I Think Your Problems Are Very Valid And Your Trauma Is Not Any Less Important Than Others' . I Can't

First you procrastinate on the task because it is not a big enough deal to get done urgently. Then you procrastinate on the task because it has become such a big deal that doing it is overwhelming. You would think that this implies a middle point where it is just big enough of a deal to get done easily, however the inherent perversity of the universe's causal geometry prevents this

"if you want attention you must ask for it" ID RATHER DIE!!!

I think often about how the stories of changelings likely came from people trying to understand what was going on with their autistic child, and it comforts me sometimes- as an autistic person- on nights when I lay awake thinking that I don't belong or how the world is harsh to those who don't fit in to think that perhaps I belonged to the Fae and that there is a place for me among those folk whose rules are so very different from what they are here and that maybe I am not too odd or different and perhaps there is just something magical about me and I needn't try to belong at all

This. Exactly this. I literally couldn't find my diary for like a year because of this. Then I forgot I had one until I needed to rant again.

If you have adhd AND autism, you know that although the symptoms can be VERY similar, they can also clash and then team up to piss you off.

Example:

ADHD: causes me to be a bit disorganized

Autism: craves order and structure

You see where this is going.

I'm bad at looking for things, but I have like five minutes to find it before I start losing my mind. I literally put my work clothes in a specific spot to avoid this, but I don't have my own room so it happened anyway because people like to move my stuff while I'm sleeping. It's always in an obvious spot, but that's the last place I would thing to check because IT'S TOO OBVIOUS.

Tips to make showering easier when you are physically disabled:

Since every list titled something along the lines of “top 10 tips to make showering easier for disabled people” is only helpful for mental disabilities and is barely anywhere near useful when it comes to physical disabilities, allow me to introduce you to my list of “tips to make showering easier and less painful for those with physical disabilities”

Shower chair/stool: this allows you to sit in the shower without having to sit on the floor of the tub, which can be a difficult position to stand up from and can just cause more pain, especially in knees. They're relatively cheap on Amazon

Install railings and grab bars: these can help getting in and out of the shower, as well as help to stand up if you decide to sit. Alternatively, if you fall, there's a chance you can grab one and save yourself from hitting your head or otherwise seriously injuring yourself

Use the hottest water you can stand: heat is good for pain treatment, especially when it comes to muscle pain. Just remember that the hot water doesn't last forever. EDITING TO ADD, DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU HAVE POTS OR ANY OTHER CONDITION THAT INCREASES YOUR SENSITIVITY TO HEAT AND RISK OF FAINTING!!!!!

Changing tables or low shelves: having all your needed things available to you at a level that you can reach easily while sitting and also does not involve reaching up as much is always good. You can have stands placed in your shower for hair products, body wash, etc, and/or small tables just outside the shower/bath that you may need but don't want to get/ can’t get wet

Give yourself a lot of time: if you can, plan your showers for times when you will have a lot of free time, both so you can take your time in the shower and so that you can give yourself plenty of time to rest after the fact. Especially helpful for those with chronic pain and/or chronic fatigue 

Drink water!: before getting into the shower, drink lots of water! The heat will dehydrate you and make you light headed, so make sure you are properly hydrated beforehand. If you’re like me and you’re prone to dehydration, bring a cold water bottle into the shower with you. Bonus points if it's insulated so now matter how heat and steamy the bathroom gets the water stays nice and cool. Also make sure to drink cold water after getting out of the shower too

Have places to rest your arms and lean: if you can't keep your arms raised for very long, make sure you have places to rest your arms and/or elbow while washing your hair/body. Could be shelves you install, the edge of the showers built in shelves, the faucet or tap, etc. Alternatively, if you sit on the floor of the bathtub you can lean your head back and rest your elbow on the sides of the tub

Keep a dry cloth just outside the shower: it's often easier to use aids like handrails with dry hands, so keep a small dry cloth or two just outside the shower, easily in reach but where it will stay dry. Use it to dry off your hands so you have a better grip. Can also be helpful if you have soap dripping towards your eyes lol

Mindfulness: I KNOW, I KNOW! Trust me, I know. I despised the idea when it was brought up to me. First heard about it in my DBT group and figured it would be no help, especially for my chronic pain. But honestly, allowing yourself to focus on anything outside of your body is great. Focus on the sound of the water. Focus on the feeling of the water raining down on you. The feeling of the water on your skin. It can even be helpful to focus on and allow yourself to feel the pain rather than trying to distract from it or hide it

Lie down right after your shower: as soon as you get out of the shower and dry off just a little, lie down. I personally find this especially helpful for my back and shoulder pain, as after sitting or standing the muscles and bones can feel tight and compacted; lying down gives your body time to decompress.

Time your shower with your pain meds: time it so that you go into your shower right around when your pain meds are kicking in. For example, Advil typically takes 30 minutes to kick in, so plan to shower 30-45 minutes after taking some. Same with any other pain meds you take

Please reblog and add your own!!!!!!! lets compile a whole long list of tips and tricks to make our lives easier!

with adhd/autism it's funny like. people will call you weird all your life, people will bully you for your "outlandish" behaviour, people will criticize literally everything you do as "not normal", BUT THE SECOND YOU GET DIAGNOSED (or suggest you might have it) they're like "huh what but you're so normal, you're literally the most normal person I've ever seen, you're literally so normal and absolutely nothing is wrong with you? why would you have that now all of a sudden???"

People aren't joking when they say progress isn't linear... I hate it here

Oh I don't like how my parents are treating me... But I guess it's normal. I'll try to be better :)

Hm. Being better didn't work. Maybe I'll try again. :)

Okay maybe I'm just having some trouble. They could be nicer about it though

Okay. They're definitely mistreating me. Someone help?

Hm. Maybe I should run away. Maybe if they find out how much they're hiring me, they'll stop.

They know... They don't care. I wish someone would come and save me.

Maybe if I tell them again, they'll care this time and change?

They still don't care. I'll leave at 18. I can make it.

Not sure if I can make it that long, but at least it's not as bad as it was before.

Maybe I was just overreacting and it's not that bad. It could've been way worse

It was pretty bad. Once I move out, I'm cutting them off.

But I can't abandon them.... They're my family...

But I wouldn't let my friends be treated that way. I should stick to the plan

The plan didn't work, but I still plan to cut contact.

But I've been a burden for a while. The least I could do is repay them and stick around. It doesn't matter if I'd let my friends do it. They're not as awful as me

They're back at it.... I'm leaving... When I finally get the money

Oh so you're just going to use them until you get on your feet and then abandon them????

billford animatic i made to the song 'confrontation'! ^^

Haven't seen anyone mention the fact that sanrio is kinda racist... That's another reason to be "bitter"