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56. Strangest/most unique place you’ve had sex? How about masturbated?

Terrace, office washroom, other people's bedroom, movie theatre,park

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Hotwifing is growing in popularity. 58% of men secretly admit they would like to share their wives. Imagine that! Half the men you know are into that and many of yours girlfriends are likely already doing it. A Hotwife is a married woman with permission to play but she makes the rules. Her husband must remain faithful. This lifestyle is a huge turn-on for many men. It’s not about jealousy and bi-curiosity. It’s about control. It’s about sharing the woman he loves, getting off on her enjoying other men, her being a personal porn star. Men who are into this kink tend to be hardworking, intelligent leaders. Alpha males, they are used to being boss with a take-charge personality and this lifestyle puts the control in the Hotwife’s hands. The more fun the hotwife has, the more her husband enjoys it.

It started for me when I found Hotwife porn on my hubby’s computer. I was shocked, offended. I thought he wanted to fuck other women. This was far from the truth. It took some time to realize he wanted to share me. It turned him on and he did not know how to tell me. Would I think he wanted to cheat if I did it? Would I think he’s bi? These are fears he had and it took some time for me to realize it was all about him being turned on by me being naughty and in control. It was all about me and him finding me attractive. Me being naughty makes him want me more. It’s brought us so much closer.

Most marriages get very boring in the bedroom. Hotwifing spices it up 100x. It’s important to focus on the physical aspect of sex with your dates and the emotional connection with sex with your hubby. The extra sex with other men isn’t the main focus, ITS THE RECLAIMING SEX WITH YOUR HUBBY. You just enjoyed a great, liberating experience and hubby gets you in the end every time. You’re going to be having a lot more sex and you will find yourself saying “can you do what X did to me?”.

Some of my list below ventures more on your hubby being more submissive. Others less so. If your hubby does not want to do the extra submissive ones, that’s ok. You might not either. It’s important to be respectful to hubby. Your date should always be respectful if your hubby is there for the encounter. He should never ridicule your hubby. That will ruin the experience. Depending on your relationship, you may say more submissive things like “what do you want him to do to me” or “is this what you wanted to see?”, or more dominant things like “watch how good he fucks me”, or engaging in more dominant activities that you will find below. Many couples are afraid to try the light dominant acts, but you might be surprised how much you’re both into it once you do.

Here are some tips, challenges, and dares!

Starting out:

1. Point out men you’d like to fuck. Tease the idea.

2. Tell your husband you know men who want to fuck you.

3. Flirt with men, even in front of your husband. Make it obvious you’re flirting. Even say something like “you and I should get together for drinks sometime. This is my hubby but he’s working tomorrow. How about we get together then?”

4. Tell men you’re married and need extra cock. A lot of men will fuck you harder knowing you’re married.

5. Talk about your exes. Especially sex with them.

6. Tell your husband you want to fuck other men during sex.

7. Tell your husband you won’t fuck him again until you fuck someone else.

8. During sex, make him admit you deserve more cock. Not just from him, but you deserve to be well fucked by other men, often.

9. Tell your husband of fun you’ve had with men while in bed. Be honest and tell him of occasions you’ve never told him. He WILL be turned on. I told mine of some past infidelity from years back and he was turned on.

10. Tell your husband you want to fuck your ex (and do it)

11. Tell your husband you want to feel another man fill your pussy with cum.

12. During foreplay, tell your husband you want to leave to go fuck someone you know. Have your husband take a pic of you to send to him right then.

13. Go to a hotel bar with your husband and flirt with guys. Try to get invited to his room.

14. Dance with guys and grind on them in front of your husband.

15. Have your husband tell a guy you’ve been flirting with that he wants him to fuck you.

16. Have drinks with your husband and a guy you want to fuck and tell the guy how you want to be fucked. Touch him, get close to him, guide his hands.

17. Get a guy’s number that you met with your hubby and secretly sext him in front of your hubby. Pro tip: Use the message app Kik.

18. Go on a girls night out and go home with a guy. Best if you have single friends. Make sure to dress slutty and have your husband watch you get ready. He’s hoping it turns into a late night.

19. Carry condoms in your purse and make sure your husband knows.

20. Sext other men and show your husband.

21. Have your husband take pics of you in your underwear for you to send to men.

22. Make a dating profile (Ashley Madison, Tinder, etc). This is a must do. Show hubby the guys you want to fuck.

23. Have your husband pay for lingerie your lover will enjoy. Say things like “Do you think he’d like to fuck me in this?”

