DOES THE NDN LIVE? : NO

Dabi was Once an Abused Child & Enji was Once an Abuser

The main reason why some people refuse to see Dabi as once an abused child, and keep deeming him insane or evil since he was born, is undoubtedly because his abuser was Enji who is trying to change now.

Shigaraki and Toga are villains who were also once abused when they were children (in Shigaraki's case, he is still used by AFO till now). Fortunately, people generally aren't very keen on refusing to admit Shigaraki was groomed by AFO or was abused when he was a child. People usually have no hard time calling AFO or Kotaro an abuser and don't use excuses like AFO giving lil' Tenko a hug, Kotaro only slapping Tenko twice, or Kotaro not being harsh to his wife, to back them up. People also do not really deny Toga was neglected by her parents.

Matter-of-factly, neglect is one of the things Enji did to his children. The difference is Enji neglected Touya, Fuyumi, and Natsuo inside a luxurious house, provided them clothes and food. Other than that, quoting Natsuo's words, Enji was just like a complete stranger to his children.

How about physical abuse? Ironically, there are people who genuinely consider the things Enji had done to his family as not abuse. They think since Enji was hitting Shouto and Rei "rarely", then it wasn't abuse. Another common misunderstanding (or excuse) is since Enji was doing more of mental abuse to his family and "rarely" did physical abuse, then he wasn't abusive. In all honesty, what kind of conclusion is that?

Does Hori need to show us Enji hitting Rei 10 times for us to admit Rei was not only mentally but also physically abused by her husband? Does Hori need to draw a graphic image describing how Shouto could puke when Enji was "only training him" for us to include it as a physical abuse as well?

Ever consider if mental/psychological abuse is not part of abuse why it has word "abuse" in it? Mental abuse is included in the types of abuse too, though.

In addition, if child neglect is not part of child abuse then why WHO, APSAC, APA (American Psychological Association), and many others indicate it as a form of child abuse/maltreatment as well?

Someone who performs any type of abuse is called an abuser. Abuser is an example of a noun ending in -er. The ending -er is added to verbs to make nouns with the meaning ‘a person or thing that does something’, for example: builder, farmer, or sprinkler. Thus, since Enji was doing abuse so he was called an abuser, or in present settings, he is an ex-abuser. There is literally nothing wrong in calling Enji an ex-abuser or saying he was abusive. Getting mad or defensive when people calling Enji an ex-abuser or once abusive is overly ridiculous to me.

Dabi was once an abused child. Touya was neglected just like Fuyumi and Natsuo. Among the main trio villains or the Todoroki children, it seems like Dabi/Touya is the one denied the most (if not the only one) of his status as once an abused and innocent child. Tragically, encountering people deeming Touya was insane since he was born or calling him an evil manipulative child is not rare nowadays. Yet, almost no one calls Tenko an insane and evil child, considering both Touya and Tenko ended up as villains today. Tenko and Touya both were hurt and traumatized children. It is weird when people are able to symphatize with Tenko but not with Touya, forgetting Touya was engulfed brutally in broad-scale wildfire and his body was horrifically consumed by scorching fire; a 13-years-old boy almost died.

Why do people react to Tenko's story and Touya's so differently? Well, Touya/Dabi's abuser is trying to change now, isn't he? Now, let's think. If, for example, AFO wins the fight with Deku in the future, then he suddenly has a change of heart and wants to try to be a better person, would you say Shigaraki was never groomed by him before? Or, if Hawks's father some time later is released from the prison and wants to try to change to be a good father to Hawks then, would you say Keigo was never abused in the first place?

No matter happens to an abuser now, whether he's trying to change or not, it will not change the facts that the past still exists, the abuse still happened, and his victims will still be the victims. It is ironic to watch people doing it easier to label Rei as an abuser than Enji. Shifting the blame to someone else who was also one of Enji's abuse victims is not making his character any better. Refusing to admit Shouto, Touya, Fuyumi, and Natsuo were once children abused by Enji is not making his character any better either.

Truthfully, because of the past can't be erased, that's why Enji is trying to make amend to that in the present. Enji is in the process of trying to atone for his abusive self. If we are to erase and downplay his abuse, shift the blame to someone else, and refuse to acknowledge whom his victims were, then what is character development that he's going through all this time for?

