Hearts Of Darkness (1991) Dir. Eleanor Coppola, George Hickenlooper, Fax Bahr

ꜱᴏᴘʜɪᴀ ᴡᴇʙꜱᴛᴇʀ ᴄʜɪᴀʀᴀ ʟᴇᴀᴛʜᴇʀ ꜱᴀɴᴅᴀʟꜱ 🏹 🩰🦢

Constant chaos in life will have you confusing peace with boredom. Keep life as simple as you can and find joy in the mundane things. Train yourself to sit in peace and enjoy peace because it is truly a privilege. Not everyone gets to experience it often in their lives.

YOU DO NOT HEAL BY UNDERSTANDING YOUR TRAUMA

You heal by feeling safe enough to stop repeating it

Not reverting to your old coping mechanisms anymore is how you break the cycle

You want to understand because understanding gives the illusion of control

When we go through pain our mind kicks into overdrive trying to make sense of it. It’s the mind’s way of saying If I can figure this out, I can prevent it from happening again

Sometimes there isn’t a logical answer that will make the pain go away because it had nothing to do with you. And trying to intellectualize everything can become a way to avoid feeling the things that actually needs to move through the body

We try understanding because it’s less scary than sitting in the unknown. Stop trying to solve everything like a puzzle and instead start soothing the part of us that feels afraid, abandoned, unworthy etc

You don’t need another explanation

You need a hug

A deep breath

A new boundary

Or someone who looks at you and tells you that it wasn’t your fault

Because it wasn’t 🤍

next time if you ever feel like falling back to old habits just remember this

personally, there's no better motivation than remembering that there's probably many people out there who don't want me to succeed.

Having money doesn’t solve every problem, but it sure does help. It gives you options, resources, and a safety net that can make navigating life’s challenges a little easier.

Being attractive isn’t everything, but it sure does help. It can open doors, create opportunities, and make first impressions smoother, even if what truly matters lies beneath the surface.

Getting an education won’t make you rich, but it sure does help. It broadens your perspective, builds critical skills, and often gives you a stepping stone toward better opportunities.

Having connections doesn’t guarantee success, but it sure does help. The right network can support you, introduce you to new opportunities, and guide you through challenges.

Having discipline won’t make you immune to setbacks, but it sure does help. It allows you to stay consistent, overcome obstacles, and turn goals into achievements.

Having confidence doesn’t mean you’ll never doubt yourself, but it sure does help. Believing in your worth and abilities can carry you through uncertainty and help you advocate for what you deserve.

The truth is, none of these guarantees a perfect life, but each one plays a role in shaping your journey, helping you rise above challenges and reach your potential.

Could you please make a post on how to stay fresh and put together through out the day? I always feel and look good for a while after i leave the house but the wind and weather and moving around makes me feel like a mess after a few hours and i come home looking nothing like when i left. What is your routine to maintain the way you look throughout the day?

Thanks so much💗

Hey Anon! I'm just gonna make a big list :)

Smelling amazing is the hallmark of presenting well, so I always moisturize my skin very well, apply a thin layer of perfume oil on my scent points, and douse myself in my perfume of the day. I'll also bring a travel size for touch-ups every few hours.

I keep a tin of sugar-free mints in my purse so my breath is always smelling super fresh.

I always have a small comb and brush in my purse so I can run to the bathroom and fix my hair. I also use hairspray like it's going out of style to make sure my hairstyle is maintained throughout the day.

I keep a tiny compact mirror and take a quick look at myself every hour or so to see what needs tweaking.

I've perfected my priming and setting routine to make sure my makeup stays perfectly in place for at least 12 hours.

I keep a Tide pen on me at all times.

I choose wrinkle-resistant fabrics that travel well and don't require constant ironing.

If it's windy out I'll pin my hair down while commuting to prevent flyaways

I ALWAYS have a fresh layer of lipgloss on, even if I'm not wearing any makeup.

I'm notorious for asking my friends if my hair or makeup needs fixing up.