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Some years ago when our marriage was slowly falling apart and I had seemingly lost all interest in having sex with him and after months and years of him trying to relive past hotwife experiences my husband sent me this text message:

I would only ever ask you to do what I know has always worked to strengthen our relationship because it has always worked in the past and because now more than ever everything we do going forward should always be built upon the love and trust we committed to years ago. If you can't trust me I can not continue to love you and I desperately need you to trust me because I still desperately love you. If you can't do what I ask without without being told or coerced then without wanting to I will find attraction to someone who will and you know how that story goes because we have both been there before. I've begged you to and you know without any doubts what I want so just go and do it and make sure you make it absolutely obvious so that I know [you] are doing it, I need you to do it without anymore pleases. Do it because you love me and you trust me and you trust yourself and you trust us and you love us together, or do you not?

Needless to say that caught my attention. Clearly we have a complicated life, but it's our life and honestly I wouldn't trade it for anything.

Some Nice movies to watch if you are into alternate lifestyle.

1) Mechanics of Desire -- One of the best! Husband can't get it up, so he encourages his wife to fuck other men, while he watches. The wife doesn't want to, but she agrees to save her marriage. The best scene is in the bar. They show the wife's face as she realizes this is really going to happen. Another great scene is just before the end of the movie, where the husband tries to set up the wife in the dirty bathroom of a gas station. I wish the last scene was longer.

2) Bitter Moon -- Leggy wife forces her paralyzed husband to watch as she seduces a black man. I wish they showed the man fucking the wife!

3) Depraved -- The only way a man gets off is by watching his fiancée with other men. The girl doesn't seem to mind.

4) End of Days -- A too short scene of an aggressive man (the devil!) kissing and fondling a woman right in front of her husband.

5) Tough Guys don't dance -- A man fucks a woman in front of her husband. The man likes it so much he convinces his wife to swap with another couple. There's a scene of the man with the other woman, and he hears his wife moaning from the fucking she's getting from the other man. The woman laughs, and says "I guess your wife really likes my BIG husband."

6) Unfaithful -- Pretty good, many scenes of a wife cheating on her husband.

7) Erosion -- A naughty wife fucks another man while watching her husband through the window. Later, she lets him fuck her again, saying "You like fucking another man's wife in the ass, don't you?"

8) Internal Affairs -- Two great scenes. In the first, Richard Gere is fingering a man's wife while talking to him across the table (the husband doesn't know what Gere is doing to his wife). In the second, Gere is fucking another man's wife while she talks to her husband on the phone.

9) Postman Always Rings Twice -- Jessica Lange cheats on her husband in this great scene. Jessica is wearing a garter belt and stockings, and you can see the man fingering her panty-clad pussy.

10) Sex and Consequences -- An older but very sexy Joan Severance (can you say cougar!) cheats on her husband with a much younger man. In one great scene, Joan encourages her lover to finger her to orgasm in a car. They should have made the scene longer, no way she cums that fast.

11) Husbands and Lovers -- A wife spends weekends with her lover. Great stocking scenes.

12) Intimate Obsession -- Jodie Fisher, a very pretty blonde wife, gets picked up in a bar

13) Damage -- Juliette Binoche (great legs) repeatedly cheats on her fiancée, with her fiancee's father

14) Survival Island -- Kelly Brook (very pretty face and a nice body) is stranded on an island with a muscular, handsome stranger (not her husband). She eventually succumbs to the stranger's advances, and lets him fuck her brains out. Later, she's reunited with her hubby, but you can tell she's addicted to the stud's hard body (and probably much larger cock).

15) Ken Park -- Wife (a cougar) cheats on her husband with her son's best friend. She tells her lover his cock is bigger than hubby's.

16) Door in the Floor -- Kim Basinger cheats on her husband with a much younger man. Kim isn't as pretty as she used to be, but her body is still very fuckable.

17) Les Valseuses -- a new mom lets two strangers fondle her in a train

18) Maria's Lovers -- Wife needs more than what her husband can give her. She's seduced on the ferry by a stranger (He pushes her skirt up to reveal her stocking tops. Then he pins her against the door and rubs her pussy over her dress. As he presses his cock against her, he says "You like the feel of that?). Later she lets the stranger fuck her.

19) Married People Single Sex -- Wives cheat on their husbands

20) Dead Calm -- Nicole Kidman and her husband are on their boat. A stranger takes over the boat, and sends hubby away on a damaged boat. Nicole lets the stranger fuck her, and even cum inside her! (What a slut! But she's got an incredible ass and legs.)

21) Eyes Wide Shut -- Nicole Kidman fantasizes about fucking a blonde sailor. A great dream scene of Nicole pulling off her panties as the sailor fondles her tits. Nicole admits to her husband that she would have fucked the sailor if he had asked her. Nicole has great legs!

22) Normal -- Camille Sullivan, a very pretty blonde with small perfect tits, lets a young stud fuck her. Just as they finish, her husband comes home early. Husband goes to the bedroom to find his sweet, pretty wife naked in bed (her lover is hiding behind the door). Husband fucks wife. What's great is you can tell from Camille's pretty face that she isn't enjoying her husband near as much as she enjoyed her young hard lover.

23) Price of Passion -- A good movie about a husband who likes to watch his wife flirt and make out with other men. A little like "Indecent Proposal." This movie would be better if the wife's sex scenes were longer.

24) Killer Looks -- One of the best wife watching movies. The husband encourages his wife to seduce other men. He likes to watch. The wife goes along with it, admitting that variety is exciting, but she's reluctant about it. Sara Suzanne Brown plays the wife with an alluring, southern accent. She has long blonde hair, a very pretty face, large shapely breasts and a flat stomach. Her legs are okay, especially in stiletto heels, but they're not long enough to qualify as killer legs. Does anyone know if Sara ever made any adult movies? Her face is so pretty, I'd love to see her lips around a big hard cock.

25) Scorned -- A great scene where the husband urges the wife (Shannon Tweed) to let another man fuck her to close a business deal. The agony on the wife's face as the man pulls up her dress and penetrates her is exquisite. I wish the scene was longer. (There's another great scene in this movie where a young blonde coed seduces her professor.)

26) Straw Dogs -- A great, long scene where a man forces himself on a wife while her husband is on a hunting trip. The wife initially resists but then enjoys it, lovingly stroking the man's chest and kissing him. Then, after they cum, another man (who was hiding and saw it all) fucks the wife in the ass.

27) Forbidden -- The wife fucks a young man in the car. You can see her wedding ring while her lover pounds her. Tracy Smith (aka Tracy Ryan) plays the wife. She's blonde with a very pretty face, and an incredible body. She's also done x-rated movies. In my book, Tracy is second only to Sara Suzanne Brown in hotness. (Sara has the prettier face and sexier voice, Tracy has better legs).

28) Tryst -- Great movie where the husband and wife go on vacation. The wife is clearly attracted to the French inn keeper, and the husband gives his permission for the French guy to dance with and then kiss his wife. The wife then goes down on the French guy. Later the wife urges her husband to take her from behind, to prove to him she still loves him. Very hot, I wish it had ended differently (with the French guy between the wife's legs.)

29) Voyeur Confessions -- Great scene where the boyfriend urges his hot girl friend to fuck another man. The girl friend is clearly reluctant, but she agrees and goes into a bar to pick up a guy. She brings him back to the hotel room and fucks him, while the boyfriend watches from the next room. Very hot, but too short.

30) Young Adam -- Wife fucks a young guy in the cabin of a boat, while her husband is upstairs steering the boat. This would be hotter if the wife was prettier and had a better body (she's too skinny with sagging breasts). This movie just proves that young handsome men like to fuck married women, even if they're dogs.

31) Zebra Lounge -- A couple decides to swap to make their sex life more exciting.

32) Trapped -- Charlize Theron plays the wife. She's so fucking sexy! She guides a stranger's hand up her shirt, so he can fondle her nipples. He says "your husband doesn't know how to handle you." "So you know how to handle me?" Charlize answers in a sexy, sultry voice.

33) Crash -- Wife fucks a man in the back seat of a car while hubby watches. Sexy stockings!

