I'm Definitely A Huge Mess LMAO

I know that probably I'm not supposed to talk, but your honor, in my defense I definitely forgot about website Tumblr because I only use Tumblr app at my cellphone and I admit it. Actually I don't even know so much about how Tumblr works at all, but should I try website Tumblr once?

I really don't understand why anyone would use a carrd on tumblr of all places, this is literally a blogging platform just put all your information in your about page? Like you can have as many pages as you want it's a blog, why are you linking to another website for?

I haven't seen any mckirk content for a bit and I am getting withdrawals ☹️☹️

Like spones is great (though I'm not crazy over it, its a decent ship not my fave) but WHERE IS THE MCKIRK CONTENT MAN 😭

for requests would u consider drawing rhys 👉👈 love ur expressions btw!!! ur art tasty 🤎

Here he is… the boy disaster™️

DONT LIKE, REBLOG

so people who do this may see it.

The growing problem of "they" for trans people

Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"

Why is this a problem?

Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"

Example situation

Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.

Do you see the problem now?

The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.

"Okay, what should I do?"

Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.

That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.

Edit:

I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!

Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way

Clarification on the term 'misgendering'

While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.

Other things you should avoid

* Obviously, these won't apply to every situation. These are just general rules to follow UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON. Once they tell you what they're comfortable with, then do what they ask, not what some random tumblr post says

Calling gender non-conforming people 'it'

Deadnaming, obviously

Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person

Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity

Automatically introducing someone as trans

Assuming someone is out to other family or friends

Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group

Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments

Guess what.

Leonard Nimoy

March 26, 1931 – February 27, 2015

Ten years today since we lost you, Mr. Nimoy.

We miss you.

Okay so maybe yall can explain it to me because I’m still new here

So before I watched Star Trek, there seemed to be this ongoing joke about Captain Kirk being a “fatass” like Family Guy, Epic Rap Battles of History and I think even Robot Chicken (don’t quote me on this) made this joke and I don’t get it. Like is Kirk “fat” by 60s standards or does William Shatner just gain weight as the show goes on because you know, he’s fucking human ?

Like I even saw a Reddit post from 2 years ago trying to claim Kirk is “chubby” and “wearing a girdle” and using these photos as reference and he looks like a regular fucking dude so I’m confused. Like he’s not fat and even if he was that’s not a bad thing at all so I don’t get why certain fans have been assholes about this for so fucking long. Like he’s fine. He looks like he’s average weight. And then there’s claims his shirts just make him “look fat” like the green shirt, when he literally looks the same.

I don’t know maybe I’m crazy but Kirk looks absolutely fine and even if he was “fat” that shouldn’t be something to riff on, especially now in 2025 but people still do it.