WHAT THE HELL’S GOING ON?

PSA

Hey followers. I’ve seen a couple of call-out posts on my dash over the past couple of weeks, highlighting the alleged bad behavior of certain roleplayers. Whether these posts contain truth or not, I just want to share this with everyone:

It’s OKAY to say NO. It’s okay to block someone the moment you feel threatened, uncomfortable, scared, or manipulated. 

Yes, it’ll hurt their feelings. They might get upset. But your safety is more important. Don’t write/do/participate in anything you’re not comfortable with. If you’re terrified or anxious of confrontation, just block them and let it be done!

Your concerns are vallid. Your fears are valid. This person might be triggering you and sure, they might not have the context! If you feel comfortable with explaining it to them do it. If you don’t, or if you do and they don’t seem to care or understand, block them. Say no. Cut out what you can in life that makes you upset or anxious, because you will have a lot to deal with offline already.

Please be safe. Please use the block button. Please turn off anon if you keep getting garbage anonymous messages. Please say no.

If you don’t know how to “soft block” people –

Block someone, then unblock them immediately. This will make them unfollow you unknowingly and simultaneously have you unfollow them, too.

If you need to block certain words/phrases/usernames from your dash – use the extension tumblr savior . 

And the most powerful tool of all –  If you’re scared, upset, triggered, feel guilted or uncomfortable – 

LOG OUT. 

It doesn’t have to be forever and you don’t have to delete your blog. It doesn’t have to be for very long at all – you don’t  have to announce it! 

But Tumblr should not affect you once you sign out. It is a website. You have higher priorities. You are a living, breathing, beautiful human being who deserves to be treated with respect and cherished. It’s so easy to see people as simply text on a screen when you’re online, even subconsciously; that anonyminity can encourage people to be mean, to take out their problems on others.

Don’t be that person and don’t be the victim of that person. You deserve better. You deserve to enjoy Tumblr as a hobby and a place you visit online. Do not feel bad about saying no or using the block button – that’s what it was created for!

Take care of yourself and your friends. You’re going to be okay.

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*: ･ﾟ✧   black butler season one episode three starters.

feel free to change pronouns etc as needed.

“ i’m so, so, sorry, i… i’ll wipe it off.”

“ why did you agree to take on such a useless idiot?”

“ you’re one to talk.”

“ it didn’t seem like such a bad idea.”

“ can’t refuse your favorite ___, can you?”

“ i never expected that i would be affected by it as well.”

“ i’m so sorry for causing all this trouble.”

“ whoa, calm down a second!”

“ should we take the knife away?”

“ just think of the horrible mess you would make.”

“ it would take hours just to clean up the blood.”

“ thank you. you’re so very kind.”

“ that was kindness?”

“ perhaps you should just sit there and relax so you don’t cause anymore trouble.”

“ if you do decide to seek your eternal rest, please see to it outside, would you?”

“ and try not to make too big a mess.”

“ it’s a pain to special-order a new one.”

“ you haven’t had a growth-spurt in years.”

“ we shouldn’t stay away for too long.”

“ it was a great tragedy.”

“ forgive me for asking, but your parents, did they…?”

“ sadly, they both perished in the fire.”

“ you just need to rest yourself for a while.”

“ why are they all skulls?!”

“ no! not again!”

“ i’ve made yet another unacceptable mistake.”

“ i can’t go on any longer!”

“ quit trying to die all the time!”

“ but i have to! it’s the only way to redeem my honor.”

“ i’m sure you’re tired.”

“ what’s the matter?”

“ what happened to this place?”

“ why, it’s a disaster!”

“ what is going on here?”

“ why on earth are you dressed as lunatics?”

“ you’re crazy! crazy…!”

“ what are you doing now?”

“ at the moment i believe i’m in the process of dying.”

“ you’re back! i missed you so much.”

“ what a surprise!”

“ how many times do i have to tell you? call me ___.”

“ oh, you really are just the cutest thing ever!”

“ i could just eat you up!”