24. Have your husband help you get ready for a solo date. Make sure to trim very well. Very little or no hair. Clean yet sooooo dirty :p

25. Go out and send updates and pics. Start clothed at a bar or restaurant with his hand on your hips or butt. Your hand on his crotch, etc. First kiss.

26. Go to his place and have your date send a pic of you bent over in your underwear. If it’s new underwear say something like “recognize the new panties you bought me? I found someone who will be the first to make them wet”

27. Send pics of his hand on your panties, rubbing your crotch. Suggestive pics. Don’t go full nude. Tease him.

28. Send pics of his face in your pussy.

28. Send a selfie with his dick in your mouth (very hot)

29. The pics stop as your hubby knows you are getting fucked.

30. Alternative: Live video or speakerphone your husband while you get fucked. Moan loud and beg for cock. Make sure to audibly tell your lover you are married and need to be fucked harder than your husband fucks you.

31. If you choose to send pics of the action, use low light. Tease him with it.

32. If no condom, scream for him to cum in your pussy.

33. If using a condom, use a new one each time you fuck and bring them all home to show your husband.

34. Tell your lover to make your panties soaking wet so you can show your husband.

35. Play with the idea of having your hubby eat your pussy after your date or kiss you after a blowjob. You might not think it, but when in the act both tend to find it very hot.

36. BONUS: Let your lover cum in your pussy and put your panties on immediately. Go home, lay on the bed, and spread your legs showing your husband your cum soaked panties.

37. Tell your husband every detail. You decide if your husband deserves a blow job, hand job, let him fuck you, or make him jerk off.

38. Make your husband use a condom to fuck you. Or don’t. Make him be your sloppy seconds.

39. MAKE HIM WATCH: It’s not going to be easy to find a guy who is okay with hubby watching. This is often best done if it’s someone you have been fucking so you and your lover are both comfortable. The three hottest moments of the first encounter hubby sees is watch your date slowly undress you, watching his cock enter you for the first time, and cum dripping out of you.

40. Introduce your lover: “Hubby, this is Mark. He knows how to fuck me and he’s going to show you how I like it.” Or “what do you want him to do to me?”

41. Have him sit outside the bedroom door and listen “Sorry, you can’t watch but we’ll let you listen”. Then make it loud!

42. Have hubby hold you while you get fucked.

43. Have your husband pull aside your panties while your lover eats your pussy.

44. Have your husband take off your panties for your lover.

45. Alternative: Make sure your panties are wet and put them on your husband’s head.

46. Or fuck with your panties on so they are wet and cum soaked. Visually, women look hot fucking with the panties pulled aside. Plus, you’ll get more cum in them for later tips.

47. Ride your lover’s cock so your hubby can see from behind. Great in video too.

48. Tell your husband he can’t touch himself. BONUS: strap him to a chair.

49. Look in your husband’s eyes as you’re fucked from behind.

50. Moan loud. Tell him how good you’re being fucked.

51. Wear your wedding ring and have your lover cum on it.

52. BONUS: Have your lover do something to you that your husband doesn’t: “Fuck my ass”, etc.

53. Have your hubby rent a hotel room and send him out for drinks when you have a “guest”. He’ll come back to you getting fucked.

***Other adventures:

54. Fuck several men. Make some more frequent but keep options. Fuck other men AT LEAST once a week. Your hubby will want to fuck you immediately, so be prepared for lots of sex.

55. Have your husband drive you to your lovers house.

56. Fuck your lover all night and call your husband to pick you up in the morning only to fuck your lover once more while he waits.

57. Kiss your lover as you leave and tell him you can’t wait to fuck again.

58. Tell your husband to thank your lover for fucking you.

59. Have your husband wait outside your lovers house while you fuck.

60. Tell your hubby to undress you for your lover.

61. Fuck your lover at home and leave your panties, a condom, or other memento on his side of the bed.

62. Fuck your lover on your wedding anniversary. Bonus if you’re wearing bridal lingerie. I planned this for a weekend getaway. My husband watched as I wore white panties that said “bride” on the back and white leggings for three rounds of fucking in our hotel room.

62. Fuck your lover on your husband’s side of the bed while he’s at work. Send pics and video.

63. Suck your lover’s cock and send a pic of the cum in your mouth to your husband.

64. Have your husband rent a room for you and your lover for the weekend. Count the number of times you cum and tell hubby. Must send pics!

65. Tell your husband he can’t fuck you until you’ve fucked X number of guys or X number of times.

66. Let your lover do things to you that you don’t do with your husband (cum in your ass, threesome with two guys). All the reason for private sessions without hubby.

