Everyone Talks About Idols Like, “i Wanna Have Sex With Them” Or Whatever But I Just Want To Be

To anyone affected by the sudden news of Sulli’s passing: It’s okay to grieve and cry. Don’t let anyone else tell you something different. If you are in a similar situation regarding suicidal thoughts, reach out for help, no matter if it’s a family member, a friend, a help hotline, a therapist,… Nobody has to be alone in this.

If you want to be friends with me you don’t have to be “Hi, um, can, ya know, we be friends?”

It is 1000000000000000000000% percent ok if you just go into my inbox can go. “Man, I am so fucking pissed off at fucking Michael.” And I’ll most likely respond with, “Oh shit! What did Michael do now?“ 

Amen

Yknow i feel like appreciating jonghyun rn cuz he deserves it

Jonghyun was everything you could wish for in an idol and more. Beyond his talent, no one could talk to him without talking about what a good person he was. He was just that loveable and kind. Jonghyun was always outspoken about mental health, lgbtq+ rights, and inequality. He was often bashed in the industry for speaking out about all those things, yet he did it anyways. He was always the first one to cry, but he was also the first one to laugh. He poured his heart and soul into his music. He suffered from insomnia and yet he always put on a show with full energy. He had a voice that could bring you to tears just by listening to it. His #1 goal was always to be kind and gentle to his fans, to be their friend. And he sure as hell did a good job

This very important for every kpop fan

Something I wanted to say…Leaders

I have to say this after just realizing it with some of my favourite groups…personally I am NOT a fan of any kinds of hierarchy because I think we can only survive if we finally accept equality as a common thing for everyone. Now in kpop, there is this thing with leaders I lately felt like talking about because of that… what makes leaders the best and what doesn’t.

Being a leader means to guide the group, NOT to dominate it.

I’m not saying this because I want to shade or blame any other group, it’s just that some give different vibes here than others. NCT for example has almost 20 members by now, but somehow, they still manage an equality.

And that is what a leader has to do - bringing balance in the individuality of members to make them a team. And this is why being a leader is so hard.

You have to take care of every single member, every individual problem and need, every opinion. And then, you need to bring these together in ONE and balance them out to create the right vibe of the group because let’s be honest here, that makes 60% (at least) of a group.

I know not many people see this but it is also one big reason why some groups become big and others don’t, no matter what talent they have. It is the energy the group creates, and it is the leader’s job to guide them there.

People don’t see what thesee groups go through, we only see the outcome. A leader has to take care of all of it despite their own needs, need to solve every issue without being biased not only for the group but the company, and besides that, protect them from the wrong influences or possible scandals. They have to keep the face of the group and make it as easy as they can, no matter what.

And through all of that, fight their own insecurities. We don’t see the burden. And of course, some of them might get scared or overstressed because that’s hell of a position to be in.

You need to make it fit for everyone. And that includes the group, the fans who can be just as cruel, the management, media, and sometimes even families to please. Only one mistake you do can destroy it all for the members.

Now imagine being in that position without any of these giving you the respect to keep you stable. Let it be immature fans, bandmates in a difficult position, contracts you signed burning your freedom away or media on your heels. This is not a job for everyone, especially not for those who try to deal with it by ‘ruling’ over their group and keep control. This causes imbalance, and noticed or not, you will be able to feel when the dynamics in a group change.

Leaders are there to balance it all out, and some need to remember what it’s like to hold more strings that anyone can see - and that they are still only human.

True leaders chose the group over anything else. Fame, issues, insecurities. And that’s why the group accepts them as a leader.

I just wanted to say that because I find some of them are doing a great job.

I'm soft ;-;

atiny 1: ugh i hardly slept last night

atiny 2: you know, they say that if you can't sleep it's because someone's thinking about you

atiny 1: who would be thinking about me at 3 am?

hongjoong: [ panics ]

Reblog if you still would support an EXO member if they formaly come out as gay, bisexual any other sexual orientation.

Piglet honey

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The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy

I tried to scroll past this. I really did

Mark getting up in the morning, having an identity crisis:

So who am I today?

Am I - NCT Mark? NCT 127 Mark? NCT U Mark? NCT Dream Mark? EXO Mark? SUPER M Mark? Am I Mark??????

Also Mark: