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people think they want someone like you, but they’re just infatuated with the idea of you. they haven’t even been preparing themselves to experience someone like you.
that’s how they fumble you.
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Cognitive Techniques To Change Your Thoughts ✨✨
Cognitive techniques are strategies used in cognitive therapy to help you identify and change negative thoughts and beliefs. These techniques should be practiced regularly so that they become habits.
Cognitive Restructuring: This involves identifying and challenging negative or irrational thoughts and replacing them with more positive or rational beliefs.
Thought Stopping: When you notice a negative thought entering your mind, you can mentally shout "Stop!" This interrupts the thought process and gives you a chance to replace the negative thought with a positive one.
Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. When you observe your thoughts without judgment, you gain insight into negative patterns and choose to let them go.
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help you process and analyze them. With time you can identify patterns and work on changing negative thought cycles.
Positive Affirmations: Repeating positive statements can help counteract negative self talk and reinforce positive beliefs about yourself.
Evidence Collection: When faced with a negative belief, ask yourself, "What evidence do I have that supports or refutes this thought?" This can help you see things in a more balanced way.
Decatastrophizing: If you tend to imagine the worst scenario, ask yourself how likely it is to happen and what other possible outcomes there might be. This can help you view situations more realistically.
Labeling: Instead of saying "I am a failure," label the thought as "a negative thought about my abilities."
Distraction: Engaging in an activity or hobby can divert your attention from negative thoughts and give your mind a break.
Scheduling Worry Time: Instead of ruminating on worries throughout the day, set aside a specific time to process them. This can prevent constant worry and allow you to focus on other tasks.
Challenging Cognitive Distortions: Recognize and challenge cognitive distortions like black-and-white thinking, overgeneralization, and personalization.
Visual Imagery: Visualize a place or situation where you feel calm and happy. This can help shift your focus from negative thoughts.
These are very simple descriptions and examples of cognitive techniques. I listed the ones we can put into practice on our own. There are more in depth methods and practices used by doctors on different fields of study and practice. I can list, as well as add upon the information listed here.
i get a lot of questions about this topic and I have decided to make a post about it so that you can understand it better and apply it.
how do i get organized? i organize myself with a to-do list, it's the simplest and easiest way for me but there are other ways, but today I'm going to focus only on this one. I use an app called "todoist" there are many more or even the option to write down what you have to do and your tasks in a notebook.
it is much better to write down what we are going to do the afternoon or the night before so that the next morning we can wake up knowing that we have a list of things we have to do already written down.
do not copy anyone's routine, it can serve as inspiration and motivation, but you have to create your own routine adapted to your current circumstances and even to the goals you want to achieve, this depends on each person.
in the mornings, i recommend that the first activities are the ones that are hardest for you to do, that is, if you don't like to exercise very much, start with that. we can also change our minds about it, look at the positive side of the activity and what it will benefit us, and then we will feel happy and proud of having completed it.
in the evening it is better to do quieter activities so that our body gets ready to rest. here you can do activities that are less heavy, for example, you can dedicate time to your body care or to reading.
If you have to do a heavier activity in the afternoon, like playing a sport because that is your schedule, that's fine. or if you have to study, i recommend that you use the pomodoro method because it includes breaks and this will help you to clear your mind.
i write down in my to-do list every day what i have to do tomorrow, that is to write the list for tomorrow, that will help to keep it.
if you find it hard to find the motivation, ask yourself why? what new activity would you like to include? include it and the fact that you have to do that will give you motivation. it is clear that sometimes we have to do things that we don't like or are more boring, but as i said before we can take the positive side. for example, if you have to clean why not do it by listening to a podcast or music? there is no one way to find motivation, i don't think you have to do anything specific, it's just a mentality towards life, towards how we see things. so if you are a person who finds it hard to find motivation, look for something that you like to do and that makes you get out of bed, because that is much more beneficial. it is important that we start to look more for ourselves and for what really benefits us, for the good that we are doing, I think that is enough motivation.
if you have many things to do in the day, it is not impossible to do them all, on the contrary, you just have to organize yourselves with this list and there is always room for everything! you always have 5 minutes to meditate, to do your skincare.
as i said, you can put the smaller tasks in between or at the end of the day.
this is just a guide and i hope it will help you to create a perfect routine and therefore your best version.
if you have more questions you can ask me of course!
Ohh but iPhone users do have this
hopefully they never take away the way you can drag the little post icons around the screen on the android app
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1. carry a plastic bag and pick up litter that you see 2. pay for the person behind you 3. put a cute anonymous note in a library book 4. send a kind anon ask to someone you’re following 5. tell your friends and family you love them 6. make cookies for your best friend 7. include someone who looks left out in a conversation 8. hug people tightly 9. say “thank you” to someone you appreciate 10. compliment your friend’s talents 11. have a checklist and challenge yourself to tick everything off 12. stand up, stretch, and drink a glass of water every hour 13. start jogging, don’t feel bad if you’re slow 14. wake up early so you have time for both hobbies and studying 15. look at things with your eyes more than you take photos 16. treat yourself how you would treat your best friend 17. learn how to bake a cake 18. give yourself some time alone 19. read a book 20. try a new hairstyle 21. learn a new language 22. look at things and appreciate their poetry and beauty 23. keep a journal for all the moments you want to remember 24. pay more attention to the good things than the bad things 25. have manners and don’t be aggressive or rude 26. if someone is rude, be the bigger person and walk away 27. but sugar-free chewing gum so you don’t have to give in to junk food cravings 28. write down your favourite quotes 29. if it’s raining, share your umbrella with someone who needs it 30. be nice to kids even if you dislike them 31. keep making your art, writing, and photography. keep doing things even if you think you suck 32. keep doing something you’re passionate about even though no one is being supportive 33. stop changing yourself to fit the standards of other people 34. plant a garden of fruits and flowers 35. stop sitting down so much and go out and see the world 36. be strong. don’t let people walk all over you 37. focus on your studying for 30 minutes and give yourself a 10 minute break 38. look at the moon and the stars 39. look at the clouds, sunrise and sunset 40. stop using your phone at dinner 41. have a bubble bath 42. message someone you haven’t talked to for a while 43. let go of toxic people who don’t deserve you 44. don’t be afraid to say that you were wrong 45. keep yourself busy so you stop overthinking so much 46. don’t assume things about someone you don’t know 47. say kind things behind someone’s back 48. be nice to others even if you feel angry, sad or bitter. it’s not their fault 49. remember that your emotions don’t have to rule your actions 50. stop caring so much about what other people might think 51. wear what you want 52. smile at a stranger 53. don’t worry. worrying about the future is useless. it will be a lot less scary than you imagined 54. stop not caring about important things. care about everything and everyone you love with all your heart. 55. stop checking your notifications every 2 minutes 56. don’t play mind games with people 57. make your resting face more happy 58. think happy thoughts even if it feels fake, and you will turn more positive 59. be confident. fake the confidence until you have natural confidence 60. make every morning a new beginning 61. try to understand people rather than be judgemental 62. educate yourself on societal issues 63. stop blaming other people for your own mistakes 64. swear less and don’t call people mean and derogatory terms 65. either learn or be inspired by everything you see 66. constantly find new ways to improve yourself 67. have little goals every day and feel great when you achieve them 68. your comfort zone is nice but don’t stay in it too much. be brave and try something new, even if you fail it’s not a failure 69. tidy your desk 70. watch all the best films 71. stop saying mean things to yourself 72. be happy for no reason 73. say hi to everyone you know 74. don’t dwell on your past 75. keep doing something you’re passionate about even if people criticise you 76. put your alarm away from your bed so you get out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off 77. let your emotions out, either by talking to someone or letting it out creatively 78. google everything you’re curious about 79. use a dictionary for words you don’t know 80. don’t feel sad about all the unanswerable questions 81. be kind to everyone, everything and yourself. 82. spread love and happiness constantly 83. help people who need it 84. don’t be afraid to cry 85. pick yourself up. you don’t need other people to save you 86. if you don’t have anything kind or constructive to say, don’t say it 87. breathe through your stomach, not your chest 88. sleep earlier!! 89. eat more fruits than chocolate 90. be there when your friend is sad, not just when everything is fine 91. make your bed every morning 92. observe everything and pay attention to what’s around you 93. quit any addictions you have 94. give more attention to all the great things 95. learn, accept your past, and move on 96. write things down to remember them 97. be proud of every little victory 98. be proud of who you are 99. remember that you’re loveable, important and worthy of happiness 100. don’t give up. you’re still young and you have a whole life ahead of you.
the first step, be clear about what your best version would look like. questions to ask yourself.
what would my best version look like?
what habits would i have?
what would my life be like?
what would be my morning and evening routine?
what thoughts would i have?
what would i focus on?
what thoughts and habits should i leave behind?
how would i like to feel?
and lastly…
what can i start doing to connect with this version of me?
you can also add your own questions if they resonate with you, the important thing about this exercise is that you connect a little bit more with that better version of yourself.
from my experience, it is important to focus and work on these three areas of our life at the same time so that none of these areas are out of balance and we can flow to that version more easily.
it is important because i have realized from my own experience and from other people who send me questions that they only focus on one area, in most cases, the habits, and forget others, then when something happens or we go through a bad moment we feel lost and it seems that everything is "wrong" but if we work on these areas at the same time and we nurture them day by day we will have more control of our emotions and thoughts, then we will not stagnate in "bad times". remember, we can always go through bad times but these always bring us a learning experience.
✨ physical
daily movement, create an exercise routine
eating healthy food, for the sake and perfect functioning of our body.
create a daily routine that will help us reach our goals.
healthy habits
hobbies that help us connect with our best self.
focus on the well-being of our body
✨ mental and emotional
read about personal growth, psychology, and topics that will help us to improve our personal best.
journaling
keep a daily record of our emotions, as well as our habits.
focus on what we do want rather than what we don't want
detect what our negative thought patterns are and change them for - more positive ones according to how we want to think and feel from now on.
affirm positively
work on those areas of our life that we need to improve or are damaged
✨ spiritual
healing and balancing both your feminine and masculine energies
develop your intuition
have faith in yourself and in the process of creation (god, universe, energy…)
read about spirituality
meditate day and night
doing energetic cleansing
connect with your spiritual side
love yourself for who you are now
forgive the people who hurt us and forget the past
practice gratitude
practice compassion and tolerance towards yourself and others
connect with nature
this is what i believe brings us closer to becoming our best version, as i am always learning new things about the subject and evolving both personally and spiritually so i will continue to share this in future posts.
as always all questions related to the topic are welcome and if you have any doubts you can also ask.
“If you can’t do great things, do small things in a great way.”
— Napoleon Hill