Me When I Do My Hair And Makeup For A SINGLE Day And Ppl Arent Falling Over Themselves To Try And Hit
me when i do my hair and makeup for A SINGLE day and ppl arent falling over themselves to try and hit on me: . . .
š§āāļøtf yall this isnt how it's supposed to work
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(This is, obviously, very condensed. Also, feudalism looked different in different European nations. Here, Iām focusing more on Britain. It wasnāt the first place to introduce modern capitalism but is a big part of the story.)
Toga, and her girlfriend. šš
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inspired by this tweet
still canāt get over how in birdbox the main characters casually speculate how north korea or iran is behind all the scary bullshit like wow americaās imperialist propaganda never stopsĀ
wish this was how it worked so bad but i read somewhere once "good fanfic is a love/hate letter to canon" and now all my fics are inexorably linked to and cant be read without knowledge of the source materialš¤·āāļøš¤·āāļø copyright who im referencing exact scenes from the 17th chap of the 6th book rn as a pivotal plot pt
Begging people to stop with the "wow that's so cool you wrote such a long story! Now you just gotta change the names and publish it as an original fiction" do not. That's not how this works.
reading romance books to fill the lack of romance in my life
listening to music isnāt enough anymore i need to eat it
saw this meme and immediately thought of Them
there is an interesting tension to be had when both the malfoy and weasley families have been sorted into their respective hogwarts house for generations upon generations, and we come to find that despite surface-level appearances: draco isn't the most slytherin of slytherins, and ron isn't the most gryffindor of gryffindors
-Ā There, there
Urgent mental support
Ā”Psychological brainwashing!
they use every little slip-up or mistake as a proof that Iām incapable of independency
they humiliate my work and insist Iām never going to be good enough to make it on my own
they insist I make bad decisions, and they know better for my life, even though Iām an adult
they claim that the way Iām going, Iām never going to become anything in life
they convinced me I would be dead without them
they threatened my life when I wouldnāt do as they want me to
they remind me they hold my life in their hands, and that I have to do as Iām told
they put me in situation where I canāt collect myself fast enough to do things properly, and then use it as a proof that I canāt do anything right (for instance, yelling at you while you try to drive a car, then humiliating you when you make a mistake because of their yelling)
they convinced me escaping them equals death
they talked about all the ways I would lose everything and end up dying from starvation, sickness, assault, lack of shelter, lack of resources if I leave, and it would be all my fault
they keep reminding me of how much worse I could have it, and how much worse others have it
they told me other people would judge me even worse, abuse/beat me more, and that I donāt even know how lucky I am to be with them
they make it seem like I would be taking up too much space and be a nuisance to good people I were to leave, they make it seem like it would be stupid for me to live anywhere else
they keep convincing me I would end up being most pathetic person if I tried to live on my own
they threatened me with poverty and starvation, and they look down on poor people to the point where Iām sure they would find me stupid and pathetic if I were to end up poor
they told me that nobody else would tolerate and accept me, and if I escape from them, all the doors would be closed to me, and society would abandon me completely
they cause a scene including violence and abuse, and then afterwards their attitude suddenly changes and theyāre gentle and nice to me, making me feel very disoriented and confused
they keep me in awful living conditions, but sometimes theyāll offer me some gift or privilege that feels like Iām special to them, and makes me believe things are okay
they finance my addiction or supply me with something I canāt do without so I have to stay
I know Iām not supposed to tell anyone about their mistreatment of me, or make them look bad in any way, even bolding things on this list feels like a forbidden thing to do
Iām not allowed to mention the times they hurt or abused me, and if I do, they get upset, and reverse the situation so it seems that it was my fault, or I deserved it, or I made it up
Iām aware every day of the things Iām not supposed to do, if I donāt want to upset them, and have to walk on eggshells around them most of the time
I feel like things could get better if I stay, even if itās really bad right now
I remember things being so great, I canāt let go of hope that itās going to be like that again
I feel like Iām addicted to them and couldnāt leave if I wanted to
I feel like theyāre the only person who could ever love me
I donāt believe I could survive without them
Iām scared of them, but Iām not allowed to say it
Iām too damaged at this point to be living with normal people, there is no place for me except here
Ā”Violence and threats!
they break my things if Iām away when they expect me/need me to be home
they threatened to hurt me if I leave
they threatened to hurt themselves if I leave
they threatened that I will be dragged back if I leave
they threatened to call the police if I leave
they threatened to kill me if I leave
they threatened to hurt someone I love if I leave
they threatened to hurt/kill my pet if I leave
they threatened to put me in a mental institution when I expressed distress at how they treat me
they punish every little disobedience from their rules so severely, I feel like the punishment for leaving would be death
Ā”Emotional manipulation and guilt!
they claim to be worried about me, but their worried actions always make my situation much worse, and end up sabotaging everything Iām trying to do
they remind me that I have to be grateful to them, because theyāre the only reason Iām still alive
they disapprove of me having friends, and get upset if I spend a lot of time with friends
they make me feel like Iām a horrible person for not loving them, and for wanting to get away
they make me feel so guilty and ashamed for not feeling the way Iām supposed to
they make me believe theyāll be hurt if I leave, and I would be cruel to do that to them
they cause a scene and make me feel very guilty if I talk about leaving
they seem so distressed about me leaving, itās hard for me to not feel guilty for distressing them
Ā”Escape Sabotage!
they traumatized me to the point where I canāt take care of myself on my own, and they blame me for it
they caused me cptsd/anxiety/depression that stops me from regular life activities and forces me to rely on them to provide for me
they keep making my cptsd/anxiety/depression worse, and make it impossible for me to recover
they make sure I never have enough resources to run away (take away my money, monitor my finances, overwork and exhaust me to the point where I canāt hold down a job)
they manipulated me into signing a contract that binds me to them, or a certain place, or keeps my money out of my reach, and under their control, making it harder to leave
they disapprove of me getting more education or a job, especially if itās far away
they cause me distress in crucial moments when I need to focus on accomplishing something (for instance, yelling at you for something rigth when you need to finish and submit your final work)
Am I being held hostage by abuser(s)? Checklist. Bold the ones that happened to you, italicize if youāre not sure.
