Tom: *wants To Play Spider-Man In The Reboot Of The Reboot And Wants To Be In A Movie With Jake Gyllenhaal*

Margaret Atwood: femininity is a performance art course you will never graduate from and man is your audience

me: holy shit

the small but growing Mitski on my shoulder: femininity might be a performance art we will never be free of, but because you are aware of this, sometimes you will seek to perform only for yourself and no one else, and by that, we are starting to break free

me, sobbing: thank you, Mitski of my consciousness

Finding love as a transgender person

Marianne Oakes has shared an amazing collection of transgender love stories over at GenderGP. 

Here are a few of them. 

Marianne wrote:

The myth that trans people struggle to find love is damaging to our future generations, if trans youth or worse still, their parents believe this, then the impact can be loss of hope. My experience is pretty much like all the lovely comments here, let’s stop the myth, xx

More here!

At this point it’s like who am I not in love with

INFJ Turn Ons

Wit

INFJs are…

drawn to intelligence and they want their partners to favor intelligence as well

extremely attracted to someone with an intricate and thoughtful mind

peaked by the combination of intelligence + a great sense of humor because it keeps relationships interesting, lively and timeless

extremely turned on by someone who is witty, well-spoken and somewhat geeky

observant of physical traits; however, are often more drawn to the internal aspects of a person

impressed by anyone who can respond well to and keep up with their banter and wit — respectively, very turned on by someone who knows how to make them laugh and impress them with their rhetoric (AKA being kept on their toes)

Kindness

INFJs are attracted to…

a kind-looking face with a bit of chill demeanor to it (e.g. some natural ruggedness or bareface/natural beauty)

someone who expresses equal love for others/nature + open-mindedness

someone who isn’t rude, big-headed, or seeks to put others down for superficial reasons

someone who helps others without it being known, asked or publicized to help others

kindness that doesn’t equate to weakness

treating others how they would like to be treated

a humanitarian outlook

Certain Kind of Eye Contact

INFJs weaknesses include…

not lustful, but intriguing looks—as if the person is seeing something more in you that they desire but consciously aren’t letting their face or bodily actions express it

the occasional locked eyes from someone gets the INFJ’s attention but might throw them off their game if the timing is right (which INFJ will secretly enjoy because they often times feel like very few people can get them off their game/surprise them)

contemplative but warm eyes

being able to naturally communicate with eyes (e.g. the glances that say enough)

Quiet Confidence

INFJs gets interested in…

someone who presents “I’m capable of being on my own, and I’m not likely to back down” + respects themselves

a certain amount of confidence, a mischievous twinkle in the eye or a saucy smile (AKA a bit of “trouble” without actually being distressing) + playful teasing

someone who is comfortable enough to be independent without flaunting it — always walking to the beat of their own drum

someone who has the courage to be their honest, true self and expresses willingness to keep growing as a person

actually i love growing older and learning how i work as a person like realizing what kinds of fabrics feel best on my skin or what brand of yogurt i like best or how I want to be touched. watching myself change, enjoying brussel sprouts when I used to hate them as a child, understanding why I got angry in that one conversation 10 years ago… there are so many mysteries inside me that i have yet to unravel and there will always be more and sometimes i think maybe its all worth it

Hopefully this will lift the heavy weight off someone's chest today.

reading vincent van goghs letters and he keeps repeating the same thing.. that i may be of use in the world. he repeats it over and over, in questions, in musings, in desperation. how can i be of use in the world? (the most precious question!) how can i be of use in the world? (how can anyone?) reminds me of that mary oliver quote: to pay attention, this is our endless and proper work. if i were any more insightful i could say something profound here, but i think if we keep focused attention on the question, we may find a way to be of some good. like rilke meant. by loving the questions themselves, we may one day stumble upon the answer.

Apparently "People Watching" by Conan Gray will now live rent free in my head. I have no objections, I do have some thoughts tho.

I have never EVER in my life identified with a song that much. Everything in it is spot on. To the letter. It's scary and I hate it. But I love it at the same time. So... yeah.

And also, I would like to very respectfully say that Conan is the most beautiful human being my unworthy eyes had the honor of seeing in the last couple of weeks (at least). And I studied Aesthetics, I know my shit (read: I know my beauty, professor).

Like, seriously, Conan, stop.

Physically I'm in my student's apartment, mentally I'm here.

girls don’t want boys, girls want to live in Dakota Johnson’s house.

What Happened To Kendrick Johnson and Why People Are Demanding Answers Even Now

On Jan. 11, 2013, the body of 17-year-old Kendrick Johnson was found in the most unusual of circumstances: upside-down and rolled up in a school gym mat. The mysterious death of Kendrick Johnson was initially ruled an accident by law enforcement asserting the ridiculous theory that Johnson must have accidentally fallen into the center of the mat while reaching for a sneaker

Some inconsistencies in the case:

the black and white gym shoe that lay on the ground below Kendrick Johnson, the one he was presumed to be reaching for, was lying on top of a pool of blood, but there was no blood on the shoe itself.

A hoodie and a pair of orange and black gym shoes were also found lying on the floor of the gym 

traces of blood on the wall nearby that wasn’t Kendricks. 

A private pathologist revealed Kendrick Johnson had suffered hemorrhaging on the right side of his neck, which meant that he likely died from blunt force trauma

the second autopsy revealed that some of Johnson’s organs were missing and in their place, his body had been stuffed with newspaper.

A whole hour of footage from the gym was missing, right at the time which would have shed light on what happened that day

HOW YOU CAN HELP:

- Donate to his family! (they're nowhere near their goal)

- Sign the petition 

SPREAD THIS AND HIS STORY!!!

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My final thesis is finally coming together. It's raining here a lot and I feel in peace with my deadline... at least for this moment.