34) Cruel Intentions 3 -- A guy forces a girl to call up her boyfriend as he eats her out. A wicked scene!

35) Leo -- Elisabeth Shue lets a painter fuck her. You can see her wedding ring as she gets pounded by her new lover. Very hot! Elisabeth has made so many kinky, hot movies, you just know she's a horny slut in real life!

You might do it for him at first

but once you feel how incredible and exciting it is you’ll do it for you

It’s more than worth it

PART 3

Jim's and Sarah's honest couple talk

Sarah and I basically live apart in different cities. Unfortunately our work situation has forced us to live this way for the past 5 years.

We stay close by visiting each other as often as possible, but it is still not the same as living together in a single household. This makes for some very frustrating days and nights. When we are apart for protracted times we sext and talk with each other and mutually masterbate to the sounds of each others pleasures.

Sarah is a vibrant attractive middle aged woman who has always had other guys hitting on her. She has a great body and a beautiful smile. Since we've been married I haven't had sexual interest in any other woman but her. My pleasure revolves solely around her pleasure. So that leads me to my honest talks with her about our sexual desires especially when we are apart.

In the past Sarah occasionally had silent affairs with friends from outside of our marriage. This was mostly at the beginning of our marriage and even though she would never admit it, I was very aware of what was going on. I never told her to stop, but I did demand she be truthful about it. Here’s where the story gets tricky. She knows what turns me on and yet she was deathly afraid to act on it with my knowledge. So I never condemned her for what she did, but I just couldn't get her to share it with me. Obviously we didn't have a perfect marriage, but those acts of infidelity literally saved our marriage. Deep down she knew that what she had done was to make me want her even more and believe me it did and still does. Now even though her silence caused a significant amount of stress for me I also knew and appreciated what she had done.

I would spend countless hours thinking and rethinking about it and imagining what she was experiencing at those moments. Where had she done it? With whom how often? At the time it led me to spy on her just to get a glimpse of her private life, but still she never did understand that I was perfectly ok with it because to me the sex was the easiest part to understand.  I have always enjoyed a healthy sex drive. It's been a great 20 years of marriage and 20 years of me obsessing about her fucking other guys. To me it's a way of staying relevant in her life. Even though I would repeatedly tell her that it turns me on immensely for her to cheat, she would say that she had no interest in it. I knew that she had sexual interests that didn't involve me because occasionally her porn history would give it away. This led me to the extreme desire for her to explore her sexuality in ways others including her could not understand. I didn't even understand it sometimes, all I know is it drives me wild.

After many years of discussion we both believe that we can maintain a healthy sex life when we are apart if she fools around with other guys and includes me by simply telling me about it, letting me listen to her doing it and occasionally watching and even joining in on those occasions she decided we could play together. That way she can be completely guilt free, after all it's really not cheating if I'm asking her to do it. She knows she has my 100% support.

I have been able to focus in on the one aspect of it that leads me to very strong emotions of jealousy that drive me insane with lust for her not because she is with someone else, but because I am not in control. It is an out of control feeling like none other. The feeling of passion and love I have for her is amplified a hundred times over when I know she's doing something that I desire. I guess the easiest way to describe it is that even though we aren't together, we can still share intimacy with each other.

There are many great experiences that we have since shared as a result of our arrangement of me faithfully maintaining my monogamous vows to her and her having affairs with other guys to satisfy both of our sexual desires.

We found out the hard way that the key to a strong marriage is honest open talk among couples with patience and understanding. Sarah and I understand each others needs and she acts to meet my expectations without hesitation because she knows it makes us a better and infinitely happier couple. I allow her to do what she wants with anyone she wants, whenever she wants with no strings attached. Experts refer to it as a free hall pass for her to pursue whatever sexual interests she may desire.

If you find yourself in either a similar situation or having unexplainable desires to watch your wife have sex, then you should just talk to her about it. She may not want to hear it at first, but with time if you lovingly share your true feelings and wishes she will understand that it is not some trick, but rather a sincere desire on your part to be the most important part of her life.

