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oxygen the series: episode 13

non-sexual intimacy is my kink and this drama is the king of it. 

i’ve never seen a drama where the main couple gets together so early and there is ZERO relationship drama.  it’s all external conflict that they face head-on as a unit. communication + respect + patience + small touches to show they are precious to you…soooo good.

just skip through the hetero bullshit (didn’t watch any of it after ep 2 lol) and this is a very rare gem of a show. it has a soft, sentimental tone overall (except for big bunny energy kao/ball!) because the two main characters are both more reserved and quiet and when they were delivering the cheesiest of lines coming from any other character it is SO in-character for them felt. 

“I couldn’t find him an adopter so I adopted him. You don’t have to worry now.”

MY LOVE MIX-UP! THAILAND (2024) episode 03.

pan people are allowed to:

have gender preferences

not have gender preferences

be attracted to genders in different ways

be attracted to genders in the same way

experience attraction where gender is a determining factor

experience attraction where gender is not a determining factor

be in any kind of relationship

not be in any relationship at all

use gay/bi/queer/etc as personal umbrella terms

also identify as bi

not want to be referred to as anything but pan

be aro, ace, aroace, or anywhere on the ace/aro spectrums

have control over the terminology used to refer to them

have full control over their identity/label(s) in general

this has been a psa

Me, before episode 6: I love Pat so much. I adore him. I couldn’t possibly love him more.

Me, after episode 6: Pat just loves proving me wrong. He is the best character. How will I ever love another character again after Pat. Precious baby.

- It’s nothing 

- What do you mean?

- It doesn’t mean anything.

heidi priebe / i promised you the moon

me: *crying*

friend: what’s going on? why are you crying?

me: *gestures vaguely towards thailand* 

BAD BUDDY (2021-2022) | insp by @miscellar

A small Bad Buddy meta

After much reading and rewatching I just had to say...

We see pat use the four signs on ink and then see pa use it too. What stood out for me was that while they thought they were using it to test the other person's feelings, they were unwittingly using it on themselves. And we see the dichotomy so clearly, because pa confirms her own feelings in the process while pat doesn't respond to those signs himself. I've seen a lot of y'all say how he wasn't too disappointed when ink didn't react but note he didn't react either and he must have realised that. That the feelings he once felt weren't exactly the same and we see him wonder a bit as to what changed.

He's contemplating this when he's at the instrument shop and pran arrives and automatically realises. Here we see him use the signs not on pran but on himself! It just shows how he understood that the signs are better when used on oneself because only you truly know how you feel about someone, whereas the other person may not openly react to your signs. And this is proven by how pran nor ink reacted when the signs were used because they were both repressing and hiding their crushes, obviously they are not going to let on that they have feelings, they were anyway finding it difficult to do so(pran in the hallway when pat gives him his guitar...his face was such a giveaway and ink at the restaurant with pa ..again her face after pa helped her with the dirt in her eye was telling)..so both have their guards up.

So here pat notices how he himself reacts to pran in the context of how their relationship has been going and it sort of falls into place. It explains not just his behaviour but also pran. Because pran could easily cut him off and not associate at all with him, he could have moved out of the form if he actually wanted to..the only reason he is staying then and keeping up their secret association must be because of something pat is just coming to put his finger on. Its here he realises that they shouldn't even be friends with the way their families work and now he questions..what exactly are they? And we see that so beautifully communicated at the end of the episode on the rooftop.

Coming back to pat noticing him response to the four signs...he notices his feelings now and the only reason he hasn't so far was because he probably didn't think it was possible.....for him to like also like boys and for that boy to be pran. But that's why we get the flashbacks and all the things they went through in high school to show that pat always did like pran but he never got a chance to explore those feelings and because he never expected them. What is so amazing and one of the highlights of this show, is that he doesn't for one moment grudge himself his feelings. He doesn't beat himself up or question it, he accepts that sexuality is fluid and understands that he can like whoever he wants. This says so much about his character and it was at this point at which we all fell for pat (cause by then we were all already gone for pran) and it was after this that the "walking green flag" posts started showing. The way in which they portrayed Pat's character arc was so true to a realistic experience of understanding fluid sexuality, I cannot stop applauding.