my piece for the @gojogetozine :) thanks for having me! if you missed out their aftersales are open now .
I was mainly watching secret invasion because of Maria what the hell
No because I’m so fucking furious. Her death was so unnecessary and cruel.
Is it normal to have a paralyzing tic where your whole body goes limp it last a few seconds to a a few minutes and I'm conscious during it or should I search into it?
Why does this stupid dumb idiot keeps in triggering himself and suffering cause he's unable to daydream in public.
I am the idiot, and honestly what the hell am I doing .
The Mermaid and her Captain✨(ocs)
People who say Wanda enslaving a small town as a way to cope with grief are used to seeing women suffer instead of women getting angry.
This fetishism of tragedy, having to make sure a woman's emotional expression fits in with the traditional feminine narrative - crying, not screaming; hysterical but not violent - focusing on the victimhood instead of anger when it's righteous, is a product of internalised misogyny. Most of the time, women are societally conditioned to induce sympathy rather than show their strength.
What she did was wrong, on all levels. But was it an expected response to losing everything, for the, what, second, third time? Absolutely. Wanda deserves to experience anger in all it's ugly, hurtful blaze. She deserves to "punch a hole in the drywall" so to say, on par with her male counterparts. It doesn't make her actions right, but it offers some insight.
I doubt that was what Marvel was trying to show us, being a product of corporate moneymaking conveyor and all, but that's what I took personally.
Baymax in the new Baymax! show buying pads for a girl who got her first period and getting help from people, including a trans man.
Some people are really mad about this, when he is literally a health care robot interested in people's physical and emotional needs.
What are tics?
Tics are sudden, recurrent, and meaningless motor movements or vocalizations
Tics are either Simple or Complex.
Simple tics MOTOR (movement) tics: brief, meaningless movements, such as; eyes blinking, eye movements, grimacing, head jerks, or shoulder jerks.
Complex Motor Tics: slower, longer, more purposeful movements, rarely seen in the absence of motor tics. Ex) touching objects/people or oneself, dystonic movements, obscene gestures (copropraxia).
Simple Vocal Tics: sudden, meaningless sounds or noises Ex) barking, sniffing, throat clearing, grunting.
Complex Vocal Tics: includes utterance of syllables, words, phrases, or statements, odd patterns of speech, ecophenomenon, or obscene, inappropriate and suggestive statements (coprolalia).
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I'm sewerslidal but not in a "I constantly want to kms" but more of a "I won't avoid deadly situations but I'm nit looking for them either"
POSTING THIS AGAIN!!!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE BE CAREFUL OUT THERE!!!
I genuinely mean this, I hope all 5 of those Supreme Court members who voted Yes have to live their lives getting harassed and are extremely bothered till their last dying breath.
Bother them, make their lives miserable, make them not want to leave their homes.
If you support LGBTQ+, you must support:
Queer POC
People who change their labels
People who don’t use labels
Aspec people
Neurodivergent queer people
Disabled queer people
Queer women
Bisexuals and Pansexuals
Polyamorous relationships
Trans, enby, and gender fluid people
People in straight-passing relationships
Any and all people who identify as part of the queer community
When you're nervous about ticcing in public but being nervous makes your tics worse so you tic more which makes you more nervous and aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
the supreme court is run by nothing but ignorant, controlling cis men who don't care about the lives of women and i am so done
IDK who needs to hear this but using a trans person’s pronouns is a matter of safety.
If you're still learning them, practice. Put their pronouns with their contact in your phone. Work at it. Because if they get misgendered in front of strangers, they’re now forced to decide if its safe to correct you.
Choosing between your identity and safety is exhausting and disheartening. Lots of trans folks have to do it daily, and I promise it'll be a major relief to have one less person in their life who makes them go through that.