It's no secret that sexless marriages are the number one cause of divorce. Understand that sex is sex and love is love. The confusion that crosses those lines is the same horrible miscommunication that comes from a failure on either part to be willing to actively give whatever it takes to make your marriage work. Failure is not an option it is an intentional consequence of silence.

Thankfully we can say that it has been a long road for us, but today we are happier than we have ever been. Despite our time away from each other physically, we are always together mentally. Our love, appreciation and respect for each other is unmatched by any other couple we personally know.

50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women

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Use smooth, steady, slow rhythmic licks. Slow and steady wins the race 

I am new to this whole oral sex thing. My husband decided to eat me out the other night. He made these motions with his tongue and told me to guess what he was spelling against my clit. I thought it would be weird to have him do that but it really relaxed me and I had fun with it. So guys: Spell out little messages like “I love you” or “You taste good.” It will take any hesitation away from your girl while she’s decoding your playful messages. 

At Wal-Mart they have these little ice trays that make tubular ice for bottles. They sell the trays for a dollar each. Get small pieces of (what my husband and I now refer to as) Cooter Ice. Slip them around the clit and into the vaginal opening. It makes for wicked sensation. 

In regard to oral sex in particular, you MUST know your lover’s sensitivity level. I, for one, am ultra-sensitive. If someone just dives in and attacks my clit, uses teeth, has no variation in technique, then I will probably still orgasm; however, I will be too sore to go again for hours or even days. This is extremely irritating! 

If I start moving toward your tongue, it’s because you and I have found the exact “spot”…let ME move, don’t you move. 

The secret is to soften the tongue and work around the clitoral area rather than aggressively attacking the clit. Variation of pattern is also important. Once I’m truly horny, an occasional flick of the tongue is ok—but only occasionally. I also think that stimulation of the G-spot, which is basically adjacent to the clit on the inside of the vagina, is important as it creates a much deeper, more intense orgasm. 

Nothing is more erotic than being held open with gentle loving hands. It gives direct access to the clit and he works it so well. I melt every time! When his elbows are planted at shoulder width (my lover’s shoulders are quite wide) and he has me open and exposed, working away, there is no way I am able to get away. 

I totally agree with starting slow and looking her in the eyes. That drives me crazy. Another thing that makes me crazy is when my guy moans or growls while kissing and licking my pussy. The reverberations from the deepness of his voice drive me wild! Not to mention hearing him enjoy himself gets me off even harder. 

If you boys start it… KNOW that it may take awhile! Finish what you started and once you’ve found her hot spot, stay there! 

If I know I’m going to get a good eating from my man, I will eat pineapple throughout the day. He says it makes me taste unbelievable! I’ve also heard watermelon and celery will change the taste of your juices. 

Having had my pussy licked, sucked, eaten, and savored by both men and women, I can tell you that the best way to find out what she likes is to get her to play with herself. Follow her lead, and it will change each time. Sometimes my pussy wants it hard, really hard, and sometimes only the slightest feather touch will make me explode. 

Keep a steady rhythm going, and keep your tongue relaxed! Pointed tongues are too harsh on the clit, and actually desensitize. Another thing to keep in mind is that just because she’s moaning louder doesn’t mean she suddenly wants you to start going faster, make crazy figure eights, or gnaw on it. It means she likes EXACTLY what you’ve been doing. When a guy is doing something I really like, I’ll usually say, “Don’t stop,” which means, “Don’t stop exactly what you’re doing right now.” 

I find that just the tip of my partner’s finger inserted in my pussy after he’s been eating me out for little while - barely moving, just sort of tickling the entrance - makes me go nuts. Pussy eating is a delicate matter, so don’t thrust your finger too vigorously. You’re just trying to gently tickle her into coming! 

I like a guy to ask me how I like my pussy licked so I can help him find that awesome combination that makes me squirt without worrying about hurting his feelings or making him think I don’t enjoy his moves. It takes a really great and confident lover to ask for feedback during hot sex. It makes me crazy! 

I like my man to slip his fingers into my cunt while he is paying attention to my clit! Men, if you look like you are really enjoying yourself, too, it makes all the difference. A former boyfriend used to growl into my pussy when he went down on me which was unbelievably erotic and made me feel really wanted! 

