I believe that one of the most tragic things that can happen in one’s life is the disruptive relationship with the body you’ve been born with.
Despite all of the things I’ve gone through, I doubt that I would trade that experience, because I’m unwilling to lose the acceptance that I had to fight for.
Like many other girls around the world I’ve witnessed woman’s body and its ‘beauty’ being up for discussion.
By men usually, but it’s always followed by some of the women.
The problems started to come out of thin air.
First there were my ethnic features, my nose in particular. From the present paradigm I can say that there is nothing wrong with it. First and foremost it does its job: I can breathe, and do so very well. Secondly, it’s just… a nose? It’s quite literally ordinary, especially amongst my people, and it’s beautiful to be apart of some society, to be able to trace your history, your DNA by your phenotype. Our bodies are so much more than just us. It’s the history.
But because it was different from the standards of a country where I lived, I was claimed as unattractive. And we all know how men treat women who are not attractive from their point view.
It destroyed me in many ways. I was and still sometimes am embarrassed to walk with people side by side, knowing they can see my side profile. I had this animal fear of them seeing me like that. And only recently I saw one photo of myself, and there was a revelation. There is literally nothing wrong with my nose. It suits my face, and it’s beautiful.
Then there was weight. From my early childhood I’ve been doing sports. All kinds of them. It helped me quite a lot, building stamina and I have been healthy, which supposedly is all that matters.
But when I was just a girl in cheerleading, my male coach has been making remarks of me being chubby, having a stomach. I loved him as a parent figure, I still do, but it’s something I doubt I will be able to forgive. Since those remarks I started thinking about food and the amounts of food I consume. I remember being at a contest, and eating an apple. My coach saw me and said tiredly: ‘you’re eating again.’
And it all changed something within me, irrevocably.
I look back at the picture now, of me being a child, and all I can see is a kid who’s REALLY small. I had no over weight, whatsoever. I was just a child whose features haven’t sharpened.
Lastly, there are stretch marks. It isn’t something that was noticed by anyone. It’s rather something brought up by the internet. I was constantly seeing content about how to deal with stretch marks, and it made me believe that I have to fix my body. I was horrified, how am I so young, and so damaged. I had to buy oils, or whatever else, and to fix it, to become attractive because that is where my value comes.
But it’s not. Your value is not in your beauty, because beauty does not exist. It’s a social construct, as many other things that make people suffer: gender roles, deviance, marriage; the list goes on.
You can make a choice. To not care about those things. To just accept yourself the way you are, the way you were born, the way your body is created.
Because there cannot be anything inherently ‘wrong’ with you.
I actually fucking hate it here, when will women wake the fuck up.
“I’m not a boy, therefore I need to wear makeup!” This is sooo progress 😍 gender ideology isn’t misogynistic at all!
“Thank you mom for that inner beauty talk that still has me googling makeup advice” this one is so heartbreaking because even if a mother tries to raise a daughter to be critical of beauty industry/fitting the standards of beauty in general, she still faces the whole pressure of the world
Women have the most freedom now more than ever, and therefore the beauty standards have been lifted to the point of skyrocketing makeup and plastic surgery sales in order to “keep them in their place”. It’s normalized to make fun of women for not performing makeup or femininity correctly, if you criticize this industry you’re “not a girls girl” and called ugly, gross, and unhygienic for not shaving or wearing makeup. It’s enforced by women as well as our capitalistic system and patriarchy.
I truly cannot see how anyone can argue that makeup is “just for fun” with comments like this being so common by women. Makeup and beauty isn’t for “fun”, it’s driven by patriarchy in an effort to keep woman in a self-created panopticon where they constantly criticize themselves.
shipping characters who are just friends in canon is more than okay but what’s annoying is when people take screenshots of them touching and say “friends don’t do that!”. i hate to break it to you but friends do hug and hold hands and cuddle. saying ‘friends don’t do that’ is reenforcing the idea that physical touch is reserved for lovers
Smosh Detectives as drawn by me. I recently got an iPad with procreate which means about a million pieces of fanart are now being drawn.
from what language are you translating to russian? none of your sentences made sense. stop using my language to spread rape threats, you sick piece of shit.
Sex is why women are opressed
Gender is how
This woman is Dr. Grace Murray Hopper. She created the first computer language compiler tools to program the Harvard Mark I computer. This computer was used in WWII after 1944. John von Neumann initiated the computer's first program, but Hopper invented the codes
oatnene // sue zhao
and when they play women it’s almost always some stereotypical and misogynistic shit. also, you can disagree with me, but tommy building his yt channel around ‘serving cunt’ is disgusting and stupid. gays will say this as a compliment (i don’t see it as one btw) and in the same breath use c-word as an insult exclusively towards women. they’re too comfortable with misogynistic language and behaviour, because for some reason women let them get away with it. we have been their biggest allies (even hetero women) since day one and that’s how they treat us? have some fucking respect.
Gotta agree that Chanse’s misogyny really rubs me the wrong way and it’s extra disappointing that nobody seems to call him out on it. ATP I don’t watch any Reddit stories with him because I know he’ll get on my nerves but even in other videos a lot of his humor seems rooted in attacking women too. Tommy is also very guilty of this especially lately, so many of his bits r just ruthlessly attacking women in a simply nasty way. As a lesbian I’m sick of gay men getting a pass to be straight up vitriolic towards women, it’s not like the humor is satirical in a way that subverts misogyny rather it attacks women the same way any other sexist would.
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so true. even in the recent games video he said posting colourful socks is for cringe middle aged white women or something. like… what? even this small remark gave me an ick, so don’t get me started on other stuff he says. also, smosh men actually love putting “white” in front of “women” just to get away with classic misogyny. i feel bad for angela.
Strangely, one member of the cast that truly stands out to me for their routine misogyny is Chanse. It may be that I'm queer, and I'm used to queer spaces where gay men expect to get away with it, so I could be projecting. But, it can be so offputting at times, because it doesn't even feel like a bit. It's just instinctive and sometimes spiteful. The more Smosh I watch, the more Angela's 'misandrist' outbursts feel like a cope.
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