My grandma, who lives in a small town in Donetsk oblast of Ukraine, says she'd go to the war herself if she were twenty years younger, "to fight those russian fascists." She refuses to evacuate, she strongly believes that the Ukrainian army will be able to protect her from the invaders, and if not, she's ready to die on her own land. A couple of days ago, a nearby town was heavily shelled by russian cluster munitions, so I am very afraid for her.

Meanwhile, my other grandma, who lives in the Moscow region of Russia, still doesn't fully believe in what is happening. She says that Putin would never start a war against Ukraine. "What does Russia have to do with this?", she asks and "kindly" invites me to move in with her, in safe Russia. She voted for Putin in 2018.

Most Russians have either relatives or friends (or both) in Ukraine. This is probably one of the most horrifying aspects of this war. They don't hear us, they don't believe us because they watch russian tv or read russian fake news.

24.02 updates from Ukraine

please spread the information, dont trust russian propaganda

Watch this

After seeing the dad how do I channel, I really wanted this one. I searched for it and, tada! Mom how do I? Seems rather new, but I love it anyway.

Sudden wave of an immense love for humanity has hit me once again…

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Okay, I’ve been bingeing the Jesus show and I love it. I’m Christian but not usually a fan of Christian media because it’s often poorly done. But The Chosen is as good as anything I’ve ever seen. Acting, cinematography, everything.

- As far as possible, no one is whitewashed. Jesus himself looks VERY Middle Eastern.

- Jesus is very human and approachable.

- All of the “Follow me” scenes give chills.

- All of the disciples have backstory and personality. Creative liberty, but all are plausible and conform to what we know from the Bible. (ex. Nathaniel, whom Jesus called “an Israelite indeed in whom there is no guile” is always overly honest, Simon Peter has obvious natural charisma but he struggles with understanding Jesus’ way of doing things, John the Baptist is a total wild man and apologizes to no one for it.)

- Matthew the tax collector is autistic and it’s well-done and makes so much sense in context.

- The Romans and Pharisees are just as diverse in personality and motivations as the protagonists. Gaius, Matthew’s Roman protector, pretends to hate him but is low-key a concerned dad.

- Gaius trying to make small talk with Matthew. “Did you see those Parthenian footraces?”

- Matthew’s dog.

- There is just as much emphasis on the experience of the women as the men. Several of them have trauma from the Roman occupation or their patriarchal societies in general, and that isn’t ignored, but it isn’t the focus of their character development either. And they get along (far better than the men, actually); there are no silly catfights as an excuse for drama. 

- Mary Magdalene is a total badass. I don’t know how else to describe her. I guess if you’re used to having demons in your head there isn’t much you can’t handle.

- Philip is so wise and capable, but also a total hippie from being John’s disciple.

- Simon the Zealot’s backstory. The Zealots were sort of anti-Roman terrorists. (And it is hard to blame them.) There’s this cool spy interplay going on between him and a Roman secret police agent.

- The sibling dynamics between Simon/Andrew and James/John.

- Nicodemus wants so badly to follow Jesus but is unable to pull himself away from his obligations. Sob.

- So many jokes:

- Everyone constantly throws shade on Jesus for being from Nazareth.

- Simon Peter can’t run.

- Thomas is secretly in love with his business partner and absolutely everyone knows about it.

You absolutely don’t have to be Christian to understand and enjoy it. But if you do know the Bible and/or Jewish culture well, it’s neat to see how they incorporate details.

i still can’t believe tumblr as a whole did not come out in full support for ukraine when russia invaded or anytime since like????

- ukrainians are a vulnerable population that have been frequently invaded/subjugated by russia for centuries

- ukrainians have now been fighting in full force for over two years just for the right to exist

- russia’s genocide of ukrainians is well-documented and established at this point: deporting children en mass to be adopted by russians and go through russification; deporting adults en mass and moving russians in to take their place; sweeping through towns and killing indiscriminately; etc.

like? you would think ukraine’s struggle would speak to people on this website who are so obsessed with freedom fighters and standing up in the face of tyranny

except so many people on this hellsite have a communism-boner for stalin/russia that i guess none of the rest matters

Polish Literature: My Song (II) by Cyprian Kamil Norwid (1821 - 1883)

For that land where a scrap of bread is picked up From the ground out of reverence For Heaven’s gifts. I am homesick, Lord!

