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Woag, artfight card be upon ye.
HEY GUESS WHAT, I'VE SPRAYED WHIPPED CREAM ON THIS MAN AND THEN CALLED HIM CREAM OF CAT
To Wido
- His boyfriend (The burrito man)
drew my alter, DESPERATE DIVISON!!
We're greasy.
The system do be slipping.
Beware Pre-T ppl planning to go on T, you will get oily.
Our glasses are slipping oh god oh fuck oh fffffffuck
Honestly not to be traumatized on main but like. Using horror to heal is such a wonderful thing and I wanna talk abt it.
I can really only speak for myself so I'm gonna talk abt my experiences with it.
One of my most helpful coping mechanisms is playing Amnesia: The Dark Descent. Amnesia is known to be one of the scariest and fucked up games of its time, and still renowned as one of the best horror games. It dives into things like torture, manipulation, unrelenting nightmares, and reality itself falling apart due to a simple action. Yet playing this game and indulging in its story and its lore helps both distract and sort of heal from life when particular memories get bad.
I use weirdcore/liminal spaces/The Backrooms to cope with my derealization issues.
I use analog horror and the Trollge to help cope with my paranoia and fear of the unknown.
I use SCP to help with fear of institutions and anamolies otherwise unable to be explained.
I use FNaF to help with terrible memories. In fact, something my brain has taken to doing is defaulting into believing I'm Michael Afton to escape from flashbacks, phantom sensations, and other things that constantly remind me of my past ab//use.
I use slashers like Michael Myers and Mr. Voorhees for fear of people larger than me (which is a lot of people, Im a very small guy) and honestly they help me accept parts of me that I hate.
It sounds terrible on paper but a lot of people can actually relate to a lot of topics in horror. Its sort of a roundabout way to get that trauma and those memories out in the open and get them resolved, even if its temporarily. Because progress is still progress, no matter how miniscule.
Strangely enough, indulging in horror reminds me that I didn't deserve it, its not my fault, and I. Will. Get. Better. I will recover. And I think thats why a lot of people with trauma turn to horror. Because when everything was shitty and when they were scared the most, horror was a proper escape. It helped, and it continues to help.
I think a lot of people use horror as a coping mechanism and I think its something that people who aren't going through the trauma recovery process should be more open-minded about. I always get odd comments about using horror as coping mechanisms and I think people should be more widely accepting of seemingly unorthodox, but healthy, ways to cope. We all cope differently.
So... are we healing our trauma through ARG Horror and Analog Horror nowadays? Take The Walten Files, Local 58, and The Mandela Catalogue, for example.
I think horror has become one of the only safe and consumable space for catharsis: to expose, explore and heal our trauma.
So was anyone gonna tell me that Gerard Way is a certified He/They or was I sposed to figure that out from a tumblr post?
Hate that my transition goals are either Larry Johnson or a very specific interpretation of Barney Calhoun. Like i cant be a twink and a bear at the same time, brain pick a body type.
-Nori
DO:
• Accept them. Tell them that you still respect and care for them.
• Tell them that you are there if they need your help.
• Tell them to let you know if there are any triggers that are important for you to know. If they choose to tell you any, be patient and understanding. Listen attentively.
Helpful things to say or ask:
• “Is there anything you need me to do to make sure you feel safe in our relationship?
• “If you want to tell me more about it, I am here to listen.”
• “If there are any triggers you think I should be aware of, please let me know.”
• “I’m here if you need help with anything.”
• “I still love you and you are still my friend/family/partner.”
DON’T:
• Ask if they are dangerous or if they are going to harm you.
• Ask them what their trauma is.
• Call them crazy.
• Suggest that their mental illness is caused by supernatural or pseudoscientific means. (AKA, NEVER suggest that someone is possessed or haunted.)
• Bombard them with questions.
• Demand proof.
• Force then to switch as evidence.
• React in an unkind or rude way.
• Minimize or invalidate them.
• Tell them DID isn’t real.
• Deny their existence or refuse to call their alters by their names.
• Demand any answers from them.
Unhelpful things to say or ask:
• “I’ve known you for [span of time]. I would have noticed if you had it.”
• “It’s fine as long as you aren’t going to murder me.”
• “What’s your trauma? Did [traumatic event] happen to you?”
• “Isn’t that really rare? How could you have it?”
• “You had an easy childhood so there’s no way.”
• “You don’t know what ‘hard’ is.” “You were lucky to have the childhood you had.”
• “I just don’t get why you’re doing this to me.”
• “Can you imagine how hard this is for me?”
• “Tell me your triggers.”
DO:
• Be patient with them.