Don’t forget about using the nose too! I love feeling my man’s nose nuzzling my clit, and feeling his breathing on me, especially the moaning exhaling and him inhaling (smelling) me. Also, I don’t know why, but the “wet” sound turns me on… the creamy, squishy, squelching noises. 

Don’t bite the clit. Men don’t like having their dicks bitten and we don’t like having our clits bitten either. It hurts and will very quickly get us out of the mood. 

Don’t drool and don’t make loud sucking sounds. It’s disgusting. A major turn off. 

Popsicles are a good idea. They make a guy’s tongue cold and the sensation is amazing. That, and the taste will be better for the guy. It’s a win-win situation. 

Deep kiss her clit. I love my partner deep kissing my clit, taking both lips of my vagina. I want him/her to suck on them for a long time before concentrating on my clitoris. 

Tongue fucking is what rocks my world. Clit play is nice to get me hot, but after that, I want your tongue flicking across my hole for a while, teasing me with the idea of going in, then giving it all to me. Clit play gets boring after awhile and many women are too sensitive there anyhow. 

Don’t forget to warm us up first. Just like BJs aren’t that great if we take your pants off and deep throat you off the bat, we like to be teased with the idea for a while, and get really, really aroused before you get started. It makes the orgasm THAT much harder. 

I hate the finger penetration while sucking on the clit…it’s distracting. Most guys just suck the life out of you because they think it’s wonderful. Licking is wonderful too. Try it. The most important thing is to watch her reaction. If she’s just lying there quiet, then she is bored and wishes you would stop. 

Don’t forget to be patient. It’s not like in a porn movie - most women do not have an orgasm with in a minute or two. Like any good thing in life, it takes time and is worth waiting for. 

Stop and make her need it. Finger her now, slowly at first, and kiss her thighs. Start again by flicking her clit with your tongue, light pressure, then experiment with other pressure and movement. Everything on the clit feels good, but some moves feel GREAT! Play around with tongue pressure and fingering and ass fingering or ass tickling/licking (if she wants it). 

Use your entire face. Nothing is more frustrating than a hesitant tongue. The chin rubbing on the opening to the vagina adds to the pleasure. Also, let her know you enjoy it as well. Moan a little. A woman can tell if it’s a chore. 

Definitely start off with light kissing and slow deliberate strokes of the tongue. Then do some circling. If your girlfriend feels your tongue is too rough when you start off, you can tell because her movements will be too jerky and squirmish. That’s your hint to either slow down, decrease pressure, or find another place to lick for a few minutes till she warms up. 

Once I’m warmed up, I like spreading my legs wide and enjoying the hot wet lickage. What turns me on the most is talking dirty. I like asking my dude if he likes my pussy. So tell her some stuff (in between licks) that will blow her mind and enjoy what is bound to come next. 

My tip to all men is don’t put a whole lot of saliva in her when you’re licking her. It feels better when there isn’t a loogie inside us we can feel. 

Don’t shake your face - no one likes that! Also, complimenting her on her appearance down there boosts sexual confidence, which could lead to bigger and better things. 

There is nothing I love more than his mouth on my clit and two fingers inside me. It doesn’t really matter if his tongue moves back and forth, side to side, or in circles. All that matters is that once he chooses a method he sticks to it and DOESN’T CHANGE OR STOP. After a little of this I’m begging and pleading for his fingers inside me at the same time. They don’t need to thrust because everything is already so sensitive. He just slides his fingers in and does a slight “come here” type motion while continuing to use his mouth on my clit and I usually respond by coming quickly indeed! 

Ask your girl while you are downtown, “Right here?” and have her guide you. And once she says “YES, right there,” don’t stop. Don’t change technique or location unless she asks you to. Too many times I have been right on the verge of cumming and the guy changes positions, my clit goes into spasms and I didn’t even get to enjoy it. Damn, that pisses me off. 

A rigid pointy tongue is horrible, but a soft flat tongue is amazing. 

Enjoy it! We always get more pleasure if we feel that the guy is REALLY having fun. If I see that my boyfriend is doing it under pressure, I won’t enjoy it either. 

I like to lay on my back while he rests his head on my left leg and begins to kiss, lick and suck me. He purses his lips as if he is saying “OOOH” and grasps my clit with his mouth, thrusting his tongue through his lips and rolling it around my button. Sometimes he goes back and forth and then around, always doing this very gently at first, then with more pressure as I began to go crazy. In Asia they call this cunnilingus technique “polishing her pearl.”

My boyfriend does this thing right on the clit, kind of like he is saying “LA LA LA LA!” really fast and then slowly licks up every once in awhile. Oh my god! It’s great! People, I have had multiple orgasms from this little technique! And boys, I advise trying this on your girl! 

I like it when my lover’s tongue slowly takes the tour of my labia then moves up to my clitoris, and while their tongue is concentrating there, their lower lip moist from saliva and my love juices is brushing gently around my perineum, with an occasional glance across my anus. It makes my asshole pucker and the sphincter response sends ripples through my vagina. 

Just because she has cum does not mean that you are done. Don’t be afraid to give her clit a gentle massage with your tongue and lips as if you’re calming it down just to get all worked up again. 

Make noises when you’re eating the pussy. You want her to believe that eating her pussy is the best thing you ever tasted. Think of your favorite food and pretend the pussy is just that. 

That other girl was right about the “tongue fucking.” Generally tongues aren’t long enough to stimulate the area really well. The general entrance isn’t all that sensitive and it won’t really accomplish much. I’m not saying to only stick to the clit…by all means, have a wander, especially in the beginning. But just don’t spend too much time trying to “tongue fuck” unless you’re Gene Simmons. 

I love it when my boyfriend hums on my pussy. No songs, just a hum. It feels like a vibrator while he is licking on my pussy 

My boyfriend wasn’t confident he was getting the right spot to start with, so we found it helped to place a CD over my vagina so the hole matched the position of the clitoris. That way he couldn’t go wrong. 

Some women like a consistent rhythm when getting eaten out. Don’t just dive in. Pay attention to where you are licking, how fast, and how your tongue is shaped when you do it. I personally find that a flat tongue against my clit at a steady pace (usually medium speed to start and gradually faster as I get closer to an orgasm) is most satisfying, especially if you are a beginner. 

There is nothing worse than a guy who finds a licking technique that the woman likes and then changes his speed or tongue position mid-lick because he is afraid she is getting bored. Really your girl is just going to get frustrated and it is going to be harder to make her cum. If she acts as if she likes what you are doing - STICK WITH IT!!! Don’t change your technique because your guy friends tell you that it is best to try a bunch of tricks all in the same session. Just pay attention to her! 

Focus on the clit! Guys usually just want to lick all over, but that’s never going to get the girl to orgasm anytime soon. Just focus on licking the clit in a solid motion or in circles, and then simultaneously finger her in her vagina. Do both of those at the same time, and she’ll be reaching orgasm and begging for more! 

I like when my man spreads my legs wide then takes both hands to hold my lips apart while he licks around my pussy, gently flicking my clit, slowly at first then faster and faster until I cum. It drives me wild. It really makes me feel like he is so into eating me out and that there’s no other place he’d rather be. 

We have something like 5 times the nerve endings as men do “down there.” So more pressure, more motion, etc., really isn’t more. It’s just distracting and/or painful. 

As a woman, the best thing I can say is, don’t just start going at it! It is uncomfortable and it helps if you set the mood first. Teasing and blowing really feels good. Let your mouth do the work, not your hands!

I love it when my man uses ice cubes. He gets a cup and fills it full of ice and then slowly pushes them in one by one. When they’re in, he starts to lick and kiss my clit, and once they’re melted a little, he’ll suck them out one by one. It’s an amazing combination of the two temperatures and gives me an amazing orgasm. 

Ask her what she wants! We are all different and like it different ways. What worked for your last lady might not be on the list for your next. I like a tongue soft and light on my clit until I tell you to suck it! WE will let you know what feels good. Just ask!

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