Reblog if you hate picrews with no dark skin options (yes even the ones where the shade of white is even a little darker, and yes ashy tones too bc there SUPER annoying, and the ones with no curly or protective hair like braids)
you are not attention seeking.
needing and wanting attention is valid and part of being human. even though there are better ways of getting the attention you desire, you are not wrong for wanting your needs fulfilled. wanting to be seen is valid. there is nothing wrong with needing attention.
i’m not doing bad enough to deserve or need help because i’m happy sometimes and i can usually function “normally”.
but i have cuts covering my arm and i’m eating badly.
but i shouldn’t be doing those things because i should be able to cope and i’m not doing that badly.
but i clearly can’t cope if i’m resulting to these negative coping mechanisms.
but i’m not like going to kms or anything.
but i wouldn’t be complaining if i didn’t wake up tomorrow.
stop invalidating people, start validating them!
use whatever the fuck terms you want!
use xenogenders, use microlabels, use neopronouns! who cares! it isnt hurting anyone.
so what if your gender/orientation/pronouns/whatever is weird or "cringe"? its yours! you can describe yourself however the fuck you want
(Anti xeno/anti neos/anti microlabels/anti mogai and other bigots dni.)
Clint could’ve jumped off vormir tbh. If you had to choose between THE BLACK WIDOW or Hawkeye to live I’m pretty sure a good 90% of us would’ve chose black widow. Hawkeye is my nigga and all but the team could’ve survived without him.
riddle me this
why is it when a new supernatural drama comes out every 2 minutes with straight white leads reviewers call it fun and sexy but when a new supernatural drama comes with a wlw plot line with a black non stereoytpical protagonist suddenly the trope is tired and boring?
im so fucking tired of this shit.
and im just gonna say this too:
if it was two white leads half the hot takes about “ poor representation of sapphic media” would be non existient cause not one thinkpiece i’ve seen has been groundbreaking
cis people just don't get it tbh
(edit: i added a watermark bc some of u cheeky fuckers like reposting art w/o credit ....)
Happy pride to people with neopronouns and xenogenders! Happy pride to mspec lesbians and gays, to people under the MOGAI banner! Happy pride to aces and aros! HAPPY PRIDE TO ALL QUEER FOLKS!!
Exclusionists can fuck right off <3
TW: I don’t talk about specific violent topics(just mainly say “i have violent daydreams”), but if you don’t want to read anything about the dark side of daydreams just go ahead and skip this one.
I’m feely kinda shitty and anxious, and to actually be a little more proactive this time I pushed myself to write this overdue post instead of daydreaming. I mean either way I’ll end up daydreaming before I go to bed…moving on.
A couple of weeks ago The Daydreamers was released. And it was a good dip-a-toe-in-the-water introduction about maladaptive daydreaming. Afterwards I read a few tumblr posts about it, and I remember there was one post where anon expressed their frustration with the doc presenting MaDDing as this escape to a happy wonderland. This is a criticism I’ve heard before, and one I’ve had myself.
When I first got involved in the MaDD community online I was frustrated to see -what appeared to me - MaDDers not taking it seriously. They were sharing art of their paras, paracosms, writing about their wonder fantasies, and posting memes. To me this came across as almost “lacking a depth”, I knew that humor is a coping mechanism, but I was upset that there seemed to be so so few posts with in depth dives into the negatives of MaDD. To me it looked like everyone else was peachy with it, while I withering with it’s burden. That’s why I started this blog, to create the content I wanted to see(no shame to those who rather post light hearted stuff).
To start off, I always dislike that the word “daydreaming” is included in the name of this condition, because “daydreaming” has a very “cute” and “innocuous” connation in our language. And to be frank, cute and innocuous are probably the last words I’d use to describe my daydreams.
My daydreams can contain incredibly dark, morbid, and violent things. There is a common theme of isolation, loneliness, being misunderstood, and martyr complexes. My parame suffering, all the while being criticized and hated by those around them. That’s a very common theme, being hated because I’m misunderstood and I am going through some struggle unbeknownst to those around me. I would best title it as “Look at how everyone misjudges and hates me, but I am really a good person whose made sacrifices for others but has been wronged many times but I refuse to open up about it because I am afraid and because I don’t think I deserve to seek help and I am socially anxious”.
