I’m Actually Not All That Outspoken About My Sexuality. But Youth Are Often Confused About Their Sexuality
I’m actually not all that outspoken about my sexuality. But youth are often confused about their sexuality because of things like this. Every day when I was growing up this is what I saw. One man and one woman fall in love and have sex, get married, sometimes have babies (or it is implied). Over and over and over I see this. The message I got from movies, TV, books, and my peers was that I was defective and broken--lesser. Trying to speak up against the constant stream of ‘one man and one woman’ is difficult; so sometimes you find yourself shouting a little, putting it out there more and more.
Honestly, my sexuality isn’t your problem. What I want is a day when I can be who I am without having to explain what I am; I just want acceptance. I worry that without speaking out, without getting ourselves heard, there will never be acceptance. Keeping a part of yourself in the dark implies shame; I don’t want to be ashamed of who I am.
Consider this: what sexuality has the most voice? Is it possible that millions of people feel the same as you about the constant stream of heterosexuality being ‘shoved’ in our face.
Please do not misunderstand. I am not trying to shame you in any way shape or form.
Whats with any sexuality shoving shit in our faces.. Great you’re gay/asexual/etc… But why is it my business.. Unless we are talking about civil rights. And why can’t I think trannies are weird without being called hateful things. It is weird. Will i give them or anyone respect until they dont deserve it? Of course I will. Why are we trying to force everyone into thinking the same way by shaming?
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You are not alone. I don’t know your specific situation but my asexuality is like a roller-coaster; some days I’m proud and comfortable and other days I feel ashamed and broken. My family is difficult. Only one person in my family, my cousin, knows I’m asexual. I have a deep fear of ever telling anyone else. I don’t talk much at family gatherings so I hear everything they say, nothing I’ve heard lends me to believe they would be supportive. The three friends I’ve told, had no idea how to react so they didn’t. It makes me feel very lonely.
Does anyone else know what it’s like to be an asexual? Does anyone know how frustrating it is? please tell me I’m not alone, please tell me someone understands what I’m going through, my pain.
Every time a post on queerplatonic relationships makes its way around tumblr, the comments are inevitably filled with a flood of “IT’S CALLED FRIENDSHIP” or “WHY DO YOU NEED A WORD FOR THIS.”
Do you honestly think society regards friendship as an acceptable substitute for romance and marriage? The thing is, most aros would LOVE if it could just be called friendship.
Because that would mean a world where:
Friendships are considered equal to or sometimes *SHOCK HORROR* more important than romantic relationships. This is not an exceptional occurrence.
Romantic partners know that they might not be their datemate’s Most Important Person and are not bothered by this.
People commonly plan major life events around their friends up to and including housing, finances, employment, ect.
It is common for people to be in their 30s, 40s, 50s, hell even old age having lived with friends that entire time and no one has ever asked them why they’re not married.
It is common for people to have a committed lifelong partnership with their friend and no one bats an eye.
Having a life friend is considered something that can be regarded as equally close to marriage. It is also taken just as seriously.
Until the day that those are true, friendship is unfortunately not an accurate word to convey the types of relationships we’re talking about.
My dog died and fuck anyone that says I'm incapable of love because I've been miserable for two weeks.
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I'm 27 and finally found out I'm different...not broken, go figure
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