“ you detract from the beauty of the room.”

“ oh! but i made such a lovely decoration out of him.”

“ yes! just look at it all. isn’t it so cute now?”

“ and i have a present for you too.”

“ you’re always dressed in black. i thought this would be a nice change.”

“ what do you think?”

“ i am deeply honored that you went to so much trouble for my sake.”

“ your generosity overwhelms me.”

“ happy to help.”

“ in any event, what are you doing here?”

“ i sneaked away because i wanted to see you, silly!”

“ you- you sneaked away? don’t you think you’ll get into trouble.”

“ why don’t we have a ball tonight?”

“ you can be my escort and we’ll dance around all night long.”

“ isn’t that a wonderful idea?”

“ you’ll wear the clothes i picked out for you, won’t you?”

“ pretty please? it’ll be so cute on you!”

“ you come with me! i want to make you even cuter than you already are.”

“ wait! i said NO BALL!”

“ i believe the wisest course of action is to go along with the plan.”

“ i don’t think she is going to listen to reason.”

“ i know i’ve never seen you dance before, but i assume that you can?”

“ well, that explains why you’re always such a wallflower at social engagements.”

“ i have too much work to do.”

“ i don’t have time to waste on dancing.”

“ with all due respect, dancing is a necessary skill to possess.”

“ fine, i’ll do it. now stop the lecture.”

“ we don’t have sufficient time to call in a tutor.”

“ don’t be ridiculous! i’m not going to take dancing instructions from you!”

“ besides, do you even know how to dance?”

“ now, if you would do me the honor, may i have this dance?”

“ your natural ability for dancing isn’t so much lacking as it is non-existent.”

“ you cannot simply cling for dear life onto your dance partner.”

“ you’re too tall / short, it’s not working!”

“ most importantly, you need to wipe that gloomy look off your face.”

“ now, let’s have a smile. pretend that it’s fun.”

“ let me go!”

“ i can’t smile.”

“ i’ve forgot how.”

“ i don’t know how to pretend like i’m having fun.”

“ how AWFUL! this is the most humiliating outfit ever.”

“ i think you’re going to have to make peace with it.”

“ that’s your problem with it?!”

“ i can’t live with a shame as deep as this. no… i’d rather die!”

“ eh… you aren’t going to try to stop me this time?”

“ i’ll make you look so adorable!”

“ i’m really farsighted, i can’t see anything without my glasses.”

“ you don’t have to see to have fun.”

“ now hand those over, silly.”

“ no, no, please!”

“ leave her / him alone.”

“ ___! you look adorable!”

“ why aren’t you wearing the ring i brought you?”

“ you’re so cruel!”

“ hah! fooled you! it’s mine now!”

“ give it back!”

“ wh-why are you so angry at me?”

“ what’s wrong?”

“ so- so why are you so angry?”

“ it’s truly one of a kind.”

“ it- it was that important? and i destroyed it?”

“ what are you doing?!”

“ how long are you going to cry?”

“ i- i’m so sorry.”

“ your face is a mess.”

“ what the hell? you can actually sing?!”

“ you can count on me.”

“ are you sure?”

“ indeed, i’m more deadly efficient than i appear.”

“ i’m in your debt.”

“ you’ve taught me a lot.”

“ they say that before a person dies, his life flashes before him.”

“ i know that when i see the light of death, this momentous evening is what will appear to me in my dying vision!”

“ interesting that you would say that.”

“ it’s finally over.”

“ you seemed to be enjoying yourself for a while there.”

“ don’t be so foolish.”

“ am i the fool here?”

“ when i close my eyes, i hear them too.”

“ i hear voices echoing in my head.”

“ you must get some rest”

“ don’t want to make yourself ill, do you?”

“ stay with me till i fall asleep.”

“ goodness, are you displaying weakness in front of me now?”

“ i will stay here. i am by your side forever. until the end.”

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                                          In a b l i n kof an eye,

                                                                 I never got to say GOODBYE.