67. Speaking of 3somes. Try two guys at once.

68. Wear panties with slutty messages (Return to Husband Full, Make a Mess My Hubby Will Clean It Up, Fuck Me Harder Than My Husband). Show this to men you’re flirting with in front of your hubby: Unzip and show message “what do you think of these?” I have some that say “my hubby won’t mind” at the top of the butt that I let guys see when in bars or a dance club.

***ADVANCED:

69. BIG BONUS AND VERY HOT. HE DOESN’T KNOW IT YET BUT THIS IS A BIG TURNON: When you come home with your panties full of cum, take them off, put on something sexy, and put the creamy panties on his head so your lover’s cum drips on him. Just do it. Nothing tells him you got well fucked like cum in your panties. VERY HOT.

70. Or…lay him on the ground while wearing the panties and rub your crotch on his face. Very very hot. He might just eat your pussy. I’m getting wet thinking about it.

71. Or…if using condoms, empty them in your panties and put them on his head.

72. When doing this, rub his cock and tell him how good you got fucked and tell him he needs to see and feel how good the cum was that was inside you. Tell him to feel your well used pussy.

73. When fucking in front of your hubby, make him wear your panties.

74. Blow your lover and swallow, but leave some on your lips. Tongue kiss your hubby.

***If your hubby REALLY deserves to be teased. You are in control and he WILL do what you say.

74. If your husband is watching, tell your lover to make a mess of your pussy because your husband will clean it up. Then sit on him when you’re done and let it leak all over him. His legs, chest, even his face.

75. BONUS: make him eat your pussy whether or not you used condoms. If you came home from a date, tell hubby to pull your panties aside and eat your pussy, especially if he cheated with X. Tell him how good you got fucked. Just tell him to do it and he will do it. YOU MAKE THE RULES.

76. Make a list of consequences. Checked a girl out: You get a Tinder date. Watched porn: you’re free to be a porn star with another man for the day. Flirted with a girl: You fuck five guys. One nighters, all weekend, your ex, someone you both know. Anyone you want and you make the rules. Even if he has to fly you somewhere to fuck someone all week. Updates and pics are required.

77. Spanking.

***Clearly there a humiliation factor that you both will get off to. Men knowing they are fucking his wife, you fucking men you both know. Maybe a friend knowing. Spanking (naughty boys deserve it). Your lover’s cum on hubby. Your lovers being told to show hubby how you like it. Have fun with this. It will make the experience stronger.

78. The hotwife 69. Get in the 69 position with your hubby but have your lover fuck you so your hubby has a great view just inches from your pussy.

79. ADVANCED: Strap-on play.

80. Wear a Hotwife anklet. Guaranteed to get attention of men in the know.

81. Have a friend spank your hubby. I have a friend who is a bit kinky and knows about our lifestyle. She felt my hubby needed punishment for flirting with a mutual friend years ago. I brought a guy home on girls night and she spanked my hubby, with my lovers belt, as I was getting fucked by my lover. I came out with the belt and handed it to her. After a while I came out with my soaking wet panties for him to wear and she sparked him. Of course you need a friend you can trust for this one.

***This Hotwife activity has brought us closer. We are more open sexually and satisfied. After all, I get many times more sex than ever. Sex with my husband is frequent. HAVE FUN!

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Approaching Your Partner...

This might be the tough part for most people…

You might know what you like, and know what sensations you want to try out. Perhaps you saw some porn that seemed really up your alley in all sorts of surprising ways. But none of that matters if you can’t bring it up with your partner and have it done to you!

Why are we afraid of approaching our partners, and why are we shy in a way that we normally wouldn’t be?

Because we are afraid of them judging us. Rather than attempt to convince you from this fear, I’ll just say this: they’ve seen you naked and know what your orgasm face looks like. They’ve already judged you and are still having sex with you. They know that people like different things and that vanilla missionary sex isn’t ideal for everyone.

If you’re with a good partner, you won’t be judged for wanting to try something new. They should actually encourage openness, expressiveness, and hearing your true feelings and preferences.

And that should run both ways. Remind thеm thаt уоu аrеn’t thеrе tо judgе thеm аnd you might even want to reveal something vulnerable about yourself to set the open and non-judgmental tone.

Thе bеѕt wау tо bring thе tорiс up is not in a rеhеаrѕеd fоrm, it iѕ bеѕt if it iѕ brоught uр inсidеntаllу and ѕоmеwhаt ѕроntаnеоuѕlу. Spontaneously as in mentioned in an offhand manner, not that you won’t have rehearsed it.

There is a big difference between: “Hey, sit down. We need to talk about something.” Versus a casual: “Hey, I just heard about this. What do you think?”

If you want to be slightly more indirect and feel safer doing this, you should concoct a story about the kink or spice that you want to introduce into your sex life.

“I just read about this kink… what do you think?”

or

“My friend just told me he did this… what do you think?”

Thаt way, you aren’t making a ѕuggеѕtiоn, уоu are ѕеtting it аѕ a probable venture, аnd уоu can gаugе thе reaction of уоur раrtnеr tо уоur ѕtоrу. Gently probe their reaction and see how open they might be to it.

When introducing your ideas, however you do it, the key is to not be aggressive or 100% excited and forward about it. This might make them feel forced to do it, even if they aren’t interested in it, if they see how strongly you want something. Don’t push too hard, because then it will cause one party to be happy and the other party be to silent and resentful.

That’s another reason why bringing it up spontaneously and not as a sit-down topic is better. Just put it out there and see how they feel about it without any pressure or expectation from you. The last thing you want your partner to feel is pressure or expectation. It’s uncomfortable and downright unsexy.

It’s also worth repeating that you hаvе tо сrеаtе a ѕаfе ѕрасе for them tо talk аbоut whаt thеу wаnt, givе them еnоugh timе tо think оn your ѕееming рrороѕаl, and рrоvidе thеm the best еnvirоnmеnt fоr their dесiѕiоn tо be mаdе in.

No pressure in any of those stages.

Then, givе thеm thе opportunity tо save fасе and let you (or themselves) down gracefully if they ultimately decide not to engage in what’s proposed. You want the decision to be 100% on them – but it’s a delicate balance because you’ve also implied that you have needs that aren’t being satisfied, so there must be some degree of compromise.

To make them feel invоlvеd and аррrесiаtеd, you can gо tо a ѕеx shop where a lоt оf products related tо sexual оr еrоtiс еntеrtаinmеnt - ѕuсh аѕ vibrаtоrѕ, lingerie, аnd оthеr rеlаtеd рrоduсtѕ - are рut on display аnd ѕоld.

Yоu can gо there tоgеthеr fоr fun and just see whаt thеу think about ѕuсh thingѕ. Again, you are gauging their reactions. A sex ѕhор makes аvаilаblе аll sorts of inanimate оbjесtѕ that can bring a willing human bеing intо the ѕеvеnth hеаvеn. Yоu should definitely bе рrоfiсiеnt in mаttеrѕ of sex ѕhорѕ аnd whаt thеу оffеr for members оf thе populace whо аrе соnсеrnеd with, аnd involved in, matters оf thе еrоtiс. It should be one of the first steps in your researching of kink and spice.

Another way to approach your partner is to show thеm a pornographic video thаt you hаvе fаllеn in lоvе with, serve as a bare-minimum соmmеntаtоr throughout thе durаtiоn of thе mоviе, раѕѕing соmmеntѕ and mаking sure they аrе аbѕоrbing it, ѕо the venture wоn’t be a waste. Dоn’t tаlk too muсh, do nоt bоrе thеm with уоur wоrdѕ, аnd dо nоt diѕtrасt them from whаt уоu want thеm tо ѕее. Sее whаt thеу have tо say with rеgаrdѕ to thе роrnоgrарhiс video you juѕt showed thеm. Show them and see if they are intrigued or at least open.

Onсе уоu аrе аblе to сrеаtе a safe space whеrе you can tаlk аbоut these mаttеrѕ, you ѕhоuld uѕе a ѕitе like mоjоuрgrаdе.соm, which lеtѕ уоu fill out fеtiѕhеѕ and kinks аnd mаtсhеѕ uр thе оnеѕ both you аnd уоur раrtnеr choose. More importantly, it does not list the fetishes and kinks that only one person has listed. Therefore, it is a completely safe way to say what you want because they won’t see what you’ve marked if they haven’t also marked it.

It’s something I recommend to all of my clients and I’m shocked something like this hadn’t been invented earlier!

Mojo Upgrade, and your own exploration, can help, but before you approach your partner, you should probably create two lists. The first is “HARD NO’S” – non-negotiables, not to be done under any circumstance. Everything else is negotiable depending on your partner’s needs.

The second list is desired outcomes – what is the exact act you want to introduce into your sex life? Make sure you know these things before going in to keep it as clear and productive as possible!

Thanks to Amber Cole - Spice it up!