Hope Is A Skill

So I digital painted this, I started out following a Bob Ross tutorial (Secluded Bridge) but then we hit a little waterfall and I liked the waterfall so much that I ended up doing my own thing instead.

Literally sobbing. A judge, a US judge defended us. A judge brought up intersex people, using the term intersex, to *defend* us by not allowing our erasure. I'm having a lot of feelings right now

Since this blew up considerably, if you would like to help a disabled intersex person afford their medications and transportation to appointments, please consider sending a dollar or two via cashapp to $ElJay777 🥰 Absolutely no pressure, no guilt trips here. Just if you have it to spare and would like to help. Truly inspiring and encouranging to see this post reach so many and have so much love shown, thank you all so much for seeing us and supporting us. It really makes a difference ❤️

"um OP i didn't understand a word of this?" that's because it's not for you. it's for the odd women who live in my phone and they're all giggling and hitting the like button and squeezing my shoulders and saying "another perfect post handsome :)" move along

Sometimes just for fun I write little unhinged bits of improvised poetry that’s more about playing with how words sound than saying anything specific and often it’s like

“I don’t know but it flows even if it is so-so”

And anyway I just looked at one of them and remembered that I wrote the phrase

“Like a cat with a mouthful of bees”

I'm curious. Reblog this if you know how to cook

I don’t even care if it’s macaroni, ramen or those little bowls you stick in the microwave. Please, I need reassurance that most of the population on tumblr WOULDN’T STARVE TO DEATH if their parents couldn’t fix them food or they couldn’t go out to eat. 

Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

dnd party comprised of five catboy bards. tabaxstreet boys.

Finally out of the hospital and reunited with my art tablet. Here's a digital painting of some tulips that I did this morning!

So... I sorta kinda maybe couldn't help myself and made a video singing this, lol

clears my throat. hellyeahlujah. is that anything

Okay but for real imagine a Victorian Orphan going to a Chinese food buffet. Imagine the look on Timmy the Coal Miner’s face when you tell him he can eat as much as he wants. He’s gonna be ecstatic

why do people think victorian orphans were like. the peak of sheltered pure innocence