faithful.

Shared Wife: A wife whose husband “shares” her sexually with other men.

MFM: A three some involving two men and one woman. In this arrangement the men are straight and focus on the woman.

MMF: A three some involving two men and one woman in which the men are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the woman.

FMF: A three some involving two women and one man. In this arrangement the women are straight and focus on the man.

FFM: A three some involving two women and one man in which the women are bi-sexual and engage in sexual activities with each other as well as the man.

Humiliation: A sexual kink which usually involves the woman verbally abusing the man about his inadequacies and inability to satisfy her, most often because of his penis size or his lack of stamina.  

Tease and Denial: One partner sexually teases and leads the other on, only to get them excited and then deny them sexual gratification.

Edging: Binging a person right to the edge of orgasm and then slowing or stopping sexual activities thus denying them the pleasure of orgasm.

Ruined Orgasm: Bringing a person right to the point of orgasm, and then stopping resulting in a weak orgasm. This is usually achieved through the use of oral sex or masturbation.

SPH: Small Penis Humiliation, verbal abuse used to humiliate a man about his lack of length and or girth.

Male Chastity: A kink in which the man is most often secured in a chastity device, referred to as a cock cage, and is denied the pleasures of sexual intercourse as well as masturbation.  Couples who engage in this kink often try to push the boundaries of how long the man can go without sexual release. This fetish often includes a level of humiliation as well.

Cock Cage: A metal or plastic device which locks to secure the penis. It is used impede the man’s ability to masturbate as well as achieve a full erection without being release by his key holder.

Key Holder: Most often the wife of a man confined to a cock cage. The key holder has full authority over the man’s ability to and the frequency of orgasms allowed. Often the key holder will use time in the cock cage as a punishment for her dissatisfaction with something the man has said or done.

Pegging: Used to describe a fetish in which the female uses a sex toy or strap on to perform anal sex on her male partner.

Wife Breeding: A fetish in which the wife is involved in unprotected sex with men other than her husband. The men ejaculate in the wife, thus presenting the possibility of pregnancy by men other than the husband.

Clean Up: An activity in which the man cleans up a woman after she has had sex with another man. Most often this is done after a lover has ejaculated into the woman’s vagina and the woman’s partner performs oral sex on her licking up as much of the other man’s sperm as possible.

Sloppy Seconds: A term used to describe the act of having sex with a woman after she has already had sex with another man. Most often after the first man has ejaculated inside of the woman’s vagina creating a “sloppy” situation for the second man.

Size Queen: A woman who prefers man with very large penises. Often with minimum size requirements which must be met before she will engage in sexual intercourse with a man.

BBC: Big Black Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a black man.

BWC: Big White Cock, used to describe the oversized penis of a white man.

Queen Of Spades: The name sometimes given to a white woman who prefers sex with black men, often with above average penises.

A brilliant thought.

I was about to send a message about how this is a hot fantasy when I remembered that last year my boyfriend was depressed for a month and I took it personally and ended up sucking off a guy I had just met at the bar with my best friend. I ended up dating them at the same time, but was really confused at 1. Why a guy would seriously date me after swallowing the first night and 2. How I felt such little guilt. I will never tell my boyfriend because this really did happen and it would kill him.

Let me answer those two questions for you, cutie pie.  

1) Why would a guy date a girl who sucked him off on the first night who also has a boyfriend? That’s easy. Because you’re a slut. Promiscuous women will always be more sought after. Guys won’t admit it, but everyone wants a vixen.

2) How I felt such little guilt? Sweetheart, why on earth would you need to feel guilty? You did what your body asked you to do. Something that happens in nature shouldn’t make you feel guilty. Do you feel guilty for eating and drinking? Don’t be silly.

#slut confession

Great post.

If you may ever ask if there is an undelying reason for hotwifing.

Why do I find slutty women so attractive?

This was from an email that was submitted here.

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I was wondering if you met anyone like me. I am in my 20′s and single and only attracted to hotwives or promiscusous “bad girls.” I have no intention of settling down but I definitely don’t want a monogamous girl when I do. 

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Dear anon,

Have I met other guys who only like promiscuous women? 

Yes.

It’s actually pretty common. I’ll post my sources below.

Males will often produce more testosterone when competing for a non-monogamous female than they would with traditionally monogamous females.

In fact, non-monogamous women are often more desired due to the pheromones they emit. The “slut pheromone” phenomena is not a myth.

Semen produces chemicals that will hunt out and kill other semen. 

And since semen can stay alive for up to 10 days, there is a good chance that semen from multiple males are all battling inside one female.

Just knowing your seed is in a death battle with other males is enough to trigger this chemical release in your body.

Conclusion. Wanting to compete for promiscuous women is normal. It actually boosts your testosterone levels significantly and evolved to produce the best offspring possible. 

You’ll never see animals “slut shaming” 

They are either fighting for that ass, or actually getting it.

Sources

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sperm_competition

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022519310000317

https://www.zmescience.com/medicine/genetic/promiscuous-female-mice-sexy-offspring-432432/

http://journals.plos.org/plosgenetics/article?id=10.1371/journal.pgen.0010035

Great text, an interesting evolution of terms allowing to disambiguate "cuckold" and "stag".

WHAT IS A STAG The term Stag differs from the term cuckold. According to Sage Vivant, author of the book ‘Your Erotic Personality’, Stag are typically heterosexual men who get off on the idea of their wives or girlfriends being with other men but do not really fit the historical term cuckold. Many such men dislike the term cuckold because society has denigrated its meaning, making it a shameful thing. This has not only been misunderstood but also rather disrespected throughout history. They were seen as weak men that in a bizarre tradition from Europe were seen to wear antlers as symbols of this supposed weakness. Thankfully in modern times we are a little more enlightened and in recent years the meaning of the word has morphed into something more empowering for both genders. The growth of the term ‘HOTWIFE’ in reference to the partners of such men is now well established in sexual subcultures. Some men are cuckolds proper in that they seek humiliation and debasement and possible homosexual encounters, and there is nothing wrong with that, to each his own fetish, however, by far more men identify with the term ‘Stag’ . They share with cuckolds the desire to see their partners take on extra lovers while they remain monogamous but that is where the similarities end. For the stag this is always by consent and any humiliation aspect is just a playful erotic teasing game with his wife rather than any real desire to be humiliated. He will never be humiliated or intimidated by his partner’s lovers. He is a strong type that simply derives huge erotic pleasure from seeing his wife or girlfriend being so alluring that nobody could resist her and considers it only natural and very arousing that she’ll need and deserve sexual satisfaction from others as well as him. He holds a genuine love and respect for his wife or girlfriend with whom he shares this erotic and fun lifestyle. For this reason the proper term for the partner of most hotwives is a STAG rather than cuckold. This behavior ranges from merely sharing the fantasy and acting out role play scenarios to full on Hotwifing. It is just one part of a relationship and many couples only dabble occasionally. Some couples discover ‘Hotwifing’ early in their relationships while others find it much later but either way it is a hugely growing phenomenon. The reasons for 'Hotwifing’ have always been around and lie deep in our evolutionary history as a species but factors such as female empowerment, better contraceptive/safer sex technologies, ease of online communication and information combined with other factors have brought it out of the shadows to the edge of the mainstream. Welcome to Stag and Hotwife Games, here we attempt to use images and captions to catch the eroticism and fun of couples that have delved into this world to reclaim the cuckold horns for the proud 'STAG’

Interesting note

How come u guys don't get jealous? When I truly love and value someone I don't want to share them. And it'd offend me if my lover didn't love me enough to feel the same way.

Unfortunately that’s a hard question to answer. If you’re not a swinger it’s hard to explain how it feels. We were the same. People would tell us that it brought you closer together and made you love each other more. That was incomprehensible to us how watching someone else with your partner could possibly be a good thing. But we eventually found ourselves in that situation and they were right! Our bond got stronger! Our sex was better! It was a turn on watching each other give and receive pleasure! It’s progressed to a stage now that we swap partners and sleep with them in separate rooms for the night. Then we swap stories the next day and have amazing sex!

Great and usefull one