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Reasons why I need the A in LGBTIAQ to stand for Asexual, not Ally

Because my mother told me that all I needed to do was get drunk and lie back and let my husband have his fun. Because if I was drunk, I’d be more relaxed and it’d be over sooner

Because my sister told me that I was trapping my husband in an abusive marriage, and that one day he was going to leave me

Because both of them looked at me in disgust

Because my asexuality is considered to be as great a crime against my husband as a woman who has affairs and cheats on her husband

Because my cousin didn’t even try to understand, and just kept asking ‘but what about in five years? how will you feel then?’

Because I was so afraid of my body and so afraid of sex that I didn’t seek medical help for a legitimate question for over a year for fear of being labelled a deviant or something broken

Because I still ask myself at least once every day if my husband wouldn’t be better off without me

Because I still ask myself at least once every day if I’m broken

Because I still tell myself at least once every day that I’m pathetic and useless and an abnormality

Because I love my husband with every fiber of my being, but everywhere I turn I’m told I really don’t, because love = sex

I need A to stand for Asexual because nobody ever talked to me about asexuality even when I was an outpatient at the women’s hospital for 18 months, and everyone told me desire would come in time

I need A to stand for Asexual because we are literally invisible, and so unimportant that people assume we don’t even need representation, because everyone assumes our lives must be bland and unimportant and lacking in challenges or bigotry

For every asexual that wants a relationship, for every asexual that does not want a relationship, for every asexual who has not yet come to terms with their identity, for every asexual who was told we were abnormalities, for every asexual who was told we just weren’t doing sex right, that we needed a good fucking, that we needed to be drunk, that we needed to relax, that we needed to be raped

We need representation, and we need visibility

That is why the A needs to stand for Asexual, and never for Ally

Where did the hype go? We can’t stop now guys.

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hades explaining that he’s the god of the dead, not the god of death

actually im gonna put this in it’s own post. 

I’ve had conversations with more than a few ace teens since the discourse, and there has been such a miserable impact on their experience because of what the discourse caused.

When I was figuring out I was aro/ace, there was an entire community of bright, outspoken, positive folks who were out & proud of their identities to support me through that (very, very difficult) realization. People who talked openly about how cool it was to be aro/ace, how much they loved it and themselves, how great the community was, and who made me feel welcome and optimistic.

Folks now have nothing. They have a stringent group of people who are terrified of their own label, who hide it, bury it, laugh it off as something they’re ashamed of but are burdened with nonetheless, talk about hating themselves for it, or about how hard it’s made their lives. They have these once-thriving community spaces now full of mocking and shaming and hatefulness, and no choice but to feel terrible about themselves, often inclined to deny who they are so they don’t have to accept what has become a miserable lack-of-community to identify with.

It’s hard, learning to accept yourself as ANYTHING that isn’t straight, and the community around that identity is the most important tool you can have to get through it. The community teaches you how to feel about your new identity, whether you should feel pride or shame, optimism or pessimism, whether you should feel warm & welcome or terrified & miserable.

Today, ace and aro youth are learning to be ashamed, afraid, and to cast aside words, people, and a community history that could help them feel complete in a world that’s constantly telling them how miserable they’ll be without sex and/or romance.

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