Me, Clearly Traumatized: Yeah, But Like, What If I’m Faking It??? Like, What If It’s Not Real???

“You will always be fond of me.

I represent to you all the sins you never had the courage to commit.”

- Oscar Wilde

Old people can"t understand when younger people are willing to cut a whole relative off. They have lived their entire lives in guilt or based on some sense of loyalty to someone based on blood. People will abuse you betting on that fact, just because ya’ll are blood that means you have to accept it. No, you don’t.

Abusive parents don’t ALWAYS seem abusive. Sometimes they can be sweet.

You need to remember that just because they were sweet once they aren’t good people.

They still hurt you. They still did awful things, said awful things.

Your abuse is no less valid because your abuser can seem nice from time to time.

Every time I see you

I think

"This is it

I could never love a person more"

And then you show me these new things

These new ways to love

New things to fall for

New ways to feel.

I don't know how you do it

But you out do yourself

Every damn time.

PSA

telling your neurodivergent/mentally ill kid:

“you can’t do anything right without your meds”

“you’ll never amount to anything without your meds”

“i like you better on your meds”

“you’re stupid without your meds”

“you embarass me off your meds”

“you’re too embarassing to be seen in public without your meds"

“no one could ever want to be your friend without your meds”

“the meds must be working because you accomplished something”

“the meds are working because you’re quieter”

is EXACTLY THE SAME as telling them:

“you can’t do anything right”

“you’ll never amount to anything”

“i don’t like you”

“you’re stupid”

“i’m ashamed of you”

“you’re too embarrassing to be in public, i’m embarassed to be seen with you”

“no one could ever want to be your friend”

“you didn’t earn your accomplishments”

and “i wish you didn’t exist, so at least be quiet so i can pretend you don’t"

PASS IT ON

(this is not directed at anyone who chooses to take medication, this is about parents/siblings/ect. who talk to ppl this way)

I think sometimes we’re too hard on ourselves. We wrinkle our nose at our reflection in the mirror, we long to look or feel a different way, we compare, scold, bully and dislike ourselves, all the time.

But we forget that we’ve been through so much. Those people might not have done. Our bodies have fought constant battles, overcome many hurdles, fallen down, got back up and continued, no matter how injured, tired or sick we’ve felt.

Those scars manifest and show in different ways, and some may not show at all. Someone else’s success is not your failure, and comparing yourself to someone or something that has not led the exact life you’ve led with your brain chemistry, body and decisions is an unfair game.

The fact you’re reading this now is an enormous triumph, and we should give ourselves more credit. You are loved, wanted, and valid. You should be proud of yourself because you are doing just fine. Even just holding on is enough. You are enough.

+20lbs and no relapses in 11 months. Bye bye anorexia, you’re canceled. 💅❤

just because a love is temporary doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. sometimes love ends, sometimes love fades. you can’t always determine the course that it takes. you aren’t wasting your time; you’re just counting down the days until you meet the person with a love that finally stays.

— alhwrites

We should stop making kids who already struggle fixing themselves think that it is their responsibility to fix their bullies too