“Perhaps you have forgotten. That’s one of the great problems of our modern world, you know. Forgetting. The victim never forgets. Ask an Irishman what the English did to him in 1920 and he’ll tell you the day of the month and the time and the name of every man they killed. Ask an Iranian what the English did to him in 1953 and he’ll tell you. His child will tell you. His grandchild will tell you. And when he has one, his great-grandchild will tell you too. But ask an Englishman—” He flung up his hands in mock ignorance. “If he ever knew, he has forgotten. ‘Move on!’ you tell us. ‘Move on! Forget what we’ve done to you. Tomorrow’s another day!’ But it isn’t, Mr. Brue.” He still had Brue’s hand. “Tomorrow was created yesterday, you see. That is the point I was making to you. And by the day before yesterday, too. To ignore history is to ignore the wolf at the door.”
- A Most Wanted Man, John le Carré
Note: I am not a health/psychology professional by any means; this is simply a list I've put together from my own understanding and experiences on the topic, based upon various readings/research I found online. I hope it may be helpful/informative to read regardless, feel free to add on or correct this!
Maladaptive Daydreaming:
Excessive daydreaming; becoming absorbed in and fixated on daydream events, scenes, characters, or worlds.
Used as a form of escapism, often to avoid dealing with real-life situations (traumatic, unpleasant, or otherwise).
More interested and/or focused on the daydream/inner world than the real world, or on daydream relationships rather than real-life ones.
Difficulty or inability to stop daydreaming, even when real-life tasks need to be done.
An excessive/large amount of time is spent daydreaming, instead of being fully present in real-life events.
A desire to be like the idealized, daydream version of themself or their characters (/feeling inadequate with self in reality).
May feel a loss of control over daydreams, or when/where daydreaming occurs.
Some describe maladaptive daydreaming as an "addiction to daydreaming".
Many feel embarrassed or ashamed of (the extent of) their daydreaming.
Some individuals experience maladaptive daydreaming as a form of dissociation.
Often occurs in individuals with ADHD, depression, anxiety disorders, PTSD, and those who have experienced significant stress, abuse, and/or trauma.
Though the daydreams themselves may be enjoyable/pleasant/comforting, the lack of control and difficulty focusing on reality causes distress to the daydreamer.
If this daydreaming causes significant impairment in daily life and regular distress to the individual, they may have Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder (MaDD).
Immersive Daydreaming:
Simillar to maladaptive daydreaming, but instead, is a more positive way of coping.
The individual is present in real-life relationships, and in their own plans for the future.
Able to stop daydreaming when real-life tasks need to be attended to. Has a solid sense of control over their daydreaming.
Uses daydreaming as a healthy coping mechanism for dealing with stress/trauma/illness/conflict etc, rather than using it to avoid these situations.
BOTH Maladaptive and Immersive Daydreamers (May) Experience:
Very vivid, often extensively detailed daydreams. (Can be visual, auditory, or a mixture of sensory events.)
Feeling the emotions or sensations that are happening in the daydream through the body, as if they were really happening.
Strong attachments or connections to daydream characters (often called "paras").
Presence of an inner world(s)/universe(s), where daydream events take place ("paracosm", "dreamverse").
A sense of "autonomy" regarding character interaction, and/or being "influenced" by their characters.
Repetitive physical activity while daydreaming (pacing, tapping, rocking, etc.)
Speaking daydream dialogue aloud, and/or physically emoting facial expressions while daydreaming.
Real life events triggering daydreams (music, and other media are common daydream triggers.)
"You're so creative!", "You've got an overactive imagination."
* Someone can experience both Maladaptive and Immersive Daydreaming within their lifetime/during different times in their lives!
Immersive daydreaming may become maladaptive if it starts getting out of hand (perhaps after a stressful/traumatic event, or the onset of another disorder). Maladaptive daydreaming can be turned into immersive daydreaming (to cope, or to de-stress), with the help of therapy.
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i hope u all know that when i put a little space before the question mark at the end of a sentence i am tilting my head at u like a dog
You don’t get it, I want to kill myself because I know I’ll feel this pain for the rest of my life. It will not pass. I don’t want to live like this. Why should I live and what for. It’s not worth it. And I know that I do not have the strength to fight it every single day. That is not living, that’s torture
When I choose to see the good side of things, I’m not being naive. It is strategic and necessary. It’s how I’ve learned to survive through everything. I know you see yourself as a fighter. Well, I see myself as one too. This is how I fight.
EVERYTHING EVERYWHERE ALL AT ONCE (2022) dir. Daniel Kwan & Daniel Scheinart
youtube is pulling this bullshit again
praying for the firefox gods to save me once more...
“people like me don’t get happy endings”
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Mirror, mirror, on the wall, show me penis, cock and ball
just gotta edit my account
i have been losing control of my temper, i cry about things that doesn’t even make any sense and then i blame myself for it
real event that occured that i cant stop thinking about