You Really Enjoy Romanticizing Women’s Suffering

You really enjoy romanticizing women’s suffering

Use your face if you want to insult me, you coward.

But I'll reply anyway, because it honestly is kind of annoying how many people don't understand what I'm saying in my arranged marriage post. I assume you haven't really read anything else I've written because a whole lot of it is pointing out how women are oppressed and harmed in Jane Austen's works and begging people to stop hating on abused 16-18 year-old fictional girls.

My point in that post is that women would have different reactions to arranged marriage because a lot of people buy into oppression. That is how oppression is perpetuated. Right now, in our world, people are convincing women that the only natural form of childbirth is epidural-free and they aren't "real mothers" if they don't go through that. Mothers will tell you, sincerely, with a straight face, that you should have a "real natural birth" and that's it's a beautiful experience. That is complete and utter bullshit, and I know that because I've birthed a freaking baby. So if I write from the perspective of one of these women, am I "romanticizing women's suffering?" No. I'm showing how people can buy into things that persecute them. I'm telling a story about how someone can embrace something that harms them.

It's actually a better indictment of the arranged marriage system to show someone excited about it whose entire worldview crumbles after facing the reality. But it would also be interesting, and good fiction, and acknowledgement that people in the past had different ideas about love and marriage, to show women who want to climb socially, or be richer, or gain power, happy with their arranged partner because he's rich, powerful, or socially savvy.

"Stop writing women as Modern Girlboss Monoliths who all have the exact same worldview" ≠ "romanticizing women’s suffering"

In order to stop the culture of faking orgasms, we need to stop the culture of shaming others for their sexual experiences.

Can’t get your partner off on the first try? Cool. You can still be thoughtful and make them feel good.

Can get your partner off within 30 seconds? Awesome, good for you both, don’t let it get to your head.

Can make someone cum in less than 5, but for others, it’s a process that takes an hour? That’s alright, everyone’s different.

Does it take you 30 minutes to cum? That’s okay, you’re not broken, you’re not a failure.

Does it take you 10 seconds to cum? That’s great, you’re not a slut, you’re not overly sensitive or dirty.

Can’t cum without toys/vibrators? That’s awesome, that’s a valid part of sexual play!

Can only cum with loving, vanilla sex? That’s perfectly normal, and you will find lots of great partners to experience that with!

Can’t orgasm at all? THAT’S ALSO COOL. It’s not a bad thing, you can still enjoy sex TONNES just like others.

Orgasms are NOT the defining characteristic of your sexual prowess. They are great, they’re lovely when they happen, but for the love of science, stop bringing them up higher than they need to be.

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alcibiadesdildo

3 weeks ago

I’ve said this before but why mourn twink death when you can celebrate bear birth? Eat a burger and take a T shot.

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alcibiadesdildo

3 weeks ago

why do we even have legal genders anyway. maybe we should not have those

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alcibiadesdildo

2 months ago

The most important lesson of Marxism is that a better world is always possible. Be the nonbinary lesbian cyberqueen the 90s thought you would be

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alcibiadesdildo

5 months ago

Matching your freak is beautiful and all but what you really need is a boy who's infatuated with your freak. Down bad for your freak. Deeply intrigued by your freak. Eager to see more of your freak. Supportive of your freak. Gets bricked up witnessing your freak, even.

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2 months ago

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Complementary Reimagined) of a large teal building with a glass dome ceiling. Leaves and glowing vines can be seen through the glass.

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Rethinking Voxels) of the entrance to a large teal building with a glass dome ceiling. Lamp posts and flowerboxes have been built in front of it.

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Complementary Reimagined) of a large tree in the centre of the greenhouse, surrounded by a pond

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Rethinking Voxels) of a large tree in the centre of the greenhouse, surrounded by a pond

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Rethinking Voxels) of a greenhouse door surrounded by foliage and flowerboxes

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Rethinking Voxels) looking down from the second floor of the greenhouse at the crops growing on the first floor

Minecraft screenshot with fancy shaders (Complementary Reimagined) of the second floor of the greenhouse, full of trees and saplings

We had a storage warehouse on our realm already, but I really wanted a space for plant-specific storage for the ten million oak leaves I inevitably need to save for custom trees -- so I built us a greenhouse! I think this might be the largest build I've done yet!!

A couple of things have labels, but for the most part storage spaces are delineated by the plants themselves -- barrels for a particular type of leaf have the corresponding sapling sitting on top, flowerboxes show off what kinds of flowers go in the barrels next to them, etc. I really wanted the space to have practical room to store EVERY PLANT, but to also feel like the primary purposes is growing and enjoying them.

And bonus planning sketches:

sketches on graph paper with notes on how to arrange different sorts of plants in minecraft

a drawing on graph paper of the design of the greenhouse's domed ceiling

a drawing on graph paper that shows a floorplan of the greenhouse, labelling where different plants go

it took a LOT of planning -- these are just a few of the sketches I did trying to figure out where everything should go. IT WAS HONESTLY QUITE INTIMIDATING TO SORT OUT, I can't believe it's done!!

Also, a couple shots of the little dirt storage room just b/c I think it turned out nice too: