Being Butch, To Me, Is So Much More Than Being Masculine Presenting, Wearing Men's Clothes, Or Having

being butch, to me, is so much more than being masculine presenting, wearing men's clothes, or having short hair

being butch is about being the man for women that men often fail to be, if that makes sense. it's holding doors open for women, it's telling women they're pretty, it's paying for dinner, it's opening the pickle jar. yes, for me that's also wearing men's clothes and boxers and sports bras and shaving my head, but it's being a gentleman, too.

i'm a cis woman, but there is nothing more i want to be than the gentleman for a woman. i want to have a femme girlfriend who i buy flowers for and compliment her makeup and walk on the street side of the sidewalk and be the big spoon and take up all of those traditionally male roles