This Showed Up On My Dash And As A Bimbo Myself And A Fan Of Jojo’s Work I’d Like To Contribute.

I hate being the therapist friend so so so much.

Something that always has bothered me in fanfics (or just any work of fiction period) is when the female main character is so insistent on trying to be anti-feminine.  And I’m not saying if you’re a masculine woman or a gender non-conforming woman you should feel ashamed about not expressing femininity, you do what makes you feel comfortable and happy, but what I am saying is it always fucks with me how alienated it is in media.

comments like “(x) tried to get me to wear a dress, like that would ever happen” or “I don’t understand how they (another woman) can wear so much makeup” and other comments similar have never sat right with me because of the implications they have.  The implication being because they (the character) doesn’t participate in feminine things such as wearing makeup or dresses is in some way better or more desirable than the women who do.  But at the same time this also alienates women who participate in masculinity.

Typically these characters are just feminine enough to remind the audience they’re women and make them desirable, but just masculine enough to be different and worthy of being idolized.  Because masculine women don’t retain the femininity these women in media display (not saying they can’t be feminine just saying their femininity isn’t represented in the media we consume) we often make fun of them for being hyper masculine.

But this also affects gender non conforming women, as they have been so romanticized and idealized when they aren’t able to meet the expectations our media has set up for them they’re scrutinized and attacked.  Creating an endless cycle nobody can truly win.

TLDR; media romanticizes and depicts the wrong parts of women the wrong way and screw everyone over and it’s very disappointing.

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TL;DR: bisexuals and those underneath the bisexual umbrella deserve more respect than we get considering all the bullshit we have to put up with.

As a bisexual woman I cannot begin to explain all the shit I have heard when I tell people.  It’s the fact these are the same people to immediately turn around and begin fetishizing bisexuality, they’ll call a bisexual man all kinds of names and call them disgusting then turn around and ask a bisexual woman for a threesome, it’s disgusting.

The primary reason I don’t use dating apps anymore is because of the amount of straight couples begging me for a threesome and the lesbians telling me that I’m just looking for attention and I should be ashamed of myself.  And if the fetishizing wasn’t enough you of course have all the people shaming us and telling us we’re just confused.

For a long time the term “bisexual” or “bisexuality” wouldn’t come up in certain searches when “gay” or “lesbian” and “transgender” would auto fill, and don’t even get me started on all the other bullshit people who identify as the sexualities underneath the bisexual flag have to deal with.  (Pansexual, bi-curious, omnisexual, polysexual, etc.  I love you and I’m here for you)

This isn’t me trying to say that “bisexuals have it worse!” Or some shit like that, we all have different struggles for different reasons, and those reasons need to be respected along with our struggles and it pisses me off that they aren’t.  And do not get me started on what disabled and POC bisexuals have to deal with.

There is no way to win as a bisexual until we tear down the stigma surrounding it, there is nothing unnatural or gross or anything wrong with liking more than one gender and it’s disappointing that posts like these even have to be made.

Honey, get my hunting rifle.

if you think that bisexual women are “actually straight and looking for male attention” and bisexual men are “actually gay and in denial”, I will be hunting you for sport

pls… i beg of you… reblog creations… or else there won’t be any more creations

writers who post for one piece, jjk, bnha, and demon slayer. take a look at kokono3 on AO3 if you haven’t already. a lot of the reposts are my stuff but there’s also a handful that aren’t mine so just be safe <33

Autism traits that aren't often talked about (part 2)

Unusual posture when standing or sitting

Mimicking facial expressions of others especially from a TV show

Having to process people's words after they said something so you pause for a few moments

Auditory processing issues

Black and white thinking

Having a hard time understanding people's facial expressions

Walking on your tip toes or sitting on your feet/legs

GI issues (IBS, acid reflux, food allergies)

Thinking in pictures

Inventing your own words or language

Unknowingly asking inappropriate questions

Not understanding the space you occupy/running into things

Making lists and schedules for EVERYTHING

Hard time keeping track of time

Good long term memory, recalling details others can't

Not understanding dry humor or sarcasm

Very high or low pain tolerance

Sorry, straights! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