Abusers Be Like “if You Loved Me You’d Let Me Invade Your Boundaries And Make You Feel Like Shit

“Guilt is pointless, and is not the same as regret. Regret is the feeling that tells us we are sorry for what we did and do not wish to do it again. Guilt is the feeling that indicts us for it, and never lets us redeem ourselves no matter what we do. Regret is empowering, guilt is paralyzing. Fear is pointless, and it is not the same as caution. Caution is the feeling that tells us we would benefit from looking both ways before stepping off the curb. Fear is the feeling that won’t let us step off the curb at all. Caution is empowering, fear is paralyzing.”

— Neale Donald Walsch 

final exams w mental illness be like

anxiety: if ur not doing work for every second of every day ur failing in school and at life in general

depression: stay in bed for 36 hours because there is no point in living anyways

Do you ever just lay on the bathroom floor crying your eyes out because you just can't handle anything anymore and everything feels like it's crashing down

Yeah me too

It takes 21 days to form a habit.

21 of struggle

21 days of hardships

21 days of pain

21 days of sadness

21 days of crying

21 days of aching

21 days of tiredness

It takes 21 days to change everything.

In only 21 days you can be a better person

21 days to reach your ugw

21 days to get back on track

21 to live a healthier life style

In only 21 days we will be okay

Youre mindset can change

With just 21 days youre year will be saved

Know I’m with you

You can do this, okay

Just survive those 21 days.

🌸❤💕🌼🌹🔆

If you're ever bored, here's a list of Studio Ghibli films you can watch for free.

Castle In The Sky (1986) Grave of the Fireflies (1988) My Neighbor Totoro (1988) Kiki’s Delivery Service (1989) Only Yesterday (1991) Porco Rosso (1992) Pom Poko (1994) Whisper of the Heart (1995) Princess Mononoke (1997) My Neighbors the Yamadas (1999) Spirited Away (2001) The Cat Returns (2002) Howl’s Moving Castle (2004) Tales from Earthsea (2006) Ponyo On A Cliff From The Sea (2008) The Secret World of Arrietty/The Borrower Arrietty (2010) From Up on Poppy Hill (2011)

If any of the links stop working, please let me know so I can fix it.

For Castle In The Sky, wait for the free user button to be clickable and it will send you to the video.

Don’t ever date someone with a mental illness if you’re not ready to work through it with them.

If the person you’re crushing on suffers from panic attacks- of any level- and you are there when they have one and you don’t want to “deal with it.”  Do them the favor and leave.  Because there will be days when they can’t breathe and if you won’t hold them or grab them a water or tell them its okay or whatever they need than you are not the one.  If you don’t take their attacks seriously, you are not the one.  This is a real illness.  It can ruin a persons life.  

If the person you’re starting to have feelings for suffers from anxiety, you need to expect that you’ll experience at least one, if not more, while you’re with them. These are not a joke.  We can not calm down.  And if we tell you we don’t know why were are anxious, we really don’t.  Were not lying.  We don’t know why our brain is like this but we can promise you that we are freaking the fuck out.  Ask us what we need.  Be there please.  If this is something you don’t want to “make time for” walk away from this now.

If the person you just started talking to suffers from depression, expect to hold them during breakdowns.  Sometimes we will be sad and cry a lot and not even know why. Certain days you might have to force us out of bed.  Other days you might find us sitting on the bathroom floor with a blank empty stare.  We feel empty.  We feel worthless.  We feel sad.  Pick us up, tell us were worthy, help us be a little bit better.  Don’t leave us anywhere alone, were really scared.  If you can’t handle this because its “too much pressure” please please don’t get involved with us, we don’t like feeling like were a burden.

If the person you’re thinking about dating deals with bipolar disorder, don’t just tell them to take medication.  Don’t tell us we have a problem when we’ve started an hour long fight over you saying a word wrong to us.  We want to stop yelling as well.  We don’t even know why were so mad, and now were crying, and you’re looking at us like were crazy.  Were not taking our medication because we want to be okay without it.  Just let us calm down then try and talk to us.  As hard as it seems for you, its even harder for us.  Were experiencing something because we think we want to but at the same time trying to stop it.  If we have a manic episode we will be very tired afterward and very upset.  Tell us you aren’t mad because what ever we said, we didn’t mean it, and we will overthink it forever.  We hate ourselves but don’t want you to hate us too.  If this is too crazy for you, we understand, just be our friend then.  We don’t want to take our shit out on you but we will, so if you are going to react really badly it’d be better to just not put yourself in the position. 

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These aren’t the only illnesses but these are the ones that I live with and suffer from on a daily basis.  It is so important that you help people through these things and stand with them 110%. Spread awareness of these things.

Dating when you’re borderline is like going through 8 breakups in one day and the other person doesn’t even know

I refuse to date again unless someone cares to know every detail about me. Someone who listens on bad days and knows how to handle them, not walk away or shut me out. Someone who doesn’t expect me to foot the bill or put in all of the effort. Someone who listens to my favorite music to understand why it means so much. Someone who doesn’t selfishly use me as a guinea pig to figure out their sexuality, while sleeping around on the side. I don’t need another person who is going to sneak around, cheat, or play games. I’ve had my fair share of terrible and toxic experiences and I’m tired. I refuse to continuously put myself and my heart on the line just to be screwed over by people that don’t deserve it. I’ve experienced it all and now, I’ve learned from it. I like to think that one day, I’ll spend the rest of my life with someone. But for now, I’ll learn to enjoy being alone in the mean time. I refuse to do it again and I simply can’t handle it another time. I’m done wasting my time. 

For now, I’ll enjoy the quiet until someone makes it worth it. 

Growing up I was constantly invalidated/told I was wrong or bad/in trouble for the smallest things.

As a result I’m constantly apologising and afraid I’ve done something wrong.