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Send “How did you get this?” for my muse’s reaction to your muse observing one of their scars.

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2-3 Word Sentence Meme

Send one (or more) for my character’s reaction.

“Lay down.”

“Stay here.”

“Stay inside.”

“I love you.”

“Eat something.”

“Are you leaving?”

“I’ll help.”

“Rest now.”

“Get some sleep.”

“Are you awake?”

“I’ll do it.”

“What is it?

“Sleep well.”

“Are you okay?”

“I’ll be okay.”

“You’re safe.”

“I’m a friend.”

“I don’t like it.”

“I can’t sleep.”

“You’re amazing.”

“You’re comfortable.”

“You’re warm.”

“You’re soft.”

“You are shaking.”

“You are wet.”

“You are tall.”

“I am freezing.”

“I am hungry.”

“I’m tired.”

“I know you.”

“I’m too short.”

“I’m frightened.”

“Where were you?”

“Why me?”

“Why there?”

“Come here.”

“Walk with me?”

“Kiss me.”

“Hug me.”

“Hold me.”

“Help me.”

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SHE IS SCRAPED KNEES AND CALLOUSES, A SCUFFED UP TEACUP WITH BLOODY KNUCKLES AND A TROUBLE FLAVORED GRIN. / written by ren. originally established on april 14th, 2014. / SHE IS FRECKLES AND SUNLIGHT. SHE IS APRICITY AND NEW LIFE.

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PSA -

VILLAINS ARE VILLAINS.

Villains are not a precious little punching bag that’s going to stand there and take your shit and be sassy with their hand on their hip. If you mess with the bull you get the horns – if you push a villain, you will get the wrath of a villain. If your character is rude/disrespectful to a villain, especially one in a high place of power, and the villain lashes out (whether it be verbally or physically) – 

THEN YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO BE UPSET ABOUT IT. WHAT DID YOU EXPECT TO HAPPEN?

Don’t write with villain/cruel/evil characters if you can’t deal with a villain/cruel/evil character being less than nice to your precious cinnamon roll of a character. Surprise! That’s not how this works! If the villain suddenly kills your character without having spoken to you first, then you have absolutely every right to be mad. But if your character receives a verbal lashing or non-lethal physical response that is in character for the villain to give, then you need to deal with it. 

I’m also sick of this sense of prerogative way of thinking certain characters hold when it comes to villains. This mindset of, ‘oh this person is evil, bUT OBVIOUSLY THEY’LL LOVE ME AND I’LL BE THEIR SPECIAL SOMEONE THEY WON’T HATE ME OR TRY AND KILL ME.“ NO. STOP THAT. You cannot go into interactions with villains expecting them to absolutely fall in love with your character/be best friends with them. This is why it’s most times excruciatingly difficult to ship/bro-ship with villains. And even if this does happen, you should expect a villain to still be aggressive and/or rude from time to time. 

A VILLAIN DOES NOT STOP BEING A VILLAIN JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

I’ve written villains for a long time now, and one thing has been made perfectly clear – you will get shit for writing your character too IC and you will get shit for writing your character too OOC. You will be fucking cursed out for your character being aggressive to those who are rude to them, and you will be blasted for writing them being nice even just from time to time. So fellow villain writers – just let your villain flag fly. Don’t fucking listen to people who try and give you shit either way for your portrayal. To those who do not write villains – respect them. Just because your character is sassy and spunky, doesn’t automatically give them the right to try and be disrespectful to someone who is most likely superior to them.

TL;DR IF YOU CAN’T STAND THE HEAT, GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN. IF YOU CAN’T DEAL WITH SOMEONE BEING CRUEL TO YOUR MUSE, DON’T WRITE WITH VILLAINS.

