Focusing on what’s rooted in reality has reduced so much of my overthinking time. If a friend is already out of my life, there’s no point dissecting our interactions from back when we were friends. If I already broke up w someone, there’s no point thinking about the could-have-beens because they will never happen. If I’m into someone but it wouldn’t work for whatever reason, then it just doesn’t. Something just is or just isn’t. There’s a lesson to take from everything but I also don’t want to use that as a catch-all excuse of getting into the weeds for something when the weeds have already been cut off and it doesn’t even matter anymore
the worst part of "you'll understand when you're older" is that you really do understand when you're older
anne carson is so crazy imagine just saying something like this in casual conversation
2025
you are allowed to have a moment to think before you speak
terrifying sincerity will demand from you the kind of composure and character you are seeking
practice asking yourself questions and answer them without seeking references or resources or answers that others gave
the difference between ritual and routine is faith, and the kind of faith you need to give to your habits—what they each mean to you— is something to be curious, reflective, intentional about. you are afraid that habits will sap your life of meaning, so give them meaning of their own
Lila (divine play)
novelty & magic are rivers, not reservoirs
Simone de Beauvoir, from a letter to Jean-Paul Sartre, featured in Letters to Sartre
might as well
Maggie Smith, from “Slipper”, Goldenrod
“Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.”
— Frank Tyger
Miguel Hernández, from The Selected Poems of Miguel Hernandez "Elegy for Ramón Sijé,"
It Lasts Forever and Then It's Over, Anne de Marcken
did we meet too early? i wish we met earlier