Psychological brainwashing
they use every little slip-up or mistake as a proof that Iām incapable of independency
they humiliate my work and insist Iām never going to be good enough to make it on my own
they insist I make bad decisions, and they know better for my life, even though Iām an adult
they claim that the way Iām going, Iām never going to become anything in life
they convinced me I would be dead without them
they threatened my life when I wouldnāt do as they want me to
they remind me they hold my life in their hands, and that I have to do as Iām told
they put me in situation where I canāt collect myself fast enough to do things properly, and then use it as a proof that I canāt do anything right (for instance, yelling at you while you try to drive a car, then humiliating you when you make a mistake because of their yelling)
they convinced me escaping them equals death
they talked about all the ways I would lose everything and end up dying from starvation, sickness, assault, lack of shelter, lack of resources if I leave, and it would be all my fault
they keep reminding me of how much worse I could have it, and how much worse others have it
they told me other people would judge me even worse, abuse/beat me more, and that I donāt even know how lucky I am to be with them
they make it seem like I would be taking up too much space and be a nuisance to good people I were to leave, they make it seem like it would be stupid for me to live anywhere else
they keep convincing me I would end up being most pathetic person if I tried to live on my own
they threatened me with poverty and starvation, and they look down on poor people to the point where Iām sure they would find me stupid and pathetic if I were to end up poor
they told me that nobody else would tolerate and accept me, and if I escape from them, all the doors would be closed to me, and society would abandon me completely
they cause a scene including violence and abuse, and then afterwards their attitude suddenly changes and theyāre gentle and nice to me, making me feel very disoriented and confused
they keep me in awful living conditions, but sometimes theyāll offer me some gift or privilege that feels like Iām special to them, and makes me believe things are okay
they finance my addiction or supply me with something I canāt do without so I have to stay
I know Iām not supposed to tell anyone about their mistreatment of me, or make them look bad in any way, even bolding things on this list feels like a forbidden thing to do
Iām not allowed to mention the times they hurt or abused me, and if I do, they get upset, and reverse the situation so it seems that it was my fault, or I deserved it, or I made it up
Iām aware every day of the things Iām not supposed to do, if I donāt want to upset them, and have to walk on eggshells around them most of the time
I feel like things could get better if I stay, even if itās really bad right now
I remember things being so great, I canāt let go of hope that itās going to be like that again
I feel like Iām addicted to them and couldnāt leave if I wanted to
I feel like theyāre the only person who could ever love me
I donāt believe I could survive without them
Iām scared of them, but Iām not allowed to say it
Iām too damaged at this point to be living with normal people, there is no place for me except here
Violence and threats
they break my things if Iām away when they expect me/need me to be home
they threatened to hurt me if I leave
they threatened to hurt themselves if I leave
they threatened that I will be dragged back if I leave
they threatened to call the police if I leave
they threatened to kill me if I leave
they threatened to hurt someone I love if I leave
they threatened to hurt/kill my pet if I leave
they threatened to put me in a mental institution when I expressed distress at how they treat me
they punish every little disobedience from their rules so severely, I feel like the punishment for leaving would be death
Emotional manipulation and guilt
they claim to be worried about me, but their worried actions always make my situation much worse, and end up sabotaging everything Iām trying to do
they remind me that I have to be grateful to them, because theyāre the only reason Iām still alive
they disapprove of me having friends, and get upset if I spend a lot of time with friends
they make me feel like Iām a horrible person for not loving them, and for wanting to get away
they make me feel so guilty and ashamed for not feeling the way Iām supposed to
they make me believe theyāll be hurt if I leave, and I would be cruel to do that to them
they cause a scene and make me feel very guilty if I talk about leaving
they seem so distressed about me leaving, itās hard for me to not feel guilty for distressing them
Escape Sabotage
they traumatized me to the point where I canāt take care of myself on my own, and they blame me for it
they caused me cptsd/anxiety/depression that stops me from regular life activities and forces me to rely on them to provide for me
they keep making my cptsd/anxiety/depression worse, and make it impossible for me to recover
they make sure I never have enough resources to run away (take away my money, monitor my finances, overwork and exhaust me to the point where I canāt hold down a job)
they manipulated me into signing a contract that binds me to them, or a certain place, or keeps my money out of my reach, and under their control, making it harder to leave
they disapprove of me getting more education or a job, especially if itās far away
they cause me distress in crucial moments when I need to focus on accomplishing something (for instance, yelling at you for something rigth when you need to finish and submit your final work)
if you can bold even 3 of these, your abusers are aware that theyāre abusing you, and that is logical for you to want to get away from them, and theyāre making direct actions to sabotage and stop you from escaping.Only reason they would try to convince you that you canāt survive without them is that they know you are able to, and theyāre actively trying to stop it. If you feel pathetic for not being able to leave, this isnāt true, youāll notice abusers are putting shitton of work making sure you canāt leave, they wouldnāt be doing that if they really thought you were too pathetic to leave? Theyāre sabotaging you because they know you can get away.
Also, presenting themselves as the only source of survival, love, and comfort to you? Theyāre trying to affect you to trauma bond to them and have you develop Stockholm Syndrome, that means youād be forced to make decisions for their benefit instead of yours, and you wouldnāt be able to fight against them because it would mean risking your life.
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