About To Come Out As A Boy To My Dad

The fearmongering around medical transition for transmascs will never not be upsetting to me.

“you’re gonna look ugly as a man” “but you’re such a pretty girl, don’t change that” Wrong. You will look different after T, but you will look happy. You will probably grow hair and gain weight and look pretty different, and none of that is bad or makes you less desirable. You are going to look like you and that’s all that matters.

“T makes you angry” “you’re gonna be a scary man i won’t feel safe around you” Wrong. Testosterone does not “make” you angry. Messing with your hormones will mess with your emotions for sure, but you will not immediately become some scary predator when you start T. Being a man/masculine does not make you a threat, a predator, or inherently angry. That’s radfem shit.

“bottom growth is gross” “no one will want you with bottom growth” Wrong. Bottom growth is cool and a LOT of guys end up loving theirs a lot more than they thought they would. For a lot of people it is a desirable trait, there are people who find bottom growth hot and attractive. And! If you’re sure you don’t want it there’s things you can do to work around that, just talk to your provider.

“bottom surgery is super painful and not worth it” First off, call it phalloplasty, because that’s what you’re talking about. Second, yes it’s painful, it’s surgery. There are risks to it and complications can happen, but that’s true of any surgery. Phallo might not be for you, but it is life saving care for other folks. It is beautiful and should be talked about as life saving care and not as some afterthought thing that no one actually does.

Being transmasculine is a beautiful thing. Transitioning medically is not something every trans person wants, but if you notice yourself holding back for the reasons i’ve listed above (or similar) maybe reconsider.

I gotta know if anyone who has a vertical labret also has trouble finding jewelry!

Like everything online is for eyebrows which are too curved for the vertical labret and there aren't any pericing shops near me😩

Where do yall get the fun jewelry ????

I tried my hand at drawing hands ;) i don't think it turned out bad

(Sorry for the bad lighting)

Any transmascs that used to play girlgames.com when they were kids?

Wizards are the leading cause for pregnancy

You ever look into the mirror and go ew

Cause honestly me all the time

I just see something that's not me, not ever going to be me. I know I'm never going to like that image in thr mirror until my chest is flat, I'm taller, I'm more muscular, I have facial hair, and I have a less feminine physique.

I don't think any of this is going to happen, so I don't think I'll ever like how I look.

I know everyone who ever sees me will see me as a girl. I see it in strangers when they talk to me. I see it when my family talks about me to others. I see it when friends accidentally misgender me. Like, I know they're trying, and they accept me, but it hurts to know they still unconsciously see me that way.

Idk

Do any other fem transmen get weird about their leg hair? Like i love to dress feminine with skirts and dresses, and I feel like I should shave my legs to make it look right. I know that's not true, and body hair is neither masculine nor feminine, and it's natural. I also have no desire to shave my legs because I would feel dysphoric.

No one is telling me to shave or anything, but I think after living as a girl for so long in a society that pushes a hairless beauty standard, I always feel like I should shave or trim my body hair.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I have a top surgery consult on Monday!

YIPPEE

and

YAHOO

the statements "clothes don't have gender" and "clothes can and do invoke gender dysphoria and euphoria for many people" can and should coexist.