After years of living in the adulting world, I think I’ve come to a realization: Manners exist to guide you to good conduct even when you’re in a bad mood.
When you’re happy, when you’re feeling generous, when you’re pleased with your gift or your service or your outcome, it’s easy to be nice. It’s easy to tip the waiter well when you’ve had a good day. It’s easy to thank the teller or the clerk when you got what you wanted out of the transaction. It’s easy to smile and chit-chat with strangers on the road when you’re in a good mood.
It’s hard to tip the waiter when you didn’t enjoy your food. It’s hard to thank the clerk for their time when you’ve just been told there’s a problem with their account and they weren’t able to fix it for you. It’s hard to think of something nice to say when your aunt gave you a crappy sweater you neither need nor want. It’s hard to be nice to people when you’ve had a shitty day. It’s HARD.
That’s what manners are for. Scripts and phrases that you learn by rote to say when you can’t think of a single nice or good thing to say from your own volition. Yes, they’re scripted. Yes, the sentiment is empty. But the scripts work in every situation, and the emptiness provides a buffer between your own unhappiness and the rest of society.
Because most of the time, it’s not the waiter’s fault that the food you ordered wasn’t what you expected. It’s not the clerk’s fault that your account is overdrawn. It’s not the fault of the barista or the stranger on the subway that you got fired today or your favorite aunt died. But even when you can’t summon a smile or a cheery word, you can still have manners, because they will serve you the same in sunshine or rain.
when the objectively bad person has traumatic and honestly reasonable reasons for why theyre like that but it doesnt excuse their actions and only serves to make them more tragic as a character
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Oh, I 100% understand your point and yeah, god, stans are annoying. I don't like stans even of my favorite characters. Lucifer is one of my favorite Hazbin characters and I guess I've been lucky to mostly only run into decent fans, because I haven't really seen anyone blaming others for Lucifer's problems, but I totally believe you that they exist, because I've seen posts from people complaining about stans like that. And I can definitely understand how sometimes a fandom can cause a negative view of a character even if you were okay/neutral with them before. I had this with Adam, I liked his character, although I felt neutral towards him for the most part, he's cool, but I'm not really a fan and everything was fine until I came across his absolutely annoying part of the fandom, which were mostly stans, I wouldn't say I started hating Adam, but I did dislike him for a while, luckily it went away after I realized that it was just stans putting characters on a pedestal and putting everyone else down.
I know that probably not many people will share this opinion but i am kind of afraid that Lucifer will live in the hotel and become part of the main cast
It is not because i dislike him or anything but i fear that him staying in hotel will only cause that he overshadows other characters especially female characters like Charlie
Like he only was in two episodes but the fandoms already acts sometimes like he is the main character. I like Charlie, she is one of my favorite characters but I feel like she get both in the show and fandom shoved in the background for often male characters like Alastor and i don't want her to become a secondary character in her own show
I want Charlie to be the one who takes the lead and fights for her hotel without complety depending on her father, i already wasn't the biggest fan of Lucifer appearing out of nowhere in the final to save Charlie from Adam despite it making I guess technically sense.
Charlie is already unterrated in her own show more than enough and I fear Lucifer living in the hotel will make it even worse. I just hope he will stay more on the side lines and support Charlie without it becoming his hotel
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I LOVE HOW TF1 MAKES THE CREATION OF MEGATRON AN UNINTENTIONAL COLLABORATIVE EFFORT BY OTHER VILLAINS!!!
SENTINEL WOUNDED HIM FIRST AND REPEATEDLY TEMPTED HIS WRATH.
STARSCREAM TAUGHT HIM THAT WRATH WAS THE MOST EFFICIENT TOOL.
AND THE CHEERING HIGH-GUARD TAUGHT HIM THAT WRATH WAS VIRTUOUS.
AND NONE OF THEM WILL KNOW WHAT A MONSTER THEY CREATED UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE!!
i forget where I got the idea from (might've been carter's Political Theory which is a terrible book otherwise), but something i haven't been able to get out of my mind is what I'm tentatively calling the ‘Anarchist Theory of Accountability’; which resolves itself into this cold assessment that both the logic and the individual are at fault.
I was so used to Marx and his way of talking about the abstract logic intoxicating the whole of society and how it's not the individual but the systems and logics that are responsible
Like Marx straight up tells you —doesn't warn you, but tells you— I should've taken it as a warning, that he deals with individuals only as personifications of class interests
Sure, he has his favorite punching bags, but for the most part he abstracts
So this whole other facet ran under my radar and was a rude awakening because ultimately it is still the real corporeal physical individual who carry out actions in their own interest at the expense of others, who sees and smells and architects the misery of others for their own gain
The logic may have wormed its way into their heart but they still plan and relish and act out on it
‘Don't hate the player hate the game’
No actually, I hate both, the game is rigged and the player constitutes and reconstitutes, produces and reproduces the game
The only way is not to play, as difficult as that is
‘I was only following orders’
But you still followed them, at the expense of everyone involved
the most fun a girl can have is finding parallels, noticing patterns, making connections, contemplating