When To Allow Release

When to allow Release

The break in period                                           

Initially, you need to find a comfortable, safe, and hygienic chastity device  which your husband can wear for extended periods. Maybe your husband  has already bought a device before he approached you, maybe you still  need to buy one together. In any case, you should start slowly to let  him adjust and make sure the device is fit for long-term wear and that the size is correct.                                           

First, start a routine every day for a few hours.                                           

If and when he is comfortable in the cage, you can step it up to a full day.

Then to 48 hours. Once he is through the 48 hour period and all is well, now you can make the first big jump:                                           

3 weeks. Absolutely no less.                                          

 What is it about 3 weeks?

Well, firstly it’s long enough that any short-lived fantasties about being locked will be forgotten. Secondly, it goes one full week past the male’s typical 14 day sexual rollercoaster cycle. After sexual release, males experience dramatic drops in oxytocin and spikes in prolactin. Oxytocin is the caring, cuddling love hormone, while excess prolactin is the cause of irritability, decreased testosterone, and a substantial loss of libido. It usually takes between 5-10 days for these hormones to stabilise in the male. If we were to give him a sexual release once per week, these hormones would never stabilize. Beyond the 10 day mark, the positive effects heighten further.                                           

Pushing him to the 3 week mark means he has stabilised and then gone beyond, where we get 10-15 days of high oxytocin and low prolactin levels… which is what we want! You can read more about this in an article on the science of male chastity here.                                           

After that? Up to you!                                           

After the ‘settling’ phase, you should not think too much about lock-up  periods. He gets unlocked whenever you feel like it, although of course  being unlocked doesn’t necessarily mean you will allow him to cum. You have GOT to try the ‘touchless orgasm/release’ technique - probably the most mind blowing thing you will ever do to your man.                                           

Feel  free to go with a fixed schedule, such as one ejaculation allowed per 3 weeks, if that makes things easier for you – but don’t make it too  predictable, so also consider delaying or skipping a release date. For more experienced lovers, it is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least  three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the  break in period of getting a device that fits. This means that for the initial three months, the chastity cage must not come off, not even if  you want to use his penis for sex.  

Find what is right for you. After the ‘right’ amount of time being locked up, your husband would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but also mentally.                

Some of the women I talked with said their males initially back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a longer lock ups If so, he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity. Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready. You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain.                                               

So, long answer: see above.                                           

Short answer: push for 3 months.                                           

Release schedule after the initial lock-up period                                           

Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow,  how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. But how often should  he be allowed to cum after the initial denial period? There are a few  different views. No matter which system you choose, it is usually best  to ask yourself if it wouldn’t be better to go longer.                                            

Remember, you have the power. He wants you to!