What’re some strategies you’ve used to shut down sexism when you encounter it? Like I never know what to say when it happens. Do you have some sentence frames or something thatve been effective?
It’s not complicated and dramatic for me like it was when I was 20. I’ve said stuff as simple as:
“Dude, you can’t say shit like that about her. It’s so disrespectful.”
“You’re taking your anger toward one woman and using it to judge all women. What if someone you were into did that to you?”
“You have to understand that women have to be more on the defensive about guys and respect that boundary no matter what your intentions are.”
“If you don’t like her profile then just don’t message her. Sending her mean shit is just bullying and you’re honestly too old for that.”
These are all paraphrases I can remember telling guy friends. I used to think I had to have a sit down conversation and quote bell hooks and shit, but it’s literally as simple as vocally and explicitly letting them know the behavior isn’t appropriate.
Do they instantly become feminists overnight? No. But do they respond to consistent correction done with care by someone who they’re cool with, someone who’s still there to grow with them the next day? Yeah, they do.
if an archaeologist says an artifact was probably for “ritual purposes” it means “i have no fuckin clue”
but if they say it was for “fertility rituals” they mean “i know exactly what it was for but i dont want to say ‘ancient dildo’”
Taste closed
gookgod:
me: dane i wanna fight bill o’reilly’s old arss so bad
me: i prefer civil debate with reason and logic
this is stomp dog it shows up to stomp away sadness
me on a date: so how do you feel about feminism
them: not happy with it to be honest
me, shoving breadsticks into my purse: sorry i have to -
them: i feel like most feminist spaces still aren't inclusive enough of women of colour, trans women, lbpq women, women with disabilities,
me, slowly returning breadsticks: go on
I was thinking about why I prefer to read manga over American comics (as in, monthly serialized comics) and, putting aside opinions about the “quality” of either medium, I think the reason why is because I have absolutely no idea how American comics work.
Say you’re a complete noob to manga. You don’t know shit about it. But that One Piece thing you saw on TV looks really cool and you want to read it. Where do you start? Volume 1 and go from there.
But imagine the same situation but with comics. You just saw the new Spiderman movie and now you got a craving for more like it. Where do you begin? Well, no one knows because there’s been 901823434^34 different iterations of the character for decades.
With manga, there’s usually one guy (and maybe a team of artists under them to help) working on it. Even if it goes on for years or may switch leads, there’s usually some “consistency” to keep everything in check. With American comics on the other hand, it’s the complete opposite: you have multiple different writers and artists, each contributing their own take on the character: alternate timelines, alternate motifs, etc etc. It’s all a big clusterfuck to me and I have no idea how anyone can keep track of it all.
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