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Here’s a wild domino affect from my life.

[ID: A four panel meme. In the first panel, Toothless, labelled “you coming out”, spreads his wings to try to impress the light fury. In the second panel, the light fury, labelled “the people you’re coming out to who haven’t heard of your identity”, looks at Toothless weirdly. In the third panel, Hiccup, labelled “me”, gives Toothless a thumbs up. In the fourth panel meme, the light fury, now labelled “the people you’re coming out to once you explain your identity”, looks at Toothless and smiles. End ID]

TERFs, Biphobes and Acephobes

Although they differ in levels of intensity (TERFS being more organized with more or a long history of violence) when you look at their theories and behavior TERFs, biphobes and acephobes have a lot in common. 

“I face all the oppression ever”. They all have a very simplistic image of how oppression based on gender or sexuality works and deny the possibility that it is possible for sexuality to be multifaceted in which one aspect of your sexuality is cause for one form oppression while another aspect of your sexuality means that you do not have to deal with another form or oppression. The ‘I can not have cis privilege because I’m a woman and I’m already oppressed for my gender’ and ‘I can not have monosexual or allosexual privilege because I am gay and I’m already oppressed for my sexuality’ is pretty much the same shit. 

“You have all the privilege” As a counter attack they all state that the identity of the people they have (bi folk, ace folk, trans folk) is not real and that thus the real identity of those people is a very privileged one. They ignore the experiences of actual bi, ace and trans people and make up a fictional narrative in which trans women have male privilege and bi and ace people have heterosexual privilege regardless of the constant stories by the people themselves about the shit they face for being bi, trans and/or ace. 

“I am more oppressed therefore I am right” They believe in an oppression olympics in which having the most oppression points makes you right. As a result they believe that if they can just convince people that they are more oppressed than the people they’re fighting, that status of most-oppressed with magically make all their writing true and all their bullying justified. 

“Individual trauma justifies my violence against whole groups” They all use individual  real or fake stories of violence (preferably sexual violence) to prove that all bisexuals/aces/transwomen are horrible people. They believe these individual stories justify their violence against whole groups and they use the emotional weight of the story to avoid being held accountable for their shitty opinions. So they’ll go “A … raped me once so all … are horrible” and they will throw a huge tantrum if you dispute the second part of that statement, claiming that you disputed the entire statement. 

“We were safe before you came in here” They believe in a magical perfect concept of the ‘safe space’, be it a womens space or an lgbt space, in which violence does not exist until the dangerous enemy enters. This of course overlooks the fact that most of us already real with racism, ableism, islamophobia, fatphobia, etc in these so-called ‘safe spaces’ and they were only ever truly safe for abled, thin white people. 

“Solidarity is a commodity of which supplies are limited”  They see a group asking for safety within an existing movement (a movement they were already always part of but were exiled from in the past) and they get defensive, instead of seeing an opportunity to extend solidarity. They pretend that when we include new people into our struggles, something is lost, as if our movement is a finite territory. They speak about ‘stolen terminology’ and ‘invaded spaces’ when in reality nothing was lost and all that happened was that one more group now has a place where they feel safe and words that help to describe the oppression they face. 

This is a first look into how these three groups often use pretty much the same tactics to justify being shitty bigots. There might be more similarities and there are obviously differences too, but I think these similarities are worth talking about. 

There are other aspects, like purposely misreading posts, that I think are not so much a feature of these 3 groups put more a feature of anyone trying to defend a hateful bigoted view at all cost. 

[ ID: Two versions of the same image: tiny arc shapes layered with a black circle in the middle and a quote in the middle with light text that reads, “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive. - Audre Lorde”  The top image has purple and grey (like the ace flag) arcs; the bottom image has light green and darker green (like the aro flag) arcs. ]

So, I finally made compiled my full kin list and here are my observations:

1. Wow I’m a piece of shit aren’t I?

2. It’s the family issues for me, man.

3. ✨Trauma✨

4. No seriously, I’m such a red flag. 😭😭😭

5. They all have nice hair though.

6. I know most of them are total shitbags, but they’re my emotional support shitbags.

Feel free to judge me as much as you’d like.

Maybe this is anecdotal but I know a fair amount of aces and literally none of them are cis and het. Cis and het aces/aros are rad and valid of course! But the fact that I don't know any, yet one of the major exclu talking points is about cishet invaders, is so suspicious. I know 1 cis ace and she's a lesbian, the rest I know are all trans + nb and none of them are het either. The one aro I know is also a lesbian and nonbinary (frat boy stawman argument destroyer lol)!

I think one survey said only 1-3% of aces are cis and hetromantic. They matter and I will go to bat for any, but it’s definitely using a minority of a minority agaisnt the whole.

i do feel that pasta is all that will carry me through adulthood

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No offense but where are the male porn bots

If you were to vacuum up jello through a metal tube, well I think that’d be a neat noise