If You Think You're Being Sexually Harassed...

When she reported it they told her she was brave

Then they made her remote

Surviving harassment doesn’t mean it didn’t affect you. Being strong doesn’t make it okay. You shouldn’t have had to be.

“It’s not brave to have boundaries

it’s just basic hygiene for your soul.”

-Jenny Slate

Hopecore! 💓

🌸stay tune 📺 . .

sorry for upcoming long vent:

so my local situation has been pretty horrid since new presidential era lmao (i think same thing can be said to US situation as well) .. im still trying to find a good balance of my headspace to keep creating and what motivates me to keep going, and for now... i think what motivates me to want to create is to be where my followers (or those who enjoys my art) can stay sane or be reminded of what's still good in our normal, mundane days to strive for. I hope we can be together to strive for hope. so yea, i will try to keep illustrating, creating, experimenting! being a doomer wont do me or anyone moving forward, but I will do what i know best to keep the cog moving.. sorry to be hopecore it's my only weapon for now lol!

We whisper because when we scream, we get labeled 'DIFFICULT'

What's a 'whisper network'?

The majority of sexual harassment cases involve some kind of complication.

Maybe you dated the person, flirted with them, or had sex with them before. 

Maybe you knew or suspected that they had a history of being inappropriate with others. 

Maybe you’ve always looked up to this person, considered them a friend, a mentor, or someone who’s helped you a lot in the past. 

Maybe it’s happened more than once. 

Maybe when it happened you didn’t know how to react so you didn’t say anything. 

Maybe after it happened you acted overly nice to the person or reassured them it wasn’t a big deal. 

Maybe the person isn’t the kind of person we think a harasser is: they’re someone really respected in society or more attractive than you or physically smaller or female. So you or others have a hard time believing that person could hurt you. 

Maybe you really like the person for other reasons and feel torn about seeing them as someone who’s hurt you. 

It’s important to know that it’s not unusual if your situation feels more complicated.

In fact, that is the more common situation. 

You're still here

Maybe you still talk about it like it wasn’t a big deal. Maybe you laugh when you tell the story. Maybe you change the details each time, depending on who’s listening. Maybe you say “it was weird” instead of “it was wrong.”

Sometimes, survival looks like contradiction. Like forgetting on purpose. Like trying on different words until one of them feels safe enough to hold.

You don’t owe anyone a neat version of what happened. It was messy. You’re still here. That’s the truth.