For the land where it’s a great travesty To harm a stork’s nest in a pear tree, For storks serve us all. I am homesick, Lord!

For the land where we greet each other In the ancient Christian custom: “May Christ’s name be praised!” I am homesick, Lord!

I long still for yet another thing, likewise innocent, For I no longer know where to find My abode. I am homesick, Lord!

For worrying-not and thinking-not, For those whose yes means yes — and no means no — Without shades of grey. I am homesick, Lord!

I long for that distant place, where someone cares for me! It must be thus, though my friendship Will never come to pass! I am homesick, Lord!

- translated by Walter Whipple     ■ Cyprian Kamil Norwid (1821 - 1883) was a Polish poet, playwright, painter, and sculptor who was one of the most original representatives of late Romanticism.

■ Norwid led a tragic and often poverty-stricken life (once he had to live in a cemetery crypt). He experienced increasing health problems, unrequited love, harsh critical reviews, and increasing social isolation. He lived abroad most of his life, especially in London and in Paris, where he died.

■ His work was only rediscovered and appreciated during the Young Poland art period of the late nineteenth and early twentieth century. He is now considered one of the four most important Polish Romantic poets.

adult animation appreciation post bc we've got some good shows lately

Bojack Horseman

a lot of us know it and love it, but for the ones who never got around to it, PLEASE watch it at some point in your life. it has so many good storylines centered around depression, addiction, sexism, repercussions of child abuse, and the daily struggles of living in this messed up world that we all know and can relate to. it'll punch you in the gut with some of the most unique storytelling you'll see in your life

Tuca & Bertie

created by the lead character designer of Bojack, this show may seem like a spinoff from the look but it isn't in the slightest. created and starring amazing women and letting women be funny in their own unique way that feels so genuine and following the story of these two crazy bird friends, I cannot tell you the emotional rollercoaster this one took me on. our mains struggle with anxiety and sexual harassment, with some great queer rep, and the stories are so fun and inventive that you can't help but have a blast

Final Space

I could talk about this show for DAYS, but I already have in this post so I won't go on a massive rant rn. it may look like a normal little scifi comedy show at the beginning, but this show'll blow you away with plot for days. if you want an action show that has consistent storylines, here ya go. it's so heartfelt, and it has stories revolving around coping with loss and loneliness by building new connections and new families, and it rips your heart out while leaving you shook over how great the animation and the soundtrack is

Castlevania

this one is insane. it is super gorey and violent with tons of swearing, but if you like that stuff you'll love this one. vampires and action with some stunning animation drags you in quickly, and the plotline is actually really good and you'll end up feeling for the characters so hard. their struggles are so investing and even if there's blood every second, it still manages to hook you quickly and wanna know what happens next. still haven't seen the new season yet, but I bet it's great

Primal

created by Genndy Tartakovsky, the legend behind Samurai Jack, so you already know this one is good. it's a short miniseries but whoo boy is it good. the animation is so nice, and this one is so unique. following the story of a caveman and a dinosaur becoming unlikely companions after loss, there is no dialogue. that makes it such a unique experience and it gets so emotional with some pure raw emotions that just crush you

The Midnight Gospel

the newest addition to the family, created by Pendleton War, the genius behind Adventure Time, this one messed me up in ways that I can't even put into words yet. it's an animated podcast with crazy trippy animation behind it and holy shit it is so unique. it takes time to process everything going on, but once in you get in the flow of it it hits you with emotions. following a guy who goes into a simulator to different worlds to interview people for his spacecast, expect for some great discussions of the struggles of hoping, coping with loss, and meditation. take your time with this one, it is so beautiful and funny

adult western animation is finally swinging up, and these are only some of the good ones. thought it would be good to advertise how not adult animation is ugly and just gross humor all the time, because people are finally telling stories that only adults can understand and relate to and feel, and I for one am absolutely here for it