In Order To Stop The Culture Of Faking Orgasms, We Need To Stop The Culture Of Shaming Others For Their

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I’ve been obsessed with this tweet for a while so I’m posting the it to tumblr to inflict it on more people

I’ll never understand the reasoning behind the whole “Darcy was never a jerk! He was just shy/anxious/overwhelmed” argument because… none of that justifies his actions towards those of Meryton. Even if he was shy, he would know better than to insult people he hardly knows!

And why would you even want to gloss over it?!? So much of Darcy’s appeal is that he realizes that he has been proud and rude and actively chooses to change and better himself.

There is such a difference between “wow, she’s right. My behavior has been terrible and I don’t want to be like that. I will learn from this and readjust how I move about the world” and “ohhh no but I’m so shyyy, I didn’t mean to be rude :( aw shucks”

Completed hood, based off a 16th century ‘shame’ mask.

We had a storage warehouse on our realm already, but I really wanted a space for plant-specific storage for the ten million oak leaves I inevitably need to save for custom trees -- so I built us a greenhouse! I think this might be the largest build I've done yet!!

A couple of things have labels, but for the most part storage spaces are delineated by the plants themselves -- barrels for a particular type of leaf have the corresponding sapling sitting on top, flowerboxes show off what kinds of flowers go in the barrels next to them, etc. I really wanted the space to have practical room to store EVERY PLANT, but to also feel like the primary purposes is growing and enjoying them.

And bonus planning sketches:

it took a LOT of planning -- these are just a few of the sketches I did trying to figure out where everything should go. IT WAS HONESTLY QUITE INTIMIDATING TO SORT OUT, I can't believe it's done!!

Also, a couple shots of the little dirt storage room just b/c I think it turned out nice too:

If you wanna watch me walking through the space (these screenshots don't quite show it all), I streamed a little tour recently over here!

For the love of god and your cat and birds and the environment keep your cat indoors

you really cannot be surprised or upset when your outdoor cat gets bird flu at this point. it is to be expected that your cat is put at risk of many diseases including bird flu. if you are letting your cat outside at this time, especially in a high risk area, you are actively gambling with their life

It physically hurts me to block so many beautiful women but they are lying to me.

its crazy how many people will reflexively blame teenagers for literally anything. i dont think the puriteens are instituting porn bans guys i think theyre fourteen. i dont think the teen girls on tiktok are 'reinventing gender roles' i think maybe , bear with me here, they're getting these gender roles, from some sort of Society, that they live in. why are people so intent on blaming teenagersx for everything dont they have it shitty enoguh arleady. they have to go high school

In the past fifty years, fantasy’s greatest sin might be its creation of a bland, invariant, faux-Medieval European backdrop. The problem isn’t that every fantasy novel is set in the same place: pick a given book, and it probably deviates somehow. The problem is that the texture of this place gets everywhere.

What’s texture, specifically? Exactly what Elliot says: material culture. Social space. The textiles people use, the jobs they perform, the crops they harvest, the seasons they expect, even the way they construct their names. Fantasy writing doesn’t usually care much about these details, because it doesn’t usually care much about the little people – laborers, full-time mothers, sharecroppers, so on. (The last two books of Earthsea represent LeGuin’s remarkable attack on this tendency in her own writing.) So the fantasy writer defaults – fills in the tough details with the easiest available solution, and moves back to the world-saving, vengeance-seeking, intrigue-knotting narrative. Availability heuristics kick in, and we get another world of feudal serfs hunting deer and eating grains, of Western name constructions and Western social assumptions. (Husband and wife is not the universal historical norm for family structure, for instance.)

Defaulting is the root of a great many evils. Defaulting happens when we don’t think too much about something we write – a character description, a gender dynamic, a textile on display, the weave of the rug. Absent much thought, automaticity, the brain’s subsconscious autopilot, invokes the easiest available prototype – in the case of a gender dynamic, dad will read the paper, and mom will cut the protagonist’s hair. Or, in the case of worldbuilding, we default to the bland fantasy backdrop we know, and thereby reinforce it. It’s not done out of malice, but it’s still done.

The only way to fight this is by thinking about the little stuff. So: I was quite wrong. You do need to worldbuild pretty hard. Worldbuild against the grain, and worldbuild to challenge. Think about the little stuff. You don’t need to position every rain shadow and align every tectonic plate before you start your short story. But you do need to build a base of historical information that disrupts and overturns your implicit assumptions about how societies ‘ordinarily’ work, what they ‘ordinarily’ eat, who they ‘ordinarily’ sleep with. Remember that your slice of life experience is deeply atypical and selective, filtered through a particular culture with particular norms. If you stick to your easy automatic tendencies, you’ll produce sexist, racist writing – because our culture still has sexist, racist tendencies, tendencies we internalize, tendencies we can now even measure and quantify in a laboratory. And you’ll produce narrow writing, writing that generalizes a particular historical moment, its flavors and tongues, to a fantasy world that should be much broader and more varied. Don’t assume that the world you see around you, its structures and systems, is inevitable.

We... need worldbuilding by Seth Dickinson

words just get better when you put boy in front of them. boykissing boycuddles boyfriend boylove.. many such cases