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How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships • Bitches Get Riches

A growing body of research suggests being in abusive workplaces creates very similar stresses as being in an abusive relationship.

How Abusive Workplaces Mirror Abusive Relationships

Earlier this year, Piggy and I delivered a speech on the subject of burnout. That there’s an appetite for advice on this subject among women’s professional associations will, perhaps, not shock you?

As I was researching the impact that burnout has on the body, I got an eerie feeling that the symptoms seemed familiar. I wondered if I’d already written something on this topic and forgotten. (We’ve written several hundred articles apiece, so it happens!)

But no! What was tripping my extremely faulty memory triggers wasn’t a past article about burnout.

It was a past article on domestic violence.

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Surviving harassment doesn’t mean it didn’t affect you. Being strong doesn’t make it okay. You shouldn’t have had to be.

Muted Square in the Zoom

They didn’t say my name in the meeting. Not once. I was there and had written half the report.

The credit went around the table like a bottle passed hand to hand. I watched it skip over me.

At lunch, I sat with them. One of them asked me, “Are you new?”

I’ve been here fourteen months.

After a while, you stop correcting people. You stop reminding them that you’re part of it. You become good at inhabiting the background. Or a muted square in the Zoom.

But I’m still here. Still opening the spreadsheet. Still writing the copy. Still dressing up and disappearing.

They didn’t see me. But I saw everything.

To Report or Not To Report...that is the eternal flaming highway wreck of a question.

born in the wrong skin, not wrong for me. wrong for them. targets, not flesh.

“You’re overreacting.” Me, about to liberate the galaxy AND the breakroom.