As A Younger Trans Dude, This Lowkey Made My Cry Just A Bit. Seeing An Older Trans Guy, Who’s Happy

I’m so happy that even if I never come out to my family or even if they end up not accepting me, I’ll have a friend group of mostly queer people who will do all that shit with me

(kinda tearing up rn ngl)

Unfriendly reminder that while you're busy mourning the loss of your childs old gender, claiming you need to mourn the death of your son/daughter, there's a group of boys/girls/enbies scrambling to take your kid clothes shopping, snatching up the chance to take those "first" experiences from you forever. Your sons first fishing trip is gonna be with his best bros, your daughters first makeover is going to be with her girl friends, your kids first camping trip out as themselves is gonna be with the besties. Good luck getting those bonding experiences back. While you're busy trying to guilt-trip your kid with your weird manufactured parental trauma, there's a whole community ready to take your place as the better family.

Your loss, someone elses gain.

That’s exactly what I thought about his speech as well!

I mean, Jayce was literally straight up telling Viktor that he was always beautiful to him. With all of his different sides, problems and quirks. Including his disability. Differently than Viktor, I think it’s pretty clear that he never saw Viktor’s disability as anything that made him “lesser” than anyone else. Sure, he wanted to help Viktor “fix” his illness so he could like, LIVE. But he never wanted to turn Viktor into someone non-disabled, he didn’t see the need for it, because Viktor’s disability is simply a part of him, not a problem to “fix” and forget about. Jayce’s entire speech is pretty much a rejection of that the idea of perfection that Viktor seemingly carried with himself for years.

Pretty much “You don’t need to be perfect to be lovable, you don’t need to be perfect for me to love you. Because if you were perfect, you wouldn’t be YOU.”

I don’t often make my own posts, but I’ve been going a little insane about some of the posts I’ve been seeing about Jayce’s speech to Viktor in the finale.

So many people are like “um, Viktor had a terminal illness, how can Jayce tell him he was never broken??? He was DYING??”

And like, yeah. He was. But this isn’t Jayce ignoring that.

He’s acknowledging it by telling Viktor: You aren’t defined by your illness. You might have felt like you were lesser, or broken, or imperfect because of it, but I need you to know that you’re worth just as much as anyone else. And I understand everything you’ve done, because you’ve been hurting. And I love you anyway.

He’s not saying “your illness didn’t matter”. He’s saying “just because you were disabled doesn’t mean you’re worth less”.

I thought it was actually a really beautiful way of tackling the way that people who are disabled or chronically ill are viewed by others, or even by themselves: either defined entirely by their disability/illness, or considered lesser. Or how disabled/ill people are only allowed to be happy and inspirational messages that people can do anything, or they have to be sad figures incapable of anything and only deserving of pity. And this is Jayce saying no, that isn’t all you are. He’s showing Viktor that he sees all of the complexity, and the hurt, and he sees ALL of who Viktor is.

Anyway, I’m tired, and this isn’t all articulated perfectly, but I wanted to throw it out there.

that would’ve been the point at which I would’ve said “oh fuck me”

just saying..

“the ways you have learned to survive may not be the ways you wish to continue to live“

oh my god I really needed that

“All of a sudden two decades have passed and you still have not kissed anyone with tongue, or kissed anyone at all for that matter, or had a 3 AM conversation with someone who would rather look into your eyes for ten minutes straight than talk. You have never worn a lover’s sweater or “forgotten” it at home in your bedroom just so you would have an excuse to see them again. You have never even stood face-to-face with someone who makes your hands shake so hard it feels like they’re both having a separate anxiety attack. This causes you much guilt and self-blame and sadness but above all, an overwhelming curiosity. Are you really that ugly, that unwanted, that uninteresting, that boring, that no one, absolutely no one, has ever looked at you like the only thing on earth? The answer is no. The better answer is that someone out there, somewhere in the world, is “wondering what it’s like to meet someone like you,” and they have two decades worth of love stored in their veins like a shoot-‘em-up drug, and they’re just about ready to inject it into someone else’s bloodstream. All you have to do is roll up your sleeves and wait for it to happen. At times you felt so lonely you could stand at the edge of a cliff with nothing beneath you but air and grass and a long, long way down, and you’d still feel emptier than that canyon itself. Maybe you even danced with yourself alone in your room a few times, arms outstretched around a ghost, pretending someone else’s hands were on your waist, someone else’s eyes boring into yours. Or maybe you fell temporarily in love with strangers on public transportation, fell in love with anybody who so much as accidentally brushed your hand on the way past. For you, falling in love with dozens of people a day was a coping mechanism for not having anyone to love you in return. But people are not eggs and falling in love with a dozen of them does not mean your shell will remain uncracked. One day you’re going to hit the point where you’re so desperate for human contact that you’re going to snap in half and all your love will bleed out like egg yolk. But someone out there is eating a bowl of Ramen noodles right now, or putting on slippers, or settling into bed. They are doing all the normal things that you’ve done in your own life. They are just like you. They have cellulite and extra fat in all the wrong places and goals and fears and doubts and bad handwriting. The truth is that they are just like you, and being just like you, they’re looking for a lover too. They’re what you might call a soulmate. They think they’re all alone in feeling the way they do, but you’re really both two halves of a whole. And one day you’ll meet them, bump into them on the street, and your two halves will be put together, and you’ll make one.”

— Writings For Winter - For Twenty Year-Olds who have never been loved  (via beepboopboopbeep)

Omg thank you for finally saying it!!! I‘m kinda in the midst of finding out that I might be trans ftm and use both they/them and he/him pronouns. X female reader fanfics make me feel so uncomfortable and dysphoric and I just hate it when people tag stuff as gender neutral and then continue to sprinkle in wayyy too many things that make it clear that they have a female reader in mind when writing it, like CMON ._.

Gender neutral MEANS gender NEUTRAL not female with extra steps ._.

okkk I'm just askinggg why do ppl who strictly use she/her get so mad when males make xmale reader ffcs....LIKE YOU HAVE YOUR OWN WHY ARE YOU COMPLAINING!!!

"Oh theres not enough female fics, and blah blah blah."

OK so if you follow my blog, (which is not much like at all-) you know that I go by they/him will read both mxm and mxn.b

I've seen this shit before like when females decide NOT to follow the rules of she/her she/they WOMAN DNI and just continue to read it like they don't check.

And then they start to ask why they get Blocked like hmmm I didn't follow the rules of someones post why did I get blocked??

So dude just follow ppls rules so we can avoid drama, if you wanna read it you have to be the right gender then, read whats for you, cuz if you dont specify the gender for sure so many females will pop up.

ALSO STOP PUTTING TITTIES OR PUSSY FOR GN SHIT.

Like they may either be afab or amab but not all ppl are happy to see the words princess, queen, or baby girl when it says gn.

PUT THE RIGHT GENDER OR PUT AFAB GN ITS NOT THAT HARD TO FIX YOUR DAMN TAGS!!!

...thats all♡♡

let’s goooo🔥🔥

if I was a fanfic tag

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