Not Gonna Lie, Every Wes Anderson Movie Gives Me Exactly This Vibe

And it is so deliciously gay-galing.

I Care a Lot really said gaslight gatekeep girlboss gone girl all in one breath huh

Nothing shuts down a bougie conversation like "well, when I was homeless—" Nothing. It's one and done. They are fucking taken out. The conversation is dead. Done.

Can we please normalize not asking people about their family, their origin, their ethnic background when doing small talk?! Not everybody wants to talk about their family. Not everybody with a "foreign"-sounding surname or first name cares to talk about their origin and, side note: Many people have been born in the country they live in now and do not enjoy constantly being reminded of their backstory! I am constantly being told that my German is perfect - well, guess what? It's perfect because it's my mother tongue, just because my father's from another country doesn't mean I personally grew up elsewhere!! For many people, these topics that are somehow deemed "small-talk appropriate" by others, are a constant source of stress and "othering", some might have had traumatic experiences in childhood/youth/have no contact to their biological family anymore/have been adopted ect. It's plain rude and nosy and unnecessary to ask such personal question - think before you talk for God's sake

I watched this movie today and I can only agree with @lovemadethemdoit wholeheartedly! Yeah, the movie might come across as not "educated" or "sensitive" enough but it is meant for a bigger audience, for the general public where transphobia is sadly still a reaaally big thing, so it's kind of "picking people up where they are" and I think that's important. Personally, I also felt a lot of unease regarding the amount of deadnaming going on, but let's be honest, that is something countless trans people still have to face on a day-by-day basis and the movie IS addressing this issue in a pivotal moment, too (SPOILER ALERT: when Lilli goes missing and her father is searching for her in some kind of big furniture store and trying to call her out over the mic, he uses the deadname first - in the end realizing, that he has been calling "the wrong child", finally accepting his kid's identity somewhat more)

terf and bigots on twitter of course not getting that they are the target group for oskars kleid, not their children 🙄

I love the power Maura has over Jane. Since it was not enough to see the series, I have seen it again analyzing each part and each interaction between Maura and Jane and, I find it fascinating how maura is the boss of the relationship, Every time Jane does something Maura doesn't like she just gives her a look and Jane starts making excuses and explaining herself Which I find super interesting because she doesn't behave that way with men, she doesn't let herself be bossed around and she doesn't let them hesitate either, but instead when she's with Maura or in some case, Always defend and let Maura be the boss Also the power of conviction that Jane has over Maura In short, they are a couple, they got married in Paris and live together with bass and a son. Which is giving me an idea for a little drawing hehe I apologize for the drawings I make, I promise to upload something of quality when I have time

Okay, but season 1 episode 09 of Rizzoli & Isles?! The way Jane soothingly touches Maura's arm and how Maura reacts with this very specific look, this precious combination of surprise and wonder and tenderness for Jane?! The way they sit at home and Jane reassures Maura she doesn't have one single evil bone in her body and how they hold hands so intimately?! And then the lighter scene at the very end, when they join some plumbing business with Jane's father and brother behind the bar, how Maura reaches out her hand to touch Jane,and how Jane reciprocates that gesture and it just looks so very domestic and sweet and natural?! I am going FERAL I ship them so hard it blocks the Suez canal

Please think before you comment on people's physical traits/appearance! There is NO NEED WHATSOEVER to shame, belittle or otherwise mess with someone's feelings because of something as superficial and unimportant than looks!! It's dumb, it's insensitive, it's unnecessary, uncalled for and oftentimes simply cruel.

Care for some examples?

I was walking my dogs once and stopped at a local dogpark where an elder woman started chatting to me. She was nice enough, but all of a sudden she asked why I didn't get my teeth fix. Yeah, I am 100% aware that I have crooked front teeth. I don't really care, I accept them the way they are, back then I also was not generally in a good mental state and such a comment felt downright mean and utterly out of place. Luckily, I was able to tell her as much by coolly stating that this was none of her business and that it's extremely impolite and rude to say something like that...

I've also had several occassions in my life where people told me negative things about my hair which is not only rude, but also plain racist. European, white people telling me, a PoC, that I should get another hairstyle 'cuz it would look "much better"?! I mean, do they even know what they are suggesting?! Yeah, get over it; not everybody needs to have fair, straight hair. I like my hair the way it is naturally: curly, sometimes a little messy, and whenever I dye it, I do it because I enjoy being colorful (I had it pink for quite some time), but that's my decision and no one else's business and maybe these people should take a long hard look at themselves and understand how utterly brainwashed they have been to believe that there is exactly ONE way of being beautiful/handsome/pretty.

Also, do not comment on people's weight!! Seriously?! Why is this even still a thing?! You know NOTHING about a person's history, about their eating habits, their routines, you don't know whether they are struggling with an eating disorder and you certainly don't get to decide what their body has to look like for them to like and celebrate themselves!! It's just not okay to tell someone "Oh, you used to be so thin, what happened?" or "You have lost way too much weight, it doesn't suit you at all!" or "You've grown fat since I last saw you" - CUT THAT SH*T!!

Also, you don't have to comment on other people's fashion preferences; if you don't want to wear skinny jeans or leoprints or bright neon colors or cheap shoes or wheaver, well, you are not obliged to do so, but let other people wear whatever they want and just LEAVE THEM ALONE.

times Jane told Maura she loved her (¼)

If your memory of R&I has faded, congrats - please remember only the following times when Jane showed Maura she loved her instead of saying it.

There were too many times to count when it looked like Jane wasn’t listening to Maura, but as I liked to suspect all along, she usually really was.

There was a whole photoset’s worth of times when Jane could tell when something was wrong,

And of times she was there for Maura, even when Maura had forgotten to ask for help. 

Sometimes, Maura would forget that she was a wonderful person, and Jane would pause whatever else was going on, look her in the eye, and remind her.

Most of Maura’s sorrows were about her family, and Jane spoke up for Maura to literally every one of her parents (and a bonus grandparent) when she didn’t like the way they were treating her. 

Kind words were never Jane’s strong suit, but she found a few,

And emotional support smooches,

And plenty of hugs despite how they both claimed not to be big huggers.

x / 1 / 2

I wish this was how Capitalism actually worked

for anyone who needs to hear this!

I mean yeah I need me some emotional support spicy emotion

My ship isn’t “toxic” it’s emotionally kinky