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THIS IS WHY I SAY NO GENDER AND NOT AGENDER BECAUSE YES FOR ME IT MEANS THE SAME

BUT I DONT WANT THE LABEL BECAUSE LABELLING MY GENDER FEELS ICKY

I think personal labels can be useful for “there’s a word for it”, “I’m not alone”, and “oh neat, I know what to put in a search engine now” reasons, but I also think they can be troublesome.

Plenty of people won’t fit 100% neatly into a label, and when they encounter a rare exception to what is otherwise an accurate label for them, it can feel like an identity crisis.

The labels aren’t literally what you are. They’re words. They’re meant to assist communication and organization, not to control you.