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burnbooking:

roleplayers are people, not just accounts.

this is something that i’ve been meaning to talk about for a while now. it’s begun to weigh heavily in the community that i write in as well as those of others. it’s the idea that we should take pride in callout culture and completely obliterating accounts. that a callout post needs to be written for any and all transgressions, that one half of a story is gospel, and that roleplayers can be judged as problematic by association.

let’s start with face-saving apologies. the type of apology that a roleplayer will half-assedly give just to have a receipt of one. to appease those they hurt when the harm was intentional and in no way plan on improving themselves as a person. the kind of apology that is issued so they will sympathized with rather than ridiculed. these apologies are absolute bullshit. if you’re going to vague or be a bully or act out, own your behavior. i’m aware this sounds hypocritical coming from a burn book but what happens on the dash is a lot different than sending something to us. when posting on the dash your content is broadcasted to a direct audience. the same community. here, it gets thrown into an aggregate void and spat back out. don’t vague or talk behind someone’s back and believe that it won’t get around to them.

it shouldn’t be a goal to attack someone over petty shit. don’t criticize people for liking or not liking something that isn’t heavily problematic. you can dislike the vampire diaries but write with a stefan salvatore. you can hate damon salvatore as a character and still like the vampire diaries. what doesn’t need to happen is posting harmless opinions on your own blog and then being attacked for them. if someone is so hurt over another rper disliking their fandom then maybe roleplay isn’t for that person. stop being so fucking petty.

to attempt to destroy a persons reputation over hurt feelings is a stupid, selfish thing to do. keep your friend circle bullshit in your friend circle. nobody needs to be put on blast or shunned for actions that were not purposely or outright abusive or otherwise disturbing. you cannot claim to be looking out for your own mental health by seeking to turn people against another roleplayer who may have hurt your feelings. not only is it immature, it puts the other person’s mental health at risk and while some people on this website believe that the world revolves around them, i can assure you that it does not. nobody in this blue hellscape is judge or jury.

finally, it saddens me as well as the other mods to hear constantly from people who have been turned on by their friends and partners and are now having panic attacks because they’re afraid that they’re being slandered in private; that i, as well as many of my close friends, have become too paranoid to interact with certain people after negative experiences with roleplayers similar to them; that we’re still having to hear that people are being called “abusive” and “manipulative” and “toxic” for hurting another roleplayer’s feelings accidentally or handling a situation badly and then having such critical language thrown on their name.

behind every roleplay account is a person with a life and family and friends and feelings. they’re not merely account names to drag through the mud. think before you wild out or gossip or act like an asshole. it’s not all that difficult to have some god damn tact everyone once in a while.

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starters based on things my group chat has said.

❛Shit, I’m being attacked by porcelain clowns.❜

❛I think ___ and I just cringed from how white that was.❜

❛I’m fine with you punching me in the nads, but don’t you mess with my Pepsi.❜

❛I need to like, cry.❜

❛My beautiful voice mimics the words everyone is thinking, but is too shy to say. ‘Fuck you, ____’, I whisper into the air. A sigh of relief fills the audience. They all nod their heads in agreement. Hushed voices all around the auditorium, all carrying the same message. ‘Fuck you, _____’.❜

[TEXT] Stop with the :3c face. Nothing good ever happens when you do the :3c face.

[TEXT] andnlifhtbg3ts mad [TEXT] grts mad [TEXT] gets mad [TEXT] that one

❛We have to put a warning label on _____.❜

❛What? Is my three-inch thruster too much to handle?❜

❛Yeah, but isn’t your ego as big as your dick? WAIT, FUCK.❜

❛If only you knew I made 32k since June. Then you would treat me differently.❜

[TEXT] _____, will you space succ me?

❛I can’t believe that ______ is going to space suck ______.❜

❛______ is a tranquiliquest.❜

❛______ doesn’t feel pain. You know, because he blocks the pain out with testosterone.❜

❛Once I got punched in the dick and I didn’t even give a fuck. I have really high pain tolerance.❜

❛Nootnoot. The musical.❜

❛I want ______ to go to Cowboy Camp.❜

❛Eternal suffering isn’t as bad as they all say!❜

❛I can’t believe ______ is fergalicious.❜

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