Majexs03 - Aprilph

people are saying do it scared, but you also gotta do it alone. you'll miss out on so much you want to do if you wait til someone will do it with you. do it scared and do it alone.

next time if you ever feel like falling back to old habits just remember this

personally, there's no better motivation than remembering that there's probably many people out there who don't want me to succeed.

One of the hardest parts about trauma is overcoming hyper-independence and understanding that you don’t have to do everything by your own strength. That there’s no virtue in suffering and doing everything entirely on your own. That it’s okay to have expectations for how you want others to show up in your life, and those expectations don’t make you a burden. That having faith means letting go of the belief that everything is in your hands and instead trusting your future to someone greater than you.

Overcoming hyper-independence is a journey in itself.

I want to be bread 😭😭😭😭😭😭

It's not fair

We always go back to the core beliefs that are instilled in us during our childhood. And people still think having children is just to have a prop, a hobby, to project ourselves onto someone, to stop depopulation, or whatever egocentric belief

Children should be created out of LOVE between two people. They should be a reflection of that love, nurtured in an environment that values their well being, growth & individuality

It’s not about fulfilling societal expectations, continuing a legacy, or soothing an ego. A child deserves to be brought into the world for the right reasons—with care, compassion & a REAL desire to guide them into becoming the best version of themselves. They are the future and the TRUE reflection of YOU

At the very least, you should be able to acknowledge your traumas and triggers before having children. No amount of love will keep you from projecting them onto your children until then, as unresolved issues can unintentionally shape their experiences and emotional development. Self awareness and healing are crucial to providing a nurturing and healthy environment for your child’s growth

It is natural to have the biological desire to have children, but it doesn’t mean you are ready just yet. True readiness involves more than just the desire to parent. It requires emotional maturity, self-awareness and a commitment to creating an environment for a child’s development. Being prepared means addressing personal issues & ensuring that you can provide the love and stability a child deserves

Constant chaos in life will have you confusing peace with boredom. Keep life as simple as you can and find joy in the mundane things. Train yourself to sit in peace and enjoy peace because it is truly a privilege. Not everyone gets to experience it often in their lives.

Stop giving your time and attention to things that are stealing you from your life. Stop vicariously living through others and calling it inspiration. Stop idolizing random people on the internet to a point you spend hours defending them knowing they have no idea you exist and they'll make bank anyway Stop playing PR for celebrities and your gurus Stop identifying yourself with a random ideology / political stance / set of beliefs so hard that an enemy to it is an enemy to you and whoever buys into it is a God Stop seeking instant connections and calling random people you just met bestie Stop arguing with people knowing full well your 20790880 word virtue signalling will not change their mind just give you props for status seeking Stop trying to change people that have not asked for your help Stop making excuses for them Stop denying yourself the pleasures you've worked so hard to enjoy Stop measuring your worth against external opinion Stop trying to do everything at once Stop trying to coach people into being decent towards you and others Stop thinking you're the exception of the rule Stop that magical thinking bs that disempowers you Stop watching those videos that you know you won't really actualize Stop mindlessly consuming content Stop that black and white thinking Stop valuing passion over mastery Stop with the self help books and gurus Stop with the excuses just. Stop floating across your achievements like you didn't pray for them seeking the next Stop picking sides on random stuff Stop that hero worship thing Stop buying into that feel good bs Stop listening to music that is insulting to you stop reading the comments knowing they'll annoy you stop going back to people that have shown you they do not care for you stop trying to defend yourself against people that have already decided you're guilty stop defending your tastes and preferences to people that just don't get it Stop Stop just. Stop

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