• Tell them that it’s okay, and to take their time.
• Politely ask who’s fronting.
• Reintroduce yourself, as if a new person just walked into the room.
• Fill them in if they are unaware of what is going on.
DON’T:
• Snap or clap in their face.
• Express that you only want to interact with the previously fronting alter.
• Raise your voice, or try to force them to “snap out of” their dissociation.
• Ask if they are going to harm you, or if they are “evil”.
• Tell them “they should know what’s happening”, or refuse to fill them in on what is happening.
• Accuse or blame them for not being a good friend, not listening, or dissociating. 
DID is a highly stigmatized disorder. People fear disclosing this disorder to their loved ones, because their safety could be compromised. They trusted you enough to tell you. It is your job to create a space of love, acceptance, and respect for them.
🖤 Delphine
Okay the last post got me thinking so now yall gotta suffer with me.
Payday Gang but its who gets to go to the cookout/what they doin (Joy isnt included cause I main them so yeah, Joy's hosting)
Dallas- Yes. Honestly I feel like Dallas makes killer burgers so like he's cooking.
Wolf- Yeah, he's chill. He brings drinks.
Hoxton- Seems like a dick upon first glance but he seems really nice. Broke him out of jail and one of his lines was "Joy! I'm glad you could make it!" (Somethin like that, clover was screaming in the background). So yeah, he's allowed in. I think he also would bring drinks.
Chains- Yeah! He's also helping cook, since I feel like he's sort of the middle man between the people with no spice tolerance and Jiro.
Sokol- Absolutely he can. He sets up a game of street hockey and fucking floors everyone.
Dragan- Mans looked at Joy and rly said "You're getting a bit pudgy." I didnt take offense but also fuck you man. He can have a plate but I'm not talking to him
Bonnie- Honestly she was one of the first people to be invited. I think she brings like super high quality drinks and motts apple juice.
Jimmy- Also one of the first people invited. He contemplates bringing drugs but bakes instead and brings cupcakes or smth. Are they laced? Fuck around and find out.
Sydney- Helped plan it! She decorated the safehouse and set everything up.
Clover- She's part of the group of people who didnt originally want to go but saw how much effort was put into it and just went "mmmnyeh alright" and showed up. Brought napkins and silverware. It sounds like slacking but fr she came through when no one else did.
Houston- Bro listen I owe him. I think he brings beers and maybe like. Mac n cheese. Its rly good and everyone is all "Hey Houston good job" but he's sweating cause its just like six boxes of kraft mac.
Jacket- Also another one of the first people invited. He brings a box of casettes for the music. If anyone argues with his song choices I will physically fight them.
Rust- He wasn't gonna go but Jimmy was so fuckin annoying abt it that he just gave in and went. He also wasnt gonna bring anything but just grabbed a bottle of whiskey and called it good.
Wick- I would die for this man. I firmly believes he cooks in his spare time to destress after heists so yeah. He's one of those people that everyone thinks he cooks really bad but then he brings food and all of a sudden he's making lunch for the crew every other day.
Sangres- Yes he's invited this man is a true bro. I know its kinda stereotypical but trust me, Mexican family members actually do bring tequila and some sort of Mexican food, probably homemade tacos, to big gatherings. Sangres is also a really good cook but his spice tolerance is fucked so all of his food is really spicy.
Jiro- How could I not let my own father attend the cookout?? Jiro brings sake and some sort of Japanese dish. He's a lot like Sangres; makes really good but f u c k i n g s p i c y food.
Bodhi- Yes. This man goes all out and fucking brings a whole Costco supply of food.
Duke- This is the kind of guy I'd want at a party. He brings really fucking good alcohol but is also the designated driver. V v responsible, only small amounts of alcohol at a time.
Scarface- I dont know a lot abt this guy but he seems aight. This guy's a wild card atm so when i figure it out ill get back to you.
Bain- Literally got invited mid-heist becuase adhd is a bitch. Whether or not he actually shows is debatable, but I think he'd bring some pothead concotion like noodle sandwiches or some shit.
Vlad- YEAAAAAH! I love Vlad, honestly, he's awesome. I think this guy really plays into the Russian stereotype for shits and giggles and fuckin bring vodka and potatoes.
Locke- *stares motherfuckerdly* Youre on thin ice, fuckwad. I dont have a set reason for my hatred towards Locke, I just really dont like his vibes. I'll let him in but like Dragan, I wont talk to him.
The Butler- :D absolutely! I dont know what he would bring but honestly he could bring lsd and id trust him w my drink.
Ethan and Hila: No, yall mean ;-;
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