And while there is this common underlying theme, it tends to manifest in disturbing and/or violent ways.
*by manifest I mean what the content of the paracosm is.
And if I were to be honest, alot and I mean alot of my paracosms are straight up depressing, and their frequency tends to increase in quantity and disturbance level the more unhappy I am in real life.
But why do I/we do it? My best answer is that it’s a way to live out and externalize negative emotions I/we struggle to express and explore in our actual lives. The daydreaming gives a filter, a “safe place” to externalize, feel, and express these bad feelings. I wonder too if it acts as a disconnecting mechanism, you can experience your emotions through the paras you created, that way you don’t have to feel them as your own emotions that have occurred due to your life circumstances. Can I say it’s bit like a disassociating mechanism? Personally for me I’ve always tended to feel invalidated in my negative feelings. I felt (and still do) that I did not/have not earned sadness. That its stupid for me to be upset so much by something when there are so many other people with so much worse, so I create a fictional world where my parame experiences traumatic events that then make me feel justified to express my negative emotions through my parame. Because obviously those negative emotions make sense in the context of my parame’s life, but my actual life? Absolutely not.
TBH, I was gonna write a few examples of these dark paracosms but I backed out because honestly I’m still too nervous and scared to share the details. Sure I’m anonymous on this platform, but I know once somethings out on the internet it stays there forever. And I am afraid of the wrong people finding my post detailing my horrific daydreams and then somehow finding out who I am and they think i’m fucked up and so on….So this is all for now. These thoughts are from my personal experiences and I don’t speak for every MaDDer.
It's the best way to spend your time when you're alone with your own thoughts!
It has a lot of amazing benefits, including!:
Wasting between a quarter and a half of your day daydreaming instead of doing useful stuff!
Pacing around your room like a caged animal until you feel dizzy and your legs hurt!
Jumping, running or doing sudden movements in the most intense moments that can lead to you accidentally hurting yourself in the furniture from running straight into it!
Making the same faces as the characters to visualize them better in your head!
Daydreaming in public, including the weird movements and faces, and hoping nobody saw you!
Making yourself happy, sad, angry or panicked just by daydreaming something as vividly as possible!
Dropping whatever you were doing just to daydream! Washing yourself? Doing your homework? Paying attention in class? Drawing? No!! Your daydream is more important!!
Imagining yourself as the-nobody-who-turned-into-a-hero-and-is-admired-by-everyone because no one cares about you irl!
Having multiple storylines with the same characters and alternating between them while you try to find the best one to keep!
Stopping the fictional daydream you've worked for almost half of your life just because a furry anime that came out recently has almost the same plot as your daydreams, and feeling like you're stealing their idea!
Switching your daydreams from a fictional world with fictional characters to using real life people!
Daydreaming about situations that have a close to zero chance of happening, and obsessing over them happening!
And if they can happen irl, daydreaming about them until you actually do them!!
Daydreaming about people you'll never meet, and I don't mean only celebrities!
Obsessively daydreaming about said people as a coping mechanism that you'll never meet them in real life!!
Slightly altering your daydream after you find something new about those people, which conflicts with the current storyline!
Having dramatic daydreams about what someone might say and what you'll answer and how you'll feel, only to get an underwhelming answer irl!
Imagining THE worst scenario if something bad happens to someone and you know about it only vaguely, and seeing it so clearly in your head that you panic because you don't know what's actually happening to them irl!
Taking the "thinking about what you could've said in an argument" to the next level and preparing yourself in case one happens based on vague hints that it might happen!
Daydreaming so much about an idea and for a longer period of time, "waking up" and being sad that the daydream wasn't real even though you knew it wasn't real from the get-go!
And this is only my experience! Yours could be completely different! Maybe even better than mine!!
Experts recommend starting it as early as possible, preferably in kindergarten!! So you can daydream for as long as this short life allows you!!
Soon enough you won't want to live in this boring "real" life anymore!