Best Sleeping Conditions: Freezing Fucking Cold Room But Layers And Layers Of Blankets 

I had a sort of revelation recently. A lot of scenes Ive seen on tv were not as strange as I thought, I just wasnt picking up on the ~sexual tension~ and it made the scenes a lot more awkward and weird than intended lol

mhm yeah I see this played out two ways with aces. Either they are HYPER aware of it or woosh over their heads and it always makes the situation have like a stat boost to awkwardness either way lol 

My pieces for Gajevy Day! I just love how much those two have grown over the course of the series and they’ll always stay my #1 ship ❤❤❤

— asexual + hufflepuff

actually im gonna put this in it’s own post. 

I’ve had conversations with more than a few ace teens since the discourse, and there has been such a miserable impact on their experience because of what the discourse caused.

When I was figuring out I was aro/ace, there was an entire community of bright, outspoken, positive folks who were out & proud of their identities to support me through that (very, very difficult) realization. People who talked openly about how cool it was to be aro/ace, how much they loved it and themselves, how great the community was, and who made me feel welcome and optimistic.

Folks now have nothing. They have a stringent group of people who are terrified of their own label, who hide it, bury it, laugh it off as something they’re ashamed of but are burdened with nonetheless, talk about hating themselves for it, or about how hard it’s made their lives. They have these once-thriving community spaces now full of mocking and shaming and hatefulness, and no choice but to feel terrible about themselves, often inclined to deny who they are so they don’t have to accept what has become a miserable lack-of-community to identify with.

It’s hard, learning to accept yourself as ANYTHING that isn’t straight, and the community around that identity is the most important tool you can have to get through it. The community teaches you how to feel about your new identity, whether you should feel pride or shame, optimism or pessimism, whether you should feel warm & welcome or terrified & miserable.

Today, ace and aro youth are learning to be ashamed, afraid, and to cast aside words, people, and a community history that could help them feel complete in a world that’s constantly telling them how miserable they’ll be without sex and/or romance.

me these days

Thank you @leari for this commission! I asked them to draw a scene from my despair arc rewrite and it looks so cute! Thanks a lot again and please read the fic!

I’m having ad astra tubbo brainrot

She’s aroace!!